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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 1:38:24 PM   
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Wow... impressive... Actions cured the guy you were calling a troll because he now respects you!  I saw words myself. 


Yeah well our actions are really important on a text based forum, im doing a strip tease right this very moment

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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 1:39:06 PM   
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Sorry that I made you feel inferior on Collarme.com!


trust me sweetheart...you do not have what it takes to make most of us feel inferior...and you never will
See (pay attention here...ya might learn something that ads to your intelligent's). No one can make us feel inferior unless we ourselves permit it.  And you being the cause is, frankly, laughable.


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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 1:39:57 PM   
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It just appears to me that rather than struggle with the idea that some people arent looking for a pro, but want something more personal and less professional and business-like, she only sees money. They cant possibly not be interested in services, they must be broke. Maybe...just maybe... someone wants to build a relationship without having to pay for it. I think pro's who react the way that one did are the main reason those pros who are actually professional and make a good showing for themselves deal with the bitchy fake stigma. Just saying.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 1:49:21 PM   
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It just sounds like someone is close to burning out.
and it is not the Collarme posse

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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 2:58:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

Hide User > Next.

I never understood what the big deal about this was. If you don't want to deal with dommes who offer tribute, click the hide user button and yu never see them again.

The 'instadomme' is the female version of the 'form letter wannabe slave' guys. There's tons of each and siting through them is tedious, but I firmly believe that if your own heart is true it will be all worth it when you finally find that right person for you.

Focus on the positive, laugh at the bullshit.



Well SalveBlutarsky, there are just some people who think everything should be handed to them on a silver platter and life is all peachy keen and roses. People get stood up for dates in the vanilla world so I can't see why this should be any different for a Pro Domme. Yea it's shitty but shit happens and it isn't a major catastrophe.



I'm not even talking about that, I only responded to the original post and not the following pages. Judgin from the posts before and after mine, I'm not missing mush.

I fully agree that finding a kinky partner is just like finding a vanilla one. I date vanilla women for the most part, in the hopes I'll uncover or create a kinky partner. Stupid shit is not the sole domain of Pro Doms or lazy cheap subs or whatever is being argued in this thread.

There's a lot of different types of people out there, if you don't like them, don't deal with them. Kinky, vanilla or otherwise. Why is it so hard?




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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 3:07:37 PM   
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Enough or... you know the rest.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 4:01:02 PM   
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I don't know, it's not 'that' hard to weed out the flakes and idiots when you are doing the pro domme thing. I used to get them a lot when I first started, not so much now. Perhaps you just need a little break, or more experience. Ranting about it here won't get you any sympathy, as many people are 'positive' dommes make thousands a week.  (Some might, I certainly don't)

About the avatar thing... it's a forum. I don't expect people to actually be little pink fairys. O.o.


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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 4:28:33 PM   
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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 4:55:11 PM   
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what about "Insta Subs" that will do just about anything to get some sex??



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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 6:44:40 PM   
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G'evening all:


MT ~ I have many issues. Losing control, as you so obviously have, is not among them.

As for misrepresentation; how have I done so? I have a full length picture on profile. It's also fully clothed. Unlike someone else... I happen to like the blase` look of my avatar. Pardon me (Not.) if it you fail to get the very dry, tongue in cheek humor of it.

Regarding sting, you have no idea how long one of my scenes last. You seem to boast about 35 minutes. Hmm, that's generally just a warmup for me. When you can graduate up to my level, look me up and I'll show you what a 16 plait kangaroo hide singletail feels like.


Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...





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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 7:30:51 PM   
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I love these kinds of threads!

I miss the good parts of pro domming...  yeah, there were flakes and wankers to weed out, but there were so many interesting people with meaningful fantasies that it was fun most of the time.  I even made a profit!  I had a profile on HERE that mentioned that I was a pro dominant, too.  There was on on alt.com, and one in DDI.  Why not make full use of all the marketing available?

