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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 7:59:29 PM

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Yeah, I'm beginning to see that there doesnt seem to be any 2 poly homes alike...and yes I am reacting:) THNX!

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:03:54 PM

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Thank you sooo much, Goddezz T! I think your words are "ear candy" :-)

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:09:41 PM

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Aaahhhh, yes the submission aspect may be what drives them but eventually your gonna have to look at the sex aspect. Some of us just dont appreciate sex with the male gender. Its kinda like when you hear people say,"I dont look at the outside, I look at the inside." BS! you must be attracted to someone in some way to even want to know who they are on the inside.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:16:41 PM

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Here's to my zone and needs!:) Maybe I could start a slave home and we could all elect our Domme, suddenly we become the interviewers instead of the interviewees

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:19:23 PM

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You are interviewing her/them as much as they are interviewing you sweetie. The interactions have to fit all parties involved and you don't have to conform to someone's idea any more than they have to conform to yours.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:25:29 PM

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I feel almost the complete opposite. The idea of "poly" bothers me. A lot. Other people are able to make it work, so more power to them.

On the other hand, it doesn't really bother me that a dominant has submitted or would like to submit to someone else at some point.

Diff'rent strokes, as others have said.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:27:36 PM

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NO, I could top someone who wants to be submissive to me and no doubt she would enjoy it far more than me...because I do not enjoy it and afterwards I could never submit to her. Certainly if someone wants to switch or even completely flip script, that is their choice...I just cannot serve them.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:33:00 PM

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I know, Right? This is amazing! I never dreamed that I would get this kind of my response for questioning my sanity:) I guess I need a lesbian Domme who is just that and all the time... not just until she gets in the mood to feel a man inside of her.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:38:45 PM

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yes but it can be so overwhelming...There are alot of frogs between me and the Frogess of my dreams...sorry that was a really tacky pun:(

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:41:17 PM

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You and me, we make up the "it takes all kinds to make the world go around:)

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:45:52 PM

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I don't think there is anything odd about wanting your Domme to have the same sexual interests that you have. I mean, most people here want their partners to want the same, or at least complimentary, things that they want, so why should you be different? Best wishes on those frog-esses btw

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 8:53:11 PM

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Thanks! and I agree the idea of switching confuses me to...either you are one or the other to me...but I'm not everybody and tend to think things to death trying to find the logic in it.

I am a daughter and will be a mother, I don't need to be one or the other - I can be both.

It's all parts of a person and balencing them. Some people can't be mothers, some people can't be submissives. Those who can be both dominant and submissive aren't confusing to me. They are simply multi-faceted. Most people are after all. I consider tending to one's owner while they are in subspace simply another way of serving.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 9:14:26 PM

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thanks! so nice to have so many points of view...and Im not in any hurry for my Frogess. There's a difference in being alone and lonely, ya know? I would like to meet her before I have to seek a diaper fetish soley for medical reasons because I've grown so old:)

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 9:26:15 PM

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Its wonderful that you feel that way because you will always have plenty of options. However, not quite sure I understand your analogy. My confusion comes from the fact that you can be a mother, daughter, sister and friend and approach all of those things while remaining true to who you are because one is complimentary to the other... But Domme and sub/slave are opposite. Honestly, I am not trying to be argumentative ...just curious, that's all:)

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 9:46:33 PM

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I don't really see a problem, and wouldn't experience a block (if the genders were switched, of course).

The Domme to my Dom would know, of course, that I am not HER submissive. I would not ACT like her submissive, and when put into any situation where I would feel uncomfortable with the dynamic, I would voice my opinion to both my dominant, and his dominant.

It's quite simple, to me. I'm submissive to him, only, because I trust him and want to make him happy. Neither supersedes the other. If I lose trust, I lose the will to submit. If I no longer want to make him happy, likewise (though this would arguably be a relationship-ending event entirely). Him 'handing me over' to her would instantly make me lose trust if it wasn't done with my express consent. Likewise, being expected to service (sexually) women at all would make me lose trust entirely.

It may not end the relationship, but for a time it would certainly end the BDSM parts of it.

Of course, I don't see any aspect of BDSM as a side of a coin (or die or anything else that has faces), I see it encompassed as a whole. I'm a submissive because, in my relationships, the entire aim/goal for me is to please my partner. That is where I get my satisfaction. BDSM aspects (such as actual submissive and dominant play, or impact) come after a trust has been forged and I don't consider it a 'relationship' until I have this overwhelming desire to please him.

That said I could likewise be considered a 'switch' because I've got a dash of sadist in me (and, actually, I enjoy hitting women more than men, usually). Some might even consider me a dominant because I will enforce my will and my way (usually because I know it will lead to greater happiness on the part of my partner) quite often, so that the only outwardly signs of submission are sexual, or masochistic in nature. Who's to say dominants can't be the same, or different, ways?

To sum up, as a submissive my most important desire is to please my dominant. If my dominant is pleased by being submissive to another, then I would likely encourage it (with healthy boundaries, of course).

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 10:02:44 PM

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Aravaian, THANK YOU! your view is most compelling and I clearly see what you are saying. I do not have a problem "being" with someone else ( as long as she's female) to please my Mistress; but, I can only submit to ONE. This thread has really helped me to discover some hard limits for myself...and that's a good thing:)

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 10:16:23 PM

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Its wonderful that you feel that way because you will always have plenty of options. However, not quite sure I understand your analogy. My confusion comes from the fact that you can be a mother, daughter, sister and friend and approach all of those things while remaining true to who you are because one is complimentary to the other... But Domme and sub/slave are opposite. Honestly, I am not trying to be argumentative ...just curious, that's all:)

I hope it's not inappropriate to comment here, but I don't see why or how dominant and submissive are opposite/incompatible. For example, in almost any military chain of command, a soldier might be accountable to some and responsible for others.

Admittedly, that has nothing to do with whether you are willing or able to submit to someone who submits to others (I recognize and respect your choices), but I hope it shows how someone might be both submissive and dominant.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 10:27:03 PM

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Its wonderful that you feel that way because you will always have plenty of options. However, not quite sure I understand your analogy. My confusion comes from the fact that you can be a mother, daughter, sister and friend and approach all of those things while remaining true to who you are because one is complimentary to the other... But Domme and sub/slave are opposite. Honestly, I am not trying to be argumentative ...just curious, that's all:)

A better analogy may be this: I am neither heterosexual or homosexual - I'm both, or neither depending on how you want to look at it, aka bisexual. Why must orientation always be opposites?

Understand, I'm not saying what you should or should not do in your own relationships. Only that switches are no more confusing than bisexuals. It's not a matter of polar opposites and black and white but of attraction. While I find the term submissive best applies to me there are those to whom I feel dominant towards. It's a matter of chemistry with each person in question.

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 11:01:06 PM

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Sure I can see that...and it does make sense and does shed some light on the switch thing...just not anyone I would consider a relationship with, and thank you:)

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RE: serving a Domme who shows submission? - 1/12/2009 11:03:26 PM

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Ahhhh...thats a great analogy:)

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