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sirsholly -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:10:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: chezzy71 Would i ever like to get this bunch together for a munch...what a hoot!! Mmmmhmm, I agree. Although, some days, I think a seat in the rafters would be the best spot to watch the entertainment. oh bull...you would join right in with the rest of us silly assed fools!!![:)][:)][:)][:)][:)]

Aszhrae -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:15:52 PM)
Why is it when we see someone write about a practice, fetish that we do not practice, use, believe in--we feel the need to crap on it and the person who does? Aren't we here to have the freedom to be different? Can't an opinion be expressed with out trashing the person who expressed it? Just how tolerant are we? What the Op originally posted at the beginning of the thread. It seems it is easier to be critical of others than to offer advice. When opinion becomes hurtful and negative, the recipient is labeled and dismissed. It is always the same individuals that are so highly critical and being a well of negative opinion. Then of course there are those that defend them which just rubs salt in the wound. When people react they get dismissed. Because there is little accountability to how a thread is replied to, they can be critical of others as the perception is just text in a thread. There is good criticism that is helpful and perhaps you (mc1234) have been privy to receiving helpful criticism and positive opinion. As to others, they have not been so fortunate. eg: I used to type 'dominant' as a generalization of those served by their 'sub/slaves', now its D or M so that certain individuals will not find offense and continue with their criticisms of my use of generalizations. As for pushing back. Pick me apart with your criticisms and negative opinion, just be prepared to be picked apart also. I would rather not this, but it would seem their are handful of individuals that enjoy specifics, facts, references, links and sources for every single post in a thread. If they are not satisfied with a post in a thread they become critical and thus opens the door to their negative opinion. Not of the subject matter but of the individual posting. Snakes in the thicket, that are almost always Rattlers.

CalifChick -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:18:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aszhrae To say that another individual is portraying the victim or portrays themselves as 'poor me' is just as much an insult as destructive criticism and negative opinion. Yes, please ignore that I said this: quote: Perhaps you don't understand the meaning of the word sarcastic. If I was being sarcastic, then it would mean that I thought your "poor me" attitude was fitting to you, when I said the opposite. It's not fitting, you're better than that. You've endured a lot in your life, you've seen more heartache than a person should. No one should have to experience the things you have. I find it sad that instead of finding the good in the advice you received, you only saw attack. And it's a shame that that colors your outlook. It makes it so much easier to maintain your status quo. God forbid that your impressions are wrong. Cali

IronBear -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:23:20 PM)
Ahhh but you see there are some of us who love to dissect some posts and because we have an interest on the matter or because some of us also have clinical minds and on a daily basis we require quotes or reference points we do so here. This is the nature of the beast and not every commentary is designed to be negative although I grant you many posts can be read as a negative comment if one has the natural propensity to do so..... Just my take on the situation.

mc1234 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:26:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aszhrae Why is it when we see someone write about a practice, fetish that we do not practice, use, believe in--we feel the need to crap on it and the person who does? Since I don't have the need to do so, I can't speak to it. quote: Aren't we here to have the freedom to be different? Nope - I'm here to (1) find a M/s relationship; and (2) enjoy the boards. quote: Can't an opinion be expressed with out trashing the person who expressed it? Yup - and it is most times. quote: Just how tolerant are we? I dunno - how tolerant are you? I'm fairly tolerant. If I disagree I tend to shut my mouth about it unless I feel on very solid ground. But I'm a quiet one, and don't like to cause a fuss. [:)] quote: Because there is little accountability to how a thread is replied to, they can be critical of others as the perception is just text in a thread. Actually, I think the boards are mod'ed quite well. quote: There is good criticism that is helpful and perhaps you (mc1234) have been privy to receiving helpful criticism and positive opinion. As to others, they have not been so fortunate. Ah, where is a mirror when it is needed? quote: eg: I used to type 'dominant' as a generalization of those served by their 'sub/slaves', now its D or M so that certain individuals will not find offense and continue with their criticisms of my use of generalizations. That's just silly - if someone is going to get upset because I call their dominant 'dom' or 'master' and it's the other term they use - they're just having a bad day and need to move on. I wouldn't change my personal behavior for that. quote: As for pushing back. Pick me apart with your criticisms and negative opinion, just be prepared to be picked apart also. I would rather not this, but it would seem their are handful of individuals that enjoy specifics, facts, references, links and sources for every single post in a thread. If they are not satisfied with a post in a thread they become critical and thus opens the door to their negative opinion. Not of the subject matter but of the individual posting. Snakes in the thicket, that are almost always Rattlers. If this is truly how you feel, why continue on here? That is a sincere question. I wouldn't continue to visit a place that feels as hostile to me as the boards obviously do to you.