The thing is, I NEVER solicited anyone for business outside of placing ads.  I didn't *have* to.  I wrote to people I liked, people that interested me, people that made me laugh.  If I asked someone out, it was because I liked HIM, not because I expected cash and valuable prizes.  My business life and my personal life were separate things.  I got guys trying to bargain me into cheap scenes, but the price is the price (and we local pros had our mutual agreement to protect ourselves) and I let them know that if you have champagne taste on a beer budget, well...  show up at a PUBLIC event and make friends with me! 

Is there a limit to how many profiles we can put on our "hidden" list?  I hide the wankers, the ones with pictures that eeek me, the ones that want things that I do not want or cannot provide.  It's a wonderful feature, that HIDE button.  The filters are great, too. 

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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 7:44:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz
About the avatar thing... it's a forum. I don't expect people to actually be little pink fairys. O.o.



Awwww, but I like little pink fairies...I have been watching for them in the park.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 11:26:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

Don't think that post helped for the Pro's side of the story.
But perhaps I misunderstood


I really truly have to agree.... I believe it reinforced the OP's point....


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RE: Instadommes - 1/5/2009 11:32:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MadameTakhisis

Sorry dear all I heard is BLAH  BLAH BLAH Im a sideliner  trust what I say is true!  As you see the problem the poster had was solved. I believe in action. You, well again, Blah blah blah! It is not "Words speak louder than action"  It is, " action speak louder than words"! So what did you say blah blah blah hide behind a cute little avatar? 


And I am sorry TRIX are only little white ladies on a bench allowed to speak?

Blah blah blah! Insult insult insult!

Are any of you shit talkers real?

Such a sad place.

It is like  junior high school virgins talking about who they screwd last night!
Sorry that I made you feel inferior on Collarme.com! I am so ashamed, lol
If you are better than the other no one has to tell you! You both all ready know!




Wow... now I feel like I am back in high school again....


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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2009 7:41:28 AM   
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Wow, what a thread.  When it first went up, I opened it quickly, and did not really have anything to say about it.  When I saw all the posts, I opened again, but usually get bored very quickly and would shut it again.  Not this time, it was one of the very few times a thread this size held my interest to read it right through.  There were so many fucked up things in this one, LOL.  First off, just wanted to say this made me piss my pants laughing:

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

About the avatar thing... it's a forum. I don't expect people to actually be little pink fairys. O.o.




Thank you
 
Now, I have a few opinions I want to share.  I personally don’t really understand Pro except for profit even, but I don’t slam it either.  I do understand girls that do Pro Domme as a business, to make a living.  What I don’t understand is if you are really a dominate personality how it would interest you.  Personally, I could never do that, just because I have the view that it is the paying customer in charge, not the Domme.  Like any business you have to make sure your customer leaves happy, to ensure return.  This also means playing with people that you never would out of interest.  That being said, I have nothing against Pros, and think that they serve a great purpose for subs that can not commit to a Mistress or someone just wanting to try a few things.  I know a couple of Pros, one of them is really a submissive and “puts on the Domme” as she says, to make a living.  She told me once that she feels submissive in sessions, in the way that she is doing exactly what the client wants her to do, what pleases him, from his list of fantasies and fetishes he fills out.  I also know two others that are Pro/Lifestyle and even though I have my point of view, they are both wonderful.  I don’t see anything wrong with it, I just could not do it myself.  They have every right to be on this site, just like anyone else, AP, if you don’t like it, TOO BAD.  According to your profile, you are a Dom anyway, so what does it matter to you?  You sound like a moron. 
 
Now, even with that said, MadameT, you take the cake.  First off, if you are so jumbled that its hard to see if you are making any valid points or not…..I certainly did not see any.  If these forums are so ridiculous and you are so busy, why are you wasting your time here at all?  Why did you even see this?  Get over yourself, we are all busy, and have lives, but enjoying reading/posting here, or we would not do it.  Also, since you spend so much of your FREE time reading these forums, then you know that 99.9% of the Dommes on here, Pro or not, get those same 500 stupid weekly emails.  And just the fact that you will eventaually agree to met with someone you were not interested in, just because he keeps bugging you, does not say much for you.  Perhaps that is why you get stood up so much.
 
