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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 1:51:18 PM   
JustDarkness


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It's a "must" for any dom that I'm with, or he can take his non-anal-activities elsewhere.


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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:06:43 PM   
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Topping from the bottom, eh? :-p I guess we know how much you like anal then, eh?


Well, yes, I like it, and no, it's not topping from the bottom.  There are certain things I require in a relationship, and that happens to be one of them.

Oh, and JustDarkness?  That line refers to the ampleness of my body.  Large and soft and comfortable, built more like a touring sedan than like a sportscar, which is hard and fast thru the turns.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:07:58 PM   
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Oh, and JustDarkness?  That line refers to the ampleness of my body.  Large and soft and comfortable, built more like a touring sedan than like a sportscar, which is hard and fast thru the turns.

Cali




to gether with anal...that is heaven ;)

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:25:11 PM   
Amaros


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Status: offline 		I love a chick with attitude, Mm.

Sorry if I appear to be obsessing over Sam's ideas about latent homosexuality but it's something I encounter all too frequently - thing is, most of us, simply by virtue of doing what it is we do have already gone beyond the pale, for many of us, it would make no difference to anybody but our partner if we did switch sides and we'd probably get laid a lot more, i.e., if were all about the hole, and not the person it happens to be integrated with.

Most of the evidence indicates that homophobia itself is the most likely indication of repressed homoerotic urges.

Anyway, I do consider anal fisting to be what I'd call an advanced technique, not for beginners, any exceptions to that rule notwithstanding, and anal sex itself is often reported to be an aquired taste even for many of it's most ardent enthusiasts.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:29:29 PM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		the latent homesexual theory..
we can't like anything with out a theory in this world..lol

latent is fine with me... it doesn't hurt..the latent stuff... :P

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:34:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would just like to say that I am deeply, deeply ashamed of myself that I hit on dominant women on a regular basis, and I think anal sex is hot.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:35:32 PM   
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I would just like to say that I am deeply, deeply ashamed of myself that I hit on dominant women on a regular basis, and I think anal sex is hot.

-- Secretly Gay And Very Fake "Dom"




can I be in your Admirers list darling

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:35:35 PM   
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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:40:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I would just like to say that I am deeply, deeply ashamed of myself that I hit on dominant women on a regular basis, and I think anal sex is hot.

-- Secretly Gay And Very Fake "Dom"




can I be in your Admirers list darling




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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:51:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Anal is a very hard limit for me and Sir respects the limit.  He also knows that fisting is a hard limit as well because I view such activity as vulgar and potentially dangerous to the receiver if someone lacking experience is trying to do it.

GT, you forgot the lube again...

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:58:20 PM   
Amaros


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Status: offline 		It's not the first thing I'd try to talk you into - which leads to my next question, namely that I've always thought of anal sex in general as more of a side dish than the main course, it's not the first thing I go for, in fact I've been in long term relationships where the subject never even came up and I never even thought about it - so the question is to the OP and it is: at what point did the anal sex thing become an issue?

i.e., there seems to be a school of thought that's all about the ass, not surprisingly, many males associate anal sex with dominance itself, i.e., it's the symbolic act of domination itself, and the reason they're so hot for it, because it makes them feel dominant, which actually makes biological sense - mounting another animal is the symbolic act of domination for most mammalian species, regardless of sex (yes, the majority of mammals swing both ways), often regardless of species or even metabolic viability - my dog humps the cat, stuffed animals, my foot - whatever he can get away with, and in doing so, he's marking his dominance.

What can I say, he's a small dog, and he has a Napoleon complex.

So I guess to answer the OP, no, it isn't a must, but I think you'll find it pretty common where sex is involved - i.e., keeping in mind that for some, sex might not even enter into it, anal or otherwise, but even in porn, anal fisting is more of a specialty than almost any other activity, statistically speaking, there are only a handful that do it regularly, and women seem to find it more difficult than men for some reason.

Me, I'll do it on request, the people that are into it seem to enjoy it immensely, but I do not otherwise consider it an unreasonable hard limit.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 2:59:29 PM   
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Anal is a very hard limit for me and Sir respects the limit.  He also knows that fisting is a hard limit as well because I view such activity as vulgar and potentially dangerous to the receiver if someone lacking experience is trying to do it.

