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serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/11/2009 10:57:22 PM   
beth314


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Status: offline 		just baffles me! How can someone who wants to totally surrender (sexually and Non)their life to a lesbian Domme even be condidered to join a home with a male Head of Household? Is it just me or are there any other subs/slaves who can relate when I say that you cannot repect/serve a woman who shows submission to any person...anytime?! Submission of a Domme just shatters the whole concept....or am I just messed up? the idea of a poly doesnt bother me at all....think it would be kinda nice having multiple slaves/subs to work together to serve one Domme....do all polyhouseholds include a male?
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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/11/2009 11:05:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Of course they don't all include a male, just as they don't all include a female.  There are god knows how many different types of poly households.  In mine, I have my primary partner, and my secondary, and my pet.  My pet happens to be my primary partners secondary, and it somehow works out.  God only knows how some days, but it does.

The thing is, just finding the right household for you, whether it be monogamous or poly or open or whatever.  Chances of it being the first one you run across are pretty damned slim, so don't give up hope. :)


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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/11/2009 11:11:13 PM   
beth314


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Status: offline 		Thanks! Pretty damn slim? uggghhhh! Thats not very good odds there.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/11/2009 11:14:49 PM   
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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/11/2009 11:18:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		You're not messed up as much as that is simply a dynamic you can't get excited about. I don't do submission to anyone man or woman. And I suppose, that if I did submit to a specific type of person, I too would have difficulty maintaining the headspace and respect I would need to always defer to someone who submitted herself to another. I suppose it's the same reason switching confuses me. I understand that different people submit for different reasons, and often, I find it is about a certain dance, not who retains authority and leadership always. M

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/11/2009 11:27:10 PM   
beth314


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Status: offline 		Thanks! and I agree the idea of switching confuses me to...either you are one or the other to me...but I'm not everybody and tend to think things to death trying to find the logic in it.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 12:01:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, there really is no black or white answer for much of anything in relationships like this, particularly poly ones.  It's not only AN individual, but it's 3 or more.  A lot of grey area to wade through.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 12:07:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think I could serve a domme that bowed in submission to another. Especially not if my domme was submissive to a master of the house.
I am currently in a dynamic where dominance is shared. Listen to Miss when she is present and listen to Sir when Miss is not.
It is an entirely different dynamic when your Miss is married to a Sir.


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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 12:47:37 AM   
beth314


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Status: offline 		Yes, I imagine that would be a different dynamic all together. I was always under the impression that there can only be 1 true Head of  Household, though. Does having 2 dominants in one house work very well?

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 12:51:45 AM   
beth314


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Status: offline 		Yes Sir! it appears that every one of them is different...which is comforting:)

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 3:23:57 AM   
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Why do you assume that if there is a male involved that the Domme involved is submitting to him?
 
Scooter and Jewel are a married couple, both are dominant, neither submits to the other, not ever.
 
Scooter is my Master and we are looking to add a sub for Jewel, a lesbian is a good possibility here, why would that present an issue?
 
Sounds like you've been approached about joining a situation like you described and did not care to do so.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 3:33:13 AM   
RainydayNE


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Status: offline 		there are some people with Dom/mes who are subs to someone else
if you go to the poly board (or maybe the switch board, too? i dunno) and poke around, you'll read all kinds of different scenarios
works for some, not for others
if it doesnt work for you, it doesn't work for you =p

i dont think there's enough in her post to assume that she's assuming. she may've been approached with this situation spelled out and it turned her off, and she's "reacting." maybe she was involved with someone who then said "oh wait, yeah i have this OTHER issue we should deal with" =p  people do stuff like that, you know =p


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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 5:52:56 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: beth314
just baffles me! How can someone who wants to totally surrender (sexually and Non)their life to a lesbian Domme even be condidered to join a home with a male Head of Household? Is it just me or are there any other subs/slaves who can relate when I say that you cannot repect/serve a woman who shows submission to any person...anytime?! Submission of a Domme just shatters the whole concept....or am I just messed up? the idea of a poly doesnt bother me at all....think it would be kinda nice having multiple slaves/subs to work together to serve one Domme....do all polyhouseholds include a male?

Hello beth,

you're not nuts, or strange first of all.
What's fine for the one, isn't for the next.
Wwe're all individuals. And you don't understand
being a switch, and there for would not want to
submit to one, which is your good right.

Doesn't make you any wierder then anyone else hon.

It's a path to learn, and to walk through in order
to know what your do's and dont's are.

Regarding to your First question, how could She?
Apparently that's how She loves it that way?

Each to thier own hon !

I wish you enough.

GoddezzT`


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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 5:58:15 AM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		The error here is the assumption that submission is always gender connected--not true, there are many subs who don't care if its male or female, its the submission aspect that drives them not the potential sexual connection.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 10:07:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: beth314

just baffles me! How can someone who wants to totally surrender (sexually and Non)their life to a lesbian Domme even be condidered to join a home with a male Head of Household? Is it just me or are there any other subs/slaves who can relate when I say that you cannot repect/serve a woman who shows submission to any person...anytime?! Submission of a Domme just shatters the whole concept....or am I just messed up? the idea of a poly doesnt bother me at all....think it would be kinda nice having multiple slaves/subs to work together to serve one Domme....do all polyhouseholds include a male?


You name the possibility of mixture and it exists. Hell, I am a dominant woman that shares living space with an utterly vanilla male. The very idea of anyone submitting to him, or "serving" him just purely freaks him out. Yet, he is there and has to be taken into consideration by anyone that wants to serve me.

You simply need to find a situation that fits your comfort zone and needs.


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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 10:12:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are plenty of domme/mistress that serve their alpha males and yet are hell on wheels to all others and how does 2 dominants in the house work,,well if lines are set and not crossed..bounty

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 11:38:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		You really can't respect someone just because they are a submissive?

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 11:50:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		to each their own.

Obvioulsy you can not submit to someone who submits to someone else,  Would you top someone who wishes to submit to you or is it that black and white to you-- that eiter you are on top or you are on the bottom and will always be that way?

I am submissive to one man, I cannot be submissive to all, and I am not attracted to men who wish to be submissive to me.  However, I have never met a woman that brings out the submissive traits in me, either she is submissive or she is my equal.

Just because these are my feelings and my natural inclinations, I would not expect others to conform to my paradigm.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 6:39:45 PM   
jstmi


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Status: offline 		hi beth
i have enjoyed reading this thread,interesting  for sure, i replied to this comment because it is so appropriate and timely. i am  proud and very happy to be submissive, but i am too under the belief that i could not serve a switch and if you are a switch i believe you need to be honest and up front about this, always. however,  if You were the Domme who turned a Domme with switch tendencies that is a whole different story , winx :)
 
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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 7:53:41 PM   
beth314


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Status: offline 		I assume because...I dunno. Maybe because I was raised in the typical "Mayberry" town where every house had 2.3 kids,ranch style home and a station wagon with male as head of household? Beats me...I just know how I feel and I have a real mental block serving one who serves, and it might have something to do with I would never want to be in a situation where I was expected to service a male sexually and if he demands it of her and she is submissive to him, then...well dont even wanna go there.

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