barelynangel
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To the OP,
Because people need to live in a politically correct society wherein its forgotten that human's are animals and to actually acknowledge we are very primitive animals underneath it all. So they try and make it seem like a bad thing and people love to throw around the word abuse because they are utilizing the negativity of something VERY serious and should not be thrown around haphazardly as i see it used on these forums so often. I think its ridiculous how people throw this word around as a scare tactic and how they label people who they don't know, have never met, and will probably never meet as abusers or potential abusers as some concept of making themselves feel as if they are better than others.
There are all different types of people in the world some are pacifists, some are agressors, some are people who have quiet emotions, some people have loud emotions, some people are physically emotional (i.e. they hug when they are happy, they throw things when they are mad, they somehow physically express their emotions, some people keep it all within.
Hell some of our countries favorite past times are aggressive in nature -- football, boxing, and some of the most facinating concepts for people include violence -- when a fight breaks out the crowds gather round, accidents on the road, hell even the news is mostly about violence that has occured (why, because that's what causes ratings because people watch!)
I personally think its sad that people have misused the term abuse so much that it has made many people afraid of a very natural emotion -- anger -- humans have and the physical expression of same that doesn't actually HURT someone because its directed at an object that can't be hurt. EVERY person even the holier than thou ones who like to label people as abusers without knowing the actuality of that concept with regard to the person they are haphazardly labeling as many do on this site are potential abusers. If they say they aren't they are lying to themselves which is the most dangerous abuser type person of them all. We are primitive animals underneath all the politically correct surface, which means we all have a potential for violence against others -- which seems to be what people deem abusers.
They use it as a scare tactic because it makes them feel better to label people they don't know more than likely because they have somehow have been involved with someone who hurt them in someway that they feel better labeling it as abuse so they don't have to look to closely at their own responsibility in the relationships break down. Now, don't get me wrong, there are people who have been abused, and there are people who thrive on the enjoyment of hurting someone for the concept of portraying power and control -- but someone simply losing their temper in a physical way that is not physical against a person is NOT abuse. Motive is a concept that exists behind abuse, many people simply look at anger and feel better labeling it as abuse.
Believe me, i get disgusted with those people -- and yes you can see patterns of certain posters -- who read every issue a person posts about and somehow turns it into a concept of abuse by the person who the initial poster is complaining about. Its overused, and haphazardly used by many and i think its sad so many people see it more as a cool thing to say instead of understanding what it really is.
Anger is not abuse -- violence is not abuse. People need to understand if they use the word abuse they should not use it haphazardly for their own personal comfort and judgment for their personal feel good trigger.
angel
< Message edited by barelynangel -- 1/1/2009 3:26:35 AM >
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RE: bad temper does not always equal abuse - 
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