Emperor1956
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FR: Actually the interesting part of this thread is (to Me at least) the issue of money. (I admire all of you who were able to read through the OP's profile. I couldn't. I love baby girls. But I'll pass on inarticulate baby-talking cutesy women who think bad grammar and sounding like Baby Ugguams is cute.)
In establishing a relationship, I think it has to be "each pays his/her own way". I wouldn't pay for a girl to come meet Me, and I wouldn't respond well to her demand that I do so. Which is odd, because I'm sure I've spent more on dances and bad champagne in an evening at a strip club than it would cost to fly in the OP and give her her rental car and gas. So why does paying for her trip seem squickish, while dropping a couple of hundred on a pneumatic high-heeled dancer seems ok, if a bit silly? It seems to me that the issue is uncertain expectations: when a man spends a few hundred dollars on a girl who is coming to visit with a potential sexual relationship in mind, it colors the expectations on both sides. At a strip club, the guy knows EXACTLY what he's gonna get (unless he's a moron). And when a guy hires an "escort" he knows EXACTLY what he's gonna get. The grey area are all those encounters inbetween.
Money is power. Real power. So it comes as no surprise that money plays out in power-sharing relationships. In a relationship, I usually pay for things when I'm with my baby. Our ages and relative wealth dynamic (that means I'm a lot older and a lot richer than she is) dictate that I'll be the one reaching for the check. On the other hand, she doesn't expect that I treat her all the time. And she goes out of her way to make things less costly when she can (case in point, if we are spending an afternoon at some little hideaway, she'll pack a lunch knowing I'll pay for the room, and such. She both likes the service aspect, and likes to "provide".)
I travel a lot, and I like my girl to be with Me. I'll provide the room, board, amenities, etc. The one area I tend to draw the line is the airfare. For one thing, booking airfare can be tricky and I don't like her name showing up on my company cards, even tho I pay the bills. For another, it seems like that expense is not unreasonable. Yet I'll break that "rule" if I have to, because I want her company. And a $400 ticket is a lot dearer to her than to Me, usually. Do I want to be with her? Yes. Is the "cost" of that her plane ticket? So be it. Do I expect sex (and all the delicious things we do to/with eachother) as part of the trip? Well, of course but not because I paid her way. The dynamics of the relationship were already set, the money is an incidental.
Two asides: Maybe I'm the first to ever tell any of you this, but guys who have money still love to be treated once in a while. Really. I don't care if its me, or Warren Buffett. Any man with a lot of dough still loves the feeling of being pampered just a bit when she says "oh honey, let me take YOU out to lunch this time". Trust me, ladies. It works.
Second: I have a "no sex" rule on first meeting. Usually I stick to it. Occasionally the flesh is stronger than the will. And lronitulstahp, you could break any guy's will *GRIN*
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