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Amaros -> RE: Is anal a must for all Doms???? (1/10/2009 12:31:50 AM)
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It is one of those areas where feedback is critical, if there is to be a positive experience- if your partner, dom, etc., is not taking the time to get you into a relaxed and receptive mood, then as I say, you're probably dealing with a sadist, and if you don't have a sado-masochistic understanding, then you may well be in a situation where you'll have to assert yourself.
I generally start with basic anal play with my fingers, etc., and even chicks that freaked out at first ended up craving it - it adds considerably to the total experience, you're missing out if you're ignoring this particular erogenous zone entirely.
Due to the huge amount of psychological baggage, it can also trigger some very intense emotions in some people, and there is potential for some heavy psychological dynamics - again, for others, it just feels really good, which is why I take it slow, test responses, usually my partners let me know if they think I'm not being bold enough, you never know till you try - if you totally aren't into it, then be upfront about it.
For these reasons, rather than the mounting thing, I consider it an area definitely worth exploring - if the hygiene issues bother you, you can fetishize the whole clean up thing, do enemas like the Grahamites, rubber gloves, etc., keep a box of wipes handy so you don't get E. coli all over the place - you might be shocked at how much E. coli you already have floating around the place - ever watch Mythbusters? But I've had partners for whom the possibility of skin infections from other health problems is a serious issue, so developing sound hygienic protocols is always a good idea, even if you like it sloppy.
Oddly, I notice that a lot of sub profiles have enemas as a hard limit, even when they're into anal play - I'm an enema guy particularly, so if any cares to shed light on this I'd be interested.
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