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Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:20:52 AM   
bamagirl4u


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Status: offline 		I am curious?  Can no anal be a hard limit for subs?  Recently, I got an email from a Dom that said he would "stretch" my asshole until I could take his fist in it. I thought about it, I have seen pictures and videos of fisting in the anus, but never really thought it was something I desired.  Would a Dom even consider a submissive that does not like anal?  If I were collared and trusted my Dom and He insisted, would I do it?  I just don't know.  Are there any subs that do anal but really don't want to.  It seems to be a "must" on most of the e-mails I get on here.  Thanks all for your information.  Oh, and I have had anal sex, the stretching and pain were intense for me, and I was nervous so I am sure I tightened up like a vice grip--needless to say he loved it, and me, not so much....
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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:22:08 AM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		Yes of course it can be your hard limit.
It is your body..no is no.

And you knew this answer already ;)

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:26:08 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		As justdarkness has said, your body is your own - you set your hard limits.

I know doms who love anal, and some who aren't interested.

But from my POV, while anal sex is fine (and fun!), there is NO WAY on this little green planet that anyone is going to put anything bigger than a cock in there!



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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:28:30 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Any statement with the phrase "all doms" in it is bound to be false.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:31:46 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		y'see, I have to disagree with you there...

"All doms who try to stick their fist up my ass will end up needing medical help"



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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:33:10 AM   
MasterBenidict


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Status: offline 		I will only have sub subit to a dildo but I have done anal stretching for males looking to expereince the feeling. 

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:36:44 AM   
monywildcat


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Status: offline 		Of course anal can be on your list of hard limits.  I'm not ashamed to say that it is on mine.  So is black licorice.  Does this make me not a twue subby sub, and no dom/daddy/whatever is ever going to give me the time of day?  Not so much.  Anyone that gives you the brush off because you won't give up the booty is obviously not the one for you.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:45:55 AM   
CatdeMedici


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Any statement with the phrase "all doms" in it is bound to be false.


Not unless they have graduated from the School of Weal Domdom.
 
bamagirl: chances are he was wanking at the time and as JD said---its YOUR body remember that.
 
btw was he from Ghana? ( ok I had to)

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 8:51:10 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Yes you can have anal as a hard limit.  No, not all Doms MUST do anal.

To explain why you have so many Doms writing to you and expressing a desire for anal...well....you have to realize this is a free site.  Being free means that every Tom, Dick, or Hairy who wants to whank will be on the site hoping someone will give them words to whank by.  So they write to you, hoping you will write back and give them those words. Discussing anal is normal fantasy material for pretend Doms.  As on other areas of the internet, many and in my opinion most you are contacted by on the internet are not who whey say they are. 

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 9:16:59 AM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		You set your own hard limits,it is your body

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 9:21:39 AM   
hardbodysub


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Is anal a must for all Doms????


Yes. I think all Doms should be reamed until they cry "Uncle".

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 9:22:53 AM   
Missokyst


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quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

y'see, I have to disagree with you there...

"All doms who try to stick their fist up my ass will end up needing medical help"



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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 9:23:09 AM   
Whipswich


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Status: offline 		I understand why anal is important for Doms, precisely because it arouses feelings of fear in the sub, which can be desirable. However of course it can be your hard limit, you have the right to name absolutely anything as your hard limit, (and anyone who says they have absolutely no limits is living on planet Fantasy with dick in hand) and nothing should happen in your session that hasn't been agreed beforehand. Preferably in writing and signed by your solicitor and doctor. Or is that something else... anyway. Yes it can be a hard limit.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 9:27:56 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I personally have yet to ever meet a dom who didn't require anal but I'm sure there's a couple of them around somewhere.

As for setting it as a limit, it's your body. Find someone who has the same limits.

I personally hate anal but it's not a limit for me, Master loves it but with him I learn to like it for the control aspects and it starts to eventually feel good but it takes some time after the initial insertion.

If it's important to you to like it though then maybe find someone who will start out slow with you or maybe train yourself with different size plugs.



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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 9:49:48 AM   
bamagirl4u


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Status: offline 		Thank you to everyone that posted here...Sometimes just getting others opinions help me to know what I am doing and keeps me grounded.  If I phrased the title wrong , my apologies...it just seemed the 99% of my contacts are interested in anal.  I mean to learn from this site and find my true self...I am sure I will make mistakes, but I appreciate all posts. 

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 9:52:14 AM   
bamagirl4u


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Status: offline 		Not sure I understand your answer...I phrased it the way it sounded right to me...but thanks anyway..

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 10:32:24 AM   
windchymes


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ORIGINAL: bamagirl4u

If I were collared and trusted my Dom and He insisted, would I do it? 


This is the key phrase.  You don't take the collar if he's insisting on anal!  Easy peasy!

You don't take any collars until you have established boundaries and agree on terms, wants, needs, desires, etc.  You don't take a collar and then go, "Oh man, my dom wants anal and I don't, now what do I do???"  And you don't just take his word and believe everything he says at the outset.  You wait and get to know him slowly and over time so you can be sure he's a man of his word, and that he's not going to agree to something now just to get in your pants and then start slipping things in later on (no pun intended).

Sure, it might limit your choices, but you'll end up with what you want in the end.  (Dammit, again, no pun intended).

< Message edited by windchymes -- 1/2/2009 10:41:42 AM >

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 10:49:20 AM   
utopicus


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Status: offline 		It is not a must for anybody - it's a matter of your agreeing with it ant this is all. If you're not comfortable with that, you need to tell him that.
The fact that you're collared doesn't turn you into an object at his discretion.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 10:57:12 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bamagirl4u

I am curious?  Can no anal be a hard limit for subs?  Recently, I got an email from a Dom that said he would "stretch" my asshole until I could take his fist in it. I thought about it, I have seen pictures and videos of fisting in the anus, but never really thought it was something I desired.  Would a Dom even consider a submissive that does not like anal?  If I were collared and trusted my Dom and He insisted, would I do it?  I just don't know.  Are there any subs that do anal but really don't want to.  It seems to be a "must" on most of the e-mails I get on here.  Thanks all for your information.  Oh, and I have had anal sex, the stretching and pain were intense for me, and I was nervous so I am sure I tightened up like a vice grip--needless to say he loved it, and me, not so much....

I don't mind giving some anal attention with assorted toys such as butt plugs or things requiring batteries etc, but otherwise this particular Dom has no real need or desire for anal sex - if that helps with your title question....
 
Focus.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/2/2009 11:04:03 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		He isn't interested in it. There's no way I would be compatible with someone who was more interested in my anus than in me however. If someone else's big fetish is anal fisting, then I'm not compatible.

Be grateful he told you this upfront so you don't have to waste anymore time on him. Pick somebody who likes the same stuff you like, and dislikes the same stuff you dislike. Any dom who really thinks that what he has to do is subject a sub to endless rounds of pain and unhappiness is someone with a narrow focus, because domination, leadership can be done through positives, not just negatives.

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