CatdeMedici -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:27:56 PM)
We'd spend three years and 322 pages arguing about a venue.

Aileen1968 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:30:24 PM)
There is a huge difference in saying that I think that doing something like capitalization is ridiculous as oppsed to saying that I think that someone who does capitalization is ridiculous. Can you see the difference?

mc1234 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:34:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici We'd spend three years and 322 pages arguing about a venue. Hah! That's probably a conservative estimate. [;)]

IronBear -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:34:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici We'd spend three years and 322 pages arguing about a venue. Take it to the Jerry Springer Show, or should it be the Springing Jerry Show. If in South Africa we could call it the Jerry Springbok Show too..

LaTigresse -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:46:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 There is a huge difference in saying that I think that doing something like capitalization is ridiculous as opposed to saying that I think that someone who does capitalization is ridiculous. Can you see the difference? Somehow I think that finer point is wasted. There are alot of things that people do that I find rediculous. It has very little to do with how I view the person. I am quite aware that there are things I do that others find rediculous. I am perfectly fine with that. Example: My favourite Xmas gift. An inexpensive set of Jungle Book figurines that are meant to be a child's toy. My daughter saw them, and thought of me and my lifetime love of the movie. (It was the first movie I saw in a theatre) I am fully aware that many people would find my joy in those inexpensive little figures sublimely rediculous. Hell, I think it's pretty rediculously funny. But, big fucking deal. I still love the gift and the smile they bring to my face. Tease and torment me about it all you want. It won't ruin my joy in them nor will I get the least little bit upset about the teasing. Some people need to stop taking every damned thing as a personal attack.

mc1234 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:47:45 PM)
Amen! Life is too friggin' short ...

marie2 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:50:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Tease and torment me about it all you want. Freak.

Aszhrae -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:51:26 PM)
The point that I am trying to make. Think carefully about the words chosen or be prepared to get what you dish out. Initially my posts were of good intent when I first offered my opinion. Instead of being added to and improved upon. They were met with criticism and negative opinion. It just seems to me that is all anyone seems to want is to instill negativity in others and make others feel bad about themselves just so they can feel all the more superior. Being a submissive my self, I would have expected constructive advice and helpful opinion. Instead like so many others, I am sure, its just the opposite. If others are only going to instill negativity by destructive criticism and opinion. I am drawing the line in the sand. People come here for insight and advice because they are new to the lifestyle. Instead they get shot down before they even get off the ground. I am quite sure if I go back far enough in the threads that those that are so critical of others and are quick with negative opinion. Do not have that right as they are above no one to be in a position of judgment.

marie2 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:52:08 PM)
People have certain "hot spots" about things. I'm not bothered much by the kinks stuff being judged. But I get hot under the collar when people put down NJ as being some kind of dump. Go figure.

LaTigresse -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:53:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 People have certain "hot spots" about things. I'm not bothered much by the kinks stuff being judged. But I get hot under the collar when people put down NJ as being some kind of dump. Go figure. And you call me a freak........(insert eye roll)

Aileen1968 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:55:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 People have certain "hot spots" about things. I'm not bothered much by the kinks stuff being judged. But I get hot under the collar when people put down NJ as being some kind of dump. Go figure. How??? When it contains BOTH of us???

mc1234 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:56:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 People have certain "hot spots" about things. I'm not bothered much by the kinks stuff being judged. But I get hot under the collar when people put down NJ as being some kind of dump. Go figure. How??? When it contains BOTH of us??? Hey ... me too! lol [:)]

DavanKael -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:56:14 PM)
Haven't read all of the posts on this but, from my perspective only, I don't inherently give a person crap or trash what they're into if it's something I'm not into or that I don't findparticularly appealing. A given act may not appeal to me but I find human sexuality intensely interesting and am generally curious about what people are into and what makes something appealing to them. It's interesting to learn about others as well as self. Davan

Aileen1968 -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:56:37 PM)
Some of my best life lessons were learned by having my faults pointed out for me. Sometimes we become blind to the obvious.

LaTigresse -> RE: If it isn't your thing--so what? (12/30/2008 12:56:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: chezzy71 Would i ever like to get this bunch together for a munch...what a hoot!! Mmmmhmm, I agree. Although, some days, I think a seat in the rafters would be the best spot to watch the entertainment. oh bull...you would join right in with the rest of us silly assed fools!!![:)][:)][:)][:)][:)] And..........yeahhhh.

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