GT, you forgot the lube again...
I always thought that being vulgar was half the fun.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 3:06:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe most of the ones who are so close minded as to not give any leeway regarding anal from their submissives are the ones who have such a little weenie, that when put in the Va-J-J, it gets lost.  Maybe anal is the only way they can get anything tight around their little bitty cocks.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 3:17:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Okay, replace vulgar with tasteless...its just not my cup of tea.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 3:22:53 PM   
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Maybe most of the ones who are so close minded as to not give any leeway regarding anal from their submissives are the ones who have such a little weenie, that when put in the Va-J-J, it gets lost.  Maybe anal is the only way they can get anything tight around their little bitty cocks.



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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 3:46:36 PM   
Amaros


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Okay, replace vulgar with tasteless...its just not my cup of tea.

Shahar
To each his/her own, and I'm glad you found someone who suits you - personally, I don't require even an explanation for a hard limit in the initial stages of a relationship, I'll take your word at face value - I will eventually try to get to the bottom of it however, this one at least, I'm just curious that way.

This one mainly because there are two very distinct sides to it, on the one side, it's just another erogenous zone, and a particularly sensitive area of the body - on the other it's fraught with linguistic symbolic baggage, a symbol of corruption and base animality (vulgarity), for many a source of shame and disgrace, there are those who agonize over the fact that their shit stinks as bad as anybodies - don't laugh, there were bloody religious purges over the argument of whether Jesus shat or not (not surprisingly, they finally decided he didn't).

In America, much of the dogma of evangelical movement is a partial outgrowth of reform physiology and the ideas of Sylvester Graham and his followers, the Grahamites, who were obsessed with sexual chastity and purity, and to that end developed and engaged in elaborate enema protocols, presumably, because their shit did stink and they could not tolerate this state of affairs. His work was continued by Dr. John Kellogg, the inventor of cornflakes, fascinating stuff - they were the same people who started the hysteria over masturbation and homosexuality.

In any case, I believe much of BDSM is people who resent being topped non-consensually by people this neurotic, even if the enema thing is pretty kinky - nobody's perfect, it's the nature of the matter/energy duality, much healthier to embrace and love your flaws, I think, than to futily try to escape them or pretend they don't exist. "Purity" is stasis, death - the absence of change, absolute Zero - physical reality itself is a flaw in theoretical perfection, the best one can hope for is balance.

To that end, I'll pick my own neurosis' and neurotic attachments, thank you very much - you are, of course, free to do that in any way you prefer, IMO, as long as you're not dragging anybody else into it against their will, sub, subcurious, or otherwise.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 3:49:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		No problem, I took some time off recently getting used to our new situation and the 12 cats, one of which loves to take over our bed...*gives cat an evil look*

Now to get used to high heels again...OW!

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 3:54:19 PM   
SageFemmexx


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Status: offline 		Anytime I see a profile or get an email from a dom into fisting, stretching etc. of any orifice I dump them like a hot rock. In my opinion they are not interested in the person, only is performing their fetish. I am not interested in being a thing--I am a human being with desires, needs and expectations of my own.

So, in answer to your question--delete him, he's an ass.

And, I actually dated a dom who hated BJ's. So, not all doms are into anal or even oral--it depends upon the person.

Sage.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 4:28:49 PM   
Amaros


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Status: offline 		That's a meaningless generalization, you could say that about any fetish, we're all pretty much looking for somebody with tastes in fetish that match ours, otherwise, why categorize it at all? You are essentially saying you reject people because they don't have the same fetish you do, whatever it is

Technically, your particular fetish doesn't even exist - there is no such thing as a switch in Gorean, which is why I'm not greatly attracted to Goreans, they would appear to care more about an abstract fictional philosophy than they do about a person - I would hope you would not be rejected for that, I hope you stick to your guns.

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RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? - 1/9/2009 6:06:51 PM   
Amaros


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Maybe most of the ones who are so close minded as to not give any leeway regarding anal from their submissives are the ones who have such a little weenie, that when put in the Va-J-J, it gets lost.  Maybe anal is the only way they can get anything tight around their little bitty cocks.

I'm sorry, are we in scene?

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