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sex object - 12/21/2008 9:19:59 AM   
sobayblackmaster


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Status: offline 		with all I see in here regarding relationships many seem inclined to want something more than what could be conceived as superficial. is it wrong to expect that the other person in one's relationship be available to be treated as a sex object?
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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 9:36:10 AM   
utopicus


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Status: offline 		If "the other person in one's relationship"is the Dominant, probably not. Of course you meant that the other one is the sub.
Nothing is wrong so long it's been communicated and agreed upon between the two of you. It would be probably better not to assume anything but to test the waters beforehand.

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 9:37:58 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		And don't be offended if others idea's of fun isn't being a sex object. Just politely go on your way with graciousness.

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 9:40:05 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		I'm sure there are those who are just looking for no strings sex without any emotional attachment.   Just as there are those of us who want the whole shooting match.

You've just got to keep looking, and hopefully you'll find what you're looking for.

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 9:40:22 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		Woohoo!  i love being Sir's sex object and see absolutely nothing wrong with it whatsoever!

gabrielle x

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 9:40:27 AM   
celticlord2112


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is it wrong to expect that the other person in one's relationship be available to be treated as a sex object?

Yep.  It's very wrong.  Unpardonably wrong, in fact.

For some, that's all the reason they need to do it.


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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 9:58:27 AM   
sobayblackmaster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

quote:

is it wrong to expect that the other person in one's relationship be available to be treated as a sex object?

Yep.  It's very wrong.  Unpardonably wrong, in fact.

For some, that's all the reason they need to do it.



why do you believe this?not to put you on the spot m'man, but I'm curious how you draw that conclusion.


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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:11:50 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: sobayblackmaster
with all I see in here regarding relationships many seem inclined to want something more than what could be conceived as superficial. is it wrong to expect that the other person in one's relationship be available to be treated as a sex object?

It is wrong when there is no understanding of such expectation.  Otherwise, it's fine.

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:14:55 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		I would certainly hope that my partner sees me as a sex object.. as well as his partner, friend, etc

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:20:44 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		WAAAHHH!!!! I wanna be a sex object too!!

Sob...

Not that I'm jealous or anything...

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:23:00 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		*objectifies myo in a sexual way*

(happy now? LOL)

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:24:58 AM   
myotherself


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it's a start....

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:30:30 AM   
Raechard


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
I would certainly hope that my partner sees me as a sex object.. as well as his partner, friend, etc


MsGreedy you want your partners partner and his friend to see you as a sex object?
 
I'm shocked.

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:47:41 AM   
sobayblackmaster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: sobayblackmaster
with all I see in here regarding relationships many seem inclined to want something more than what could be conceived as superficial. is it wrong to expect that the other person in one's relationship be available to be treated as a sex object?

It is wrong when there is no understanding of such expectation.  Otherwise, it's fine.


how 'bout if I refine the question. is it reasonable for sex objectification to be a component of a BDSM (or vanilla for that matter) relationship?

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:55:09 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Yes, but would you of been happy at being approached as a sex object in the very first email or very first contact.

That's kind of what people are saying, nothing wrong if you like it but don't approache people as sex objects and sex objects alone, and expect good results.  Find out if they'd like that or be open to that and THEN broach the whole sex object thing.
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ORIGINAL: GabrielleSlave

Woohoo!  i love being Sir's sex object and see absolutely nothing wrong with it whatsoever!

gabrielle x

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:55:17 AM   
Raechard


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Status: offline 		I'd say it's reasonable for Bill Gatification to be a part of BDSM if that's your kink, but let's throw this one out there to the floor...

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 10:57:09 AM   
CatdeMedici


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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 11:14:00 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		My reply is still the same as before.

No. It's not unreasonable or wrong to want that for your relationship.  However respect that not all people will and be gracious when you run across those who do not want that in their relationship, or from you.

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ORIGINAL: sobayblackmaster


how 'bout if I refine the question. is it reasonable for sex objectification to be a component of a BDSM (or vanilla for that matter) relationship?


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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 11:17:37 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		It's okay to want that as long as you are honest about this during negotiations. Beyond that, in a full relationship sometimes I am just an object for him to use, and sometimes I'm his lover rubbing his feet when they hurt. That's the beauty of a full relationship; in one person you have a multitude. A sex object, a best friend, a partner in crime, someone to hold you in the lonely hours of the night and so on.

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RE: sex object - 12/21/2008 11:22:08 AM   
sobayblackmaster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

My reply is still the same as before.

No. It's not unreasonable or wrong to want that for your relationship.  However respect that not all people will and be gracious when you run across those who do not want that in their relationship, or from you.

quote:

ORIGINAL: sobayblackmaster


how 'bout if I refine the question. is it reasonable for sex objectification to be a component of a BDSM (or vanilla for that matter) relationship?




you're being a realist. I hear ya.

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