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Amaros -> RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? (1/9/2009 3:46:36 PM)
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ORIGINAL: elegantalexis
Okay, replace vulgar with tasteless...its just not my cup of tea.
Shahar
To each his/her own, and I'm glad you found someone who suits you - personally, I don't require even an explanation for a hard limit in the initial stages of a relationship, I'll take your word at face value - I will eventually try to get to the bottom of it however, this one at least, I'm just curious that way.
This one mainly because there are two very distinct sides to it, on the one side, it's just another erogenous zone, and a particularly sensitive area of the body - on the other it's fraught with linguistic symbolic baggage, a symbol of corruption and base animality (vulgarity), for many a source of shame and disgrace, there are those who agonize over the fact that their shit stinks as bad as anybodies - don't laugh, there were bloody religious purges over the argument of whether Jesus shat or not (not surprisingly, they finally decided he didn't).
In America, much of the dogma of evangelical movement is a partial outgrowth of reform physiology and the ideas of Sylvester Graham and his followers, the Grahamites, who were obsessed with sexual chastity and purity, and to that end developed and engaged in elaborate enema protocols, presumably, because their shit did stink and they could not tolerate this state of affairs. His work was continued by Dr. John Kellogg, the inventor of cornflakes, fascinating stuff - they were the same people who started the hysteria over masturbation and homosexuality.
In any case, I believe much of BDSM is people who resent being topped non-consensually by people this neurotic, even if the enema thing is pretty kinky - nobody's perfect, it's the nature of the matter/energy duality, much healthier to embrace and love your flaws, I think, than to futily try to escape them or pretend they don't exist. "Purity" is stasis, death - the absence of change, absolute Zero - physical reality itself is a flaw in theoretical perfection, the best one can hope for is balance.
To that end, I'll pick my own neurosis' and neurotic attachments, thank you very much - you are, of course, free to do that in any way you prefer, IMO, as long as you're not dragging anybody else into it against their will, sub, subcurious, or otherwise.
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