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Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 11:42:19 AM   
CelticPrince


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Status: offline 		It is of course established that the D/s path abounds with the power and erotic factors; but have you ever taken the time to ponder if there is real intimacy involved in the relationship? A relationship can indeed be satisfying to most if the power and eroticism is present but how about intimacy?  That fragile emotion that allows you to really revel in what you have in the relationship; the sharing without a concern your most private thoughts.

Do you have it in your relationship? Is it needed in your view?

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 11:51:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes we have it within our relationship.  Yes we both decided we 'needed' it in our relationships, which is why we were compatable.  But no - not everyone needs intimacy in a d/s relationship for it to work.  It just doesn;t do it for some people.  But it does it for us.
 
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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 11:54:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes I have it in all my relationships and I really would not be involved with a woman that I could not be intimate with. For me personaly the D/S aspects of a reltionship highten it in the sense that I can more easily pull on there heart strings so to speak and am able to force my way past all of a subs bullshit and get to the core of the person. I seek to own the woman body and soul and use her body as a means of doing that.... if I could be described as a male whore then it is definatly a whore of souls.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 11:54:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		This intimacy is the deepest I've ever known, but I don't judge it for others.  Do others need it in their relationship...unknown.  I know only my universe, and in my universe, our intimacy is imperative.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 12:01:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is important to me and the reason I don't have the other two.  I can have both the power and erotic stuff... but I am greedy and want it all and intimacy is a must.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 12:13:55 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Girl agrees with Lockit,
Intimacy is a must, there is just something about the emotions that are shared and not just one-sided that makes me come away and my mistress feeling invigorated, rather than being just fulfilled.
Mistress here knows when girl aches for it but since relationship is non-sexual, girl has learned that mistress' touch is enough that girl knows it is an intimate moment when it is just mistress and her pet.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 12:15:34 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Always loved this understanding of intimacy "Into me you see".

Always loved this saying " Not two but one"

Always thought when two people come together intimately the relationship that is formed make both people greater than what they were alone.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:16:13 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Yes we have it within our relationship.  Yes we both decided we 'needed' it in our relationships, which is why we were compatable.  But no - not everyone needs intimacy in a d/s relationship for it to work.  It just doesn;t do it for some people.  But it does it for us.
 
the.dark.

 
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I could not have said ti better!
 
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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:18:24 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: FRSguy

Yes I have it in all my relationships and I really would not be involved with a woman that I could not be intimate with. For me personaly the D/S aspects of a reltionship highten it in the sense that I can more easily pull on there heart strings so to speak and am able to force my way past all of a subs bullshit and get to the core of the person. I seek to own the woman body and soul and use her body as a means of doing that.... if I could be described as a male whore then it is definatly a whore of souls.


FRS,

hmmmmmmmmm  a whore of souls??????????

CP

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:20:20 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: StormsSlave

This intimacy is the deepest I've ever known, but I don't judge it for others.  Do others need it in their relationship...unknown.  I know only my universe, and in my universe, our intimacy is imperative.


Slave,

I do undertstand / thanks for your thoughts.

CP

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:22:32 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

It is important to me and the reason I don't have the other two.  I can have both the power and erotic stuff... but I am greedy and want it all and intimacy is a must.


Lockit,

Surely in this vast world of CM males that the three can be found!

CP

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:25:06 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: Aszhrae

Girl agrees with Lockit,
Intimacy is a must, there is just something about the emotions that are shared and not just one-sided that makes me come away and my mistress feeling invigorated, rather than being just fulfilled.
Mistress here knows when girl aches for it but since relationship is non-sexual, girl has learned that mistress' touch is enough that girl knows it is an intimate moment when it is just mistress and her pet.



Aszhrae,,

That unspoken word as you feel the touch////////// indeed so!

CP

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:27:05 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: slavejali

Always loved this understanding of intimacy "Into me you see".

Always loved this saying " Not two but one"

Always thought when two people come together intimately the relationship that is formed make both people greater than what they were alone.


slavejali,

I agree, those quotes are much deeper than one might expect.

CP

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:31:42 PM   
sultryone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavejali

Always loved this understanding of intimacy "Into me you see".

Always loved this saying " Not two but one"

Always thought when two people come together intimately the relationship that is formed make both people greater than what they were alone.


Love that!  And yes, intimacy is important to me too. I would like a relationship where the pendulum swings equally both ways.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:38:30 PM   
porcelain26


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Status: offline 		I think intimacy means different things for different people. For some, that power and erotic exchange IS intimacy. For others, it's the mental and emotional connection. For me, it's sort of all of the above. The intimacy I share with my Owner is, in my estimation, very rare and precious. I don't hide anything from Him, I have no need to. He knows every part of me, from the blackest depth of my soul, to the most brilliant light of my mind...that to me is extremely intimate, and not something that I give to others.

However, I've also felt intimacy with my play partners. Not to the extent that I do with my Owner, but it's still there. Those quite, unspoken moments when it's just a look or a touch that makes you feel like your soul has been caressed.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:47:20 PM   
SimplyMichael


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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

That fragile emotion that allows you to really revel in what you have in the relationship; the sharing without a concern your most private thoughts.
  I will never again involve myself in a relationship that lacks that level of intimacy.  Having now experienced it, I could never go back to that. 

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 1:49:53 PM   
WalterRego


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Status: offline 		There's the "standard" kink, power and eroticism we all easily talk about and reveal at the drop of a hat (or whip).

But I can't imagine revealing  some of the deeper needs and kinks I have, to the degree I have, without there being intimacy. And I can't imagine wanting to learn and satisfy Hers as completely and shamelessly as I want to do, without that intimacy either.  

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 2:11:53 PM   
hejira92


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Status: offline 		Relationships come in all sizes and colors- same for D/s relationships. I do not hold that D/s relationships are inherently more intimate than others, just that for Master and myself, we have both found and achieved a level of intimacy in our D/s relationship we both had never imagined to be possible in the real world.  
 
And since He always reminds me that this is the last relationship either of us will ever have, yes, I do need emotional intimacy with my power exchange.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 2:20:27 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I don't think intimacy is an emotion, fragile or otherwise .......but yes, we have a deeply intimate relationship.

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RE: Intimacy and D/s - 12/17/2008 2:24:41 PM   
E2Sweet


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Status: offline 		Intimacy (both emotional and physical) is something I really would like to experience again. (I mean who wouldn't?) Its my Holy Grail I suppose. I've learned that, for me, a relationship without it is quite simply not fulfilling, and also I've come to realize carrying burdensome secrets is a huge obstacle in actually achieving real intimacy with someone I care about. Its a shame it took me much of my 20s to discover those fairly simple personal truths.

Edited for shockingly poor grammar


< Message edited by E2Sweet -- 12/17/2008 2:27:04 PM >

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