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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/14/2009 8:59:59 PM

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No and no -- heck, I might even want to join them.(If it was photography.)

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/14/2009 9:16:23 PM

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If you were interested in someone and found out that they had posed for nude photos or in pornographic movies or kink photos for publication would that cross a hard-limit for you? What if your current partner(s) wanted to explore being this type of model or actor? Would that end the relationship?

Nah. We'd have something in common!

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/14/2009 10:49:53 PM

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I have an UM, so the answer is yes and yes.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/14/2009 11:05:57 PM

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If it were something she had done in the past, it wouldn't matter to me at all.

If it were something she wanted to pursue NOW, it still wouldn't be a hard limit, but there would have to be some crystal-clear parameters.

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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

If you were interested in someone and found out that they had posed for nude photos or in pornographic movies or kink photos for publication would that cross a hard-limit for you? What if your current partner(s) wanted to explore being this type of model or actor? Would that end the relationship?

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 12:39:24 AM

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I couldn't be bothered less by a significant other having done or wanting to do nude/kink modeling. Porn with some form of intercourse might be an issue if I was currently involved with the person, though it would really depend on the relationship.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 12:59:02 AM

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not at all for me, i love it

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 1:22:04 AM

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I've done some fetish modeling in the past and the pics were published on various websites, but that never did anything to make Mistress unhappy. In fact, it had the opposite effect. Since she is a very visual person, like a typical male, she wanted to see the pics I was in. She approved! LOL She says that if the opportunity ever came up again, she would volunteer me before I could ask for permission. There is a catch, however. I would not be allowed to do anything involving sexual intercourse or full nudity. Since she is a major rubber fetishist, I'd only be allowed to do rubber bondage and encasement pics, and virtually anything short of actual intercourse. She'd be happy to watch other dommes bind and torture me for a chance to grab any new ideas or techniques. So when I think I'm having fun, she's on the sidelines plotting different ways to make my life with her just that more "uncomfortable"...and I love it!

As for Mistress modeling, I certainly don't like the idea of her posing nude or for porn. Luckily for me, she not only is against the idea of posing nude and in porno, she also takes my feelings into consideration, too. I would be supportive of her if she ever wanted to do fetish modeling, though. Lord knows I think she is more than sexy enough to do it.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 1:25:43 AM

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Well, after nigh on 14 years, I might be kind of pissed off that he didn't say something about it before now, but, doubt that would put an end to things. As far as if he wanted to do so, I might have an issue with it, as although we are in a poly relationship, we're not in an OPEN relationship. Now, if he wanted me to take pics or film... Definitely not a hard limit, in fact, I rather like doing so. ;)

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 1:26:52 AM

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How exactly could someone's past behaviors be considered a "hard limit".
It doesn't affect your current relationship (unless they're actively doing porn).
It's just being judgmental.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 2:44:34 AM

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No it wouldn't be a problem as long as I was running her personal security. After being married to one of Australia's top strippers and fire eaters, my horizons and acceptance levels have been widened.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 2:48:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: curvyslavegirl

How exactly could someone's past behaviors be considered a "hard limit".
It doesn't affect your current relationship (unless they're actively doing porn).
It's just being judgmental.

Child abuser? Hard core drug addict? Axe-murderer? Serial rapist?

The past does not paint the future. What the past does do is tell you what a person is capable of, and in some cases, tells you the daily struggles they have. Recidivism rates are rampant among certain types of behavior which means regardless of whether those actions are ever undertaken again, the types of thought that led them is still there. Understanding that and using it in your relationships has nothing to do with being judgmental. When it comes to these two topics however, I tend to agree with a poster above in that most have done some form of both - albeit mostly amateur. So my answer to the OP would be no and no.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 2:51:56 AM

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There are MASSIVE differences between those things and taking a few pictures of yourself.
They are all illegal offenses against another person.
The fact that you can't tell the difference is quite sad.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 2:57:30 AM

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I understand the difference. You asked how someone's past behaviors could be considered a hard limit. It is all the time. Just not on this topic.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 3:00:10 AM

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It wouldnt be a problem for me, since I have done nude modeling, and once did a porn video.

Oooh.. what was it like and where can I get a copy?

No It would not bother me. I have been naked on stage in front of 3000 people, including my in-laws. I think that a certain amount of care needs to be exercised in doing something like this, but done right, it can be fun and very hot.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 3:07:21 AM

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Welp, first of all, did the pictures "turn you off"??
That's is the only think that comes to my mind about a lover having a past
that involves modeling......

I know my hairy butt is out there on the web.......<shudders>

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 3:15:06 AM

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As for the past...posing for pictures isn't all that bad. Them having been in a porno move could be a factor but if it's in the past and won't affect the current it can be dealt with.

But if I'm with someone with currently then yes, them doing a porn would be a big issue. I don't share. As for pictures...I dunno, I'd be iffy on it. Depends on the person and the shoot, yada yada yada.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 3:37:38 AM

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Yes it would be a problem. I would think that if we're incompatible on that issue we'd be incompatible on our morals and values as well and that I really didn't know this person as well as I thought I did.

It would most likely end our relationship unless we were able to open up communication and start all over again from the beginning and he decided not to do the porn. If he decided to continue with the idea then yes the relationship would be over.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 3:37:55 AM

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No...it would not bother me one way or the other.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 3:40:27 AM

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I wouldn't do any kind of porn or any kind of kink posing, but I do have a ton of nude photos floating around. He obviously didn't mind that since he knew about it before we even met.

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RE: Your partner posing nude or for porn, hard limit? - 1/15/2009 3:51:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: curvyslavegirl
How exactly could someone's past behaviors be considered a "hard limit".
It doesn't affect your current relationship (unless they're actively doing porn).
It's just being judgmental.

Hardly. For people in certain professions, having a partner who could be seen having sex would ruin their lives. Politics, education, religion. All areas where past behaviors could easily erode present respect.

Do you think a middle or high school teacher would get the same respect after the students watched her on the net be pissed on as she would if they hadn't seen such a thing?

A person running for public office would see their campaign derailed by the attention paid to their partner's history.
Et cetera.

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