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Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/3/2009 9:09:56 PM

Erikalocust

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Do any lesbians/straight ladies ever train men in feminization?
Not on a professional level, but as a prospective partner?

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/3/2009 9:16:17 PM

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Train specifically, no. I have played with them femenized before and enjoy it quite a bit. However I dont have much interest in having them that way all the time unless they are extremely passable.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/3/2009 9:30:32 PM

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There are at least several of us here whose partners are crossdressers. Whether we or anyone else "train" them depends largely on your definition of training. My own partner has been a crossdresser since his adolescence, and I certainly had nothing to do with that. I have influenced him to adopt a number of behaviors that I like in a feminized male, and have influenced him to drop some things that I don't care for in a feminized male. I don't consider that training, though. I consider it part of the mutual influence that's a normal part of relationships.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/4/2009 2:00:43 AM

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Yes,I have mentored numerous crossdressers but just as a friend...I would not have a CD as a partner.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/4/2009 3:05:23 AM

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as a male submissive that dose wear panties and has crossdressed . i dont pass as female nor have i tried too put any female in harms way or to be degrade the female personna or put any female down while and when ive been dressing . as for me its all being a sub male as way to remind me im sub and also for getting away form the daily stress of life . but i have found very very few Mistress'es or Dommes that are into crossdressing .

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/4/2009 2:52:22 PM

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Do any lesbians/straight ladies ever train men in feminization?
Not on a professional level, but as a prospective partner?

I have, but I'm bi so I don't know if you're asking me or not!

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/4/2009 3:02:03 PM

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Do any lesbians/straight ladies ever train men in feminization?
Not on a professional level, but as a prospective partner?

I have, but I'm bi so I don't know if you're asking me or not!

AS bi, though, I think we qualify as lesbian/straight pretty well actually

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/4/2009 3:04:22 PM

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They are out there, it just does not seem to be a very common interest in kinky women. Based on my experience, couples and poly groups seem to be the folks that are most often open to those into gender play. My finding that could actually be a coincidence though, I suppose.

If you're truly into this, I'd suggest learning at least some of the basics of gender-bending in the meantime so you then have more options in terms of searching. Some folks who are into gender play in general would be more apt to bring someone in who already knows kind of what they are doing. Its just a thought...

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/4/2009 4:16:10 PM

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They are out there, it just does not seem to be a very common interest in kinky women.

It's not a common interest among women, period, full stop. Most people, period, full stop, find it squicky.

Based on my experience, couples and poly groups seem to be the folks that are most often open to those into gender play. My finding that could actually be a coincidence though, I suppose.

Mmm, could be. As one data point, I am not poly and was single when I met my crossie. I'm also straight--well, maybe a tad queer, if you factor in my attraction to my sub. OP, you may find it interesting that lesbians generally are NOT open to feminised males. However, I do know several lesbians partnered with full-on MtF transsexuals, both pre-op and post-op.

Finding a partner is hard. Finding a kinky partner is extra hard. Finding a kinky partner who doesn't consider crossdressing a deal-breaker, is extra, extra hard. But we are indeed out here. Good luck.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/4/2009 5:18:35 PM

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Yes LaMistressa, you are exactly whom I would like to ask.
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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 2:37:45 AM

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As a random thought, I've seen a number of threads on this forum refering to the difficulty in finding a Mistress that enjoys feminization. It strikes me that perhaps a few might think it actually would be easier to find someone they could partner with if only they did not feminize.

Well. it would not.....

The world is a very big place. The search is for that one person who is your match. That person who can give everything you need and needs everything you can give. Regardless of what anyone seeks, the odds are very long, the search is going to take time. Signing up to any site should not be viewed as the "final stop", the place where every dream will be made real. They are just one more thing to try. There will be failures along the way. There will be time lost with people who are unsuitable. It wont be simple.

All of these sites are merely tools. A way to get you into circulation, a means to a possible end.

When any of these threads on crossdressing are posted, a number of people who have no interest in the subject usually chime in just to let you know they have no interest, and it's not unusual for them to drop off some nasty zing about it while opining. I've noticed the same thing on threads involving scenes I'm not into. Disregard those. If you are into feminizing, they aren't going to be involved. If they don't like it, well, that's great. You do though, and that's what you need to think about. Worry more always about what the Women who do like it think.....

Point is, keep your head up, keep your eyes open and keep your ears in the same condition as well. You are on the most important journey you will ever take. The journey for that one person who will define your world. Sometimes it's a short journey, most often it is not. It's going to take some time, and it's time well spent.

You're talking about finding "Home" after all....

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 2:39:38 AM

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*Side note to Erikalocust!

I wasn't replying to you in specific, but to the thread itself, just don't know how to make that work....

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 4:48:41 AM

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It seems funny to me that "feminization" should automatically imply CD. Is that the case with you, Erika? For me, I'd always thought feminization was about a dominant making her sub 'feel female' in a variety of ways, only one of which would involve ordering him to wear women's clothing. For me, for instance, the most feminizing thing a woman could do to a man is take him with a strap-on.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 6:51:58 AM

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I have trained many men via the internet along the lines of feminization. I was not looking at them as potential partners but was simply a teacher. I am sure there are many others who also take an interest in this.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 7:32:17 AM

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quote:

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It seems funny to me that "feminization" should automatically imply CD. Is that the case with you, Erika? For me, I'd always thought feminization was about a dominant making her sub 'feel female' in a variety of ways, only one of which would involve ordering him to wear women's clothing. For me, for instance, the most feminizing thing a woman could do to a man is take him with a strap-on.

We're visual creatures, and appearance is where the most visible and therefore most obvious gender markers are. Behavior gets into subtleties, although I'd agree that taking a cock is a fairly egregious, if conventional, gender marker.

Solange, I'm not sure about your statement that it's no more difficult for a male to find a partner if he feminizes. I'll defer to your greater experience in the matter, though. Great post.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 8:19:27 AM

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Now that I agree with. It is amazing that when ones aren't into to something, whether feminization, age play or whatever, they are the first to post saying how they don't like it, and what is wrong with the people who do.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 6:25:46 PM

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Yes, if you can imagine a scenario or situation then it has or is being done somewhere with someone.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 8:43:53 PM

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They are out there, it just does not seem to be a very common interest in kinky women.

It's not a common interest among women, period, full stop. Most people, period, full stop, find it squicky.

Many, most, a lot, a bunch.... I'll say you're right on.... and I feel people are entitled to hold that view if that's truly the way they feel. It doesn't stop me from being happy and perusing who I want to pursue, so no harm done.

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 8:51:49 PM

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Now that I agree with. It is amazing that when ones aren't into to something, whether feminization, age play or whatever, they are the first to post saying how they don't like it, and what is wrong with the people who do.

I don't believe anyone said it was "wrong." People are just chiming into the topic.

Just because some of us aren't into something, why is it that those who are always seem to want to close down those of us who don't share their interests?

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RE: Crossdressing/Feminization - 1/5/2009 9:20:21 PM

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I'd agree that people into fringe activities can have a chip on their shoulder. And I agree that in a public forum, posters need to have a thick skin and stop whining, already. If you're into something weird and squicky--come on, you gotta know that not everyone likes it, so own up. But I also think it's fair to say that the tone of "not for me" posts sometimes runs to the condemnatory--not always, and not with every poster, but commonly enough so that it is indeed a problem.

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