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What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, and BDSM? - 1/16/2009 6:45:34 PM

rednicky

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I know there are many people here who just 'knew' that bdsm was for them. But what about those who developed the need for it in their lives via some life changing events? What was the event and how did it happen?

I know I got into fights with boys while in grade school and developed a crush on the boys after the fights. I couldn't figure out why until I realized that I liked it when guys stood up to me when I started talking sh*t and challenging people. Nothing was sexier than a man NOT going easy on me because I am a girl and forcing me to eat a big slice of humble pie. Then I started liking dominant men. Needless to say, though, they didn't return my feelings the week after I kicked them in the shins...

So what about you?

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:07:55 PM

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I drew the short straw.

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:09:18 PM

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I'm not in a community. I'm in a relationship with one.
Pet peeve aside, I've wanted to be tied up ever since seeing Nell tied to the tracks in the old Dudley Dooright cartoons. Rope just flat out does it for me.

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:15:57 PM

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i am not part of the comune anymore because it has become agenda seeking i am my own person yep

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:19:11 PM

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sorry .ive always been this way...i cant comment

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:19:34 PM

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Erm.........no one else wanted me? LOL

I've always been drwn towards anything which is considered "outside the norm." Thus the realm of kink and BDSM is where I feel at home.

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:24:07 PM

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i not one to belong to communities. Did the commune living decades ago. I come here to CM to learn and have noticed there are a lot of nice people here.

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:26:06 PM

rednicky

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(sigh) alright alright I'll get rid of the 'community' part. I didn't think so many people would have such an issue with being considered part of one.

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RE: What's your reason for being part of the BDSM commu... - 1/16/2009 7:31:09 PM

Celene

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I'm me, send the community over. <W>

seriously, the community can be hard to handle if you are, as I am, someone who deals with the public but likes (very damn much) her privacy. ....
So, I'm on the fringe of the community and that is one reason I enjoy the forums and this 'community' so dang much.,

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 9:18:26 PM

Loliita

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I don't have a reason...I just am. I have always had power to make those around me do as I say. In addition I've always been somewhat kinky but I kept it a secret because I didn't want to be seen as a freak. Lately I've been exposing my boyfriends and regular friends to my kinky side by making them do things for me. Often times they don't want to do my kinky bidding but I usually make them do it anyway (none of it is extreme, most just embarrassing or silly).

I decided I needed to find people more like me. People that would not wine so much when I dressed them up in my clothes and gave them a good spanking and then made them do chores. Also, non kinky guys cry too much when you use a strap-on. Actually, I've never used a strap-on. I tried twice but one guy cried so much at the threat I felt guilty and the other guy seemed to have too small an asshole and I didn't want to break him.

So here I am on collarme. To learn more about kink and to read lots and lots of really weird mail from horny men. :-O

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 9:26:38 PM

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I have always just been turned on by kinky stuff, Far back into childhood bout as young as third grade, I'd masturbate and fantasize about, many, many different things, I would pretend to rape and over power my stuffed toys too, making them beg please no please don't* shit like that* And I'd be like oh yes I want to and I will* more shit like that*. I also knew at a very young age the shower head was good for masturbation, and would use it very often.

The idea of power play and power struggles turned me on quite a lot.

That could be because I was molested from fourth grade clear up until I reported it when I turned 13 however. I don't know, and I don't have any way to know other wise.

Which progressed to playing sex games with my best friend, and I'd take my moms sex to y catalogs and loved to look at all the stuff in there.

Even now as a 26 year old, Certain Kinky stuff just does it for me.

I wouldn't call it being into bdsm particularly since bdsm means bondage, domination sado masochism, or well it's one of the definitions, and I'm not into bondage, nor am I into sadism, giving nor getting. I'd say I am just plain kinky.

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

I know there are many people here who just 'knew' that bdsm was for them. But what about those who developed the need for it in their lives via some life changing events? What was the event and how did it happen?

I know I got into fights with boys while in grade school and developed a crush on the boys after the fights. I couldn't figure out why until I realized that I liked it when guys stood up to me when I started talking sh*t and challenging people. Nothing was sexier than a man NOT going easy on me because I am a girl and forcing me to eat a big slice of humble pie. Then I started liking dominant men. Needless to say, though, they didn't return my feelings the week after I kicked them in the shins...

So what about you?

< Message edited by YourhandMyAss -- 1/16/2009 9:58:03 PM >

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 9:32:42 PM

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I married a collage professor when I was young. I was a typical submissive trophy wife in a 50s style household. In 1993, 10 years after my divorce and long after I had given up on love, I met a sadistic Master that enflamed my emotionally submissive and erotic passions. He showed me an outlet for my passionate desires that fit my personality in the BDSM lifestyle. I have been in love with the leather lifestyle ever since.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 9:48:50 PM

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it was an incident that happened when i was just 5years old that was the trigger for my embracing the lifestyle and my submissiveness.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 9:54:15 PM

Usako

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I'm not part of any community, perhaps maybe just a passerby. Peek in, pick up a couple of solid friends, knowledge, etc and do things my own way. As for why I'm into BDSM...why not? I'm a pervert. I don't have some deep ingrained nature to serve anyone or be served, in the end I want a connection and if I can find one by way of BDSM then I'll be a happy kitten.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 9:57:13 PM

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The shiny badge I got when I signed up.....

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 10:34:23 PM

ChristyCougar

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial
The shiny badge I got when I signed up.....

I feel so neglected . . . I never got a badge, only bruises.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 10:38:20 PM

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Because it turns me on

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 10:48:53 PM

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Like a lot of folks I suspect, I simply followed my instincts and here I am. It's something very fundamental, almost innate. Perhaps it is innate?

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/16/2009 10:50:47 PM

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Kinky little freak that's a bit controlling. Where else am I to go?

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/17/2009 2:15:59 AM

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The first time I married a dominant vanilla man, and he asked me to get his clothes ready because he was going out, I just about fell on the floor rolling and laughing at the absurdity. Don't misunderstand me, I actually like to help my man dress well and always look decent, but the way he ordered me to go do it is exactly how I would order a man, but find it unacceptable when done to me.

I always knew I wanted a man who yielded, and lived to serve me, but, I didn't know how much I would itch and chafe at being attached to a dominant/domineering one. Needless to say, I would sooner join the convent than do a "conventional" relationship again. M

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