Now, on to the next idea, no matter how much experience you have now, at some point, everyone was inexperienced.  Now, some people, myself included, don’t like playing with partners with little/no experience.  That does not mean anything is wrong with those people who are inexperienced, after all, we all start out that way, its not like you can skip it.  And all older Dommes, were at one point, younger, were they not?  In fact, I have also heard a lot of the young Dommes get upset that no one takes them seriously. So both those are just silly points to start with.  The other two things you mention are poly and overweight.   I know many people who are in successful poly relationships, that work very well.  Just because you don’t understand something, does not make it wrong, (you know, just like me with the Pro Domme thing?).  I am not even sure why you added that one, like really, aren’t Pros in a sense poly, or do you only have one client?  And as far as being overweight, again, that is irrelevant, of course there are going to be a group of people not interested in a BBW, the same way some are not interested in a red head, or a girl with small breasts.  There are also a group that prefer this, in fact, one of the Pro/Lifestyle girls I know weights over 350lbs, and makes a killing doing her job. 
 
To ModeratorSixteen, I have not been in a thread yet that someone spoke in on…..not 100% sure what you were talking about, but people were posting after this, so I decided to give it a go, if that is what you meant……er, sorry about that….
 

Edited cuz for some reason my text was HUGE

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2009 9:07:13 AM   
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I ignore all who ask for tributes.  If a domme (and in this case, I do mean domme with a small "d") can not figure out if I am legit or not and wants a tribute to "test my resolve", than I want nothing to do with her.  The funny thing is, I can find out right away if they are worthwhile and legit and have no need for special proof - if she is not bright enough to pick up on it, her loss. :)  

Most are guys pretending to be women of course, but there are a few (and I mean very few) who are genuine.  Still, they make me wonder if they are in touch with reality - this is the internet we are talking about, a place with a bad track record when it comes to sending money or things to strangers. <rolls eyes> 

Also, of note is this:  I have been to a couple munches, and tributes are only an internet phenomena.  Make you wonder, eh? :)

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2009 9:14:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial

what about "Insta Subs" that will do just about anything to get some sex??




couldnt have said it better myself. Gimp rox !!

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2009 11:32:51 AM   
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I don't often go to the other side these days, and even when I did, I didn't browse other dommes. But I'm willing to bet that the majority of the profiles who demand money belong to young women. 18 - 22 young and wearing little more than boots and a smile in their photos.

Kinky or vanilla, these are women who cost money. Being hot isn't cheap.

Either suck it up and pay, or move on to people who are less high maintenance.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2009 4:48:49 PM   
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^^^

18-22 women?  LOL!  Do you really believe that? 

The profiles depict 18-22 women, but belong to kids, fat old bearded men, nigerian scammers, or generally incredibly pathetic individuals.  Makes you wonder how many teen myspace profiles have been "raided" already for photos.

Wow, people can be so naive. :)

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2009 5:09:33 PM   
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The profiles depict 18-22 women, but belong to kids, fat old bearded men, nigerian scammers, or generally incredibly pathetic individuals.  Makes you wonder how many teen myspace profiles have been "raided" already for photos.

Wow, people can be so naive. :)

Some profiles depicting hot young women are operated... (gasp!!!!) by hot young women.  Do you really think that young men get horny and kinked from puberty or before, but young women are sweet vanilla flowers who never have a kinky thought in their head until they're tapped on the shoulder by the Menopause Fairy?

I swear.  If more men saw women as human beings first and sexy babes second, there'd be a lot less sexual frustration in this world.  Meeting a woman off this site is almost as simple as: (1) don't be a worthless wimp; (2) don't be a one-handed typist, and (3) follow through on everything you say you will do, and show the fuck up.  I mean, jeez.  Even CoupleofWhats, who just posted, offered to (Platonically) meet my friend dm and me a while back, and I was the one who blew her off because of something I won't go into here, but it had nothing to do with her.

Some on this site are too naive; others are too cynical.


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