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How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 11:24:32 AM

JackHammer2000

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How did your last relationship end? Why did it end? Whose fault, if any? How did both parties take the ending?

You can also post about relationships other than your last one that may have a more interesting ending.

And, of course, please feel free to post about more than one relationship and how they ended.

If you're willing to share, it might be a good idea to mention how your relationship started as well.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 11:48:21 AM

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You are more likely to get responses if you offer your info first and why you are asking.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 1:34:33 PM

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I asked for release in my last relationship. I did not wish to marry him and it is what he wanted.
Nobodies fault, just a parting of ways. It ended well. He lives 4 hours from me now. We've been back and forth visiting a few times since moving out here.

It started by two people talking while we were at a club.

Current relationship has not ended.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 1:39:49 PM

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I'm not touching this one with a ten foot pole...

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 1:43:47 PM

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Apparently, he didn't have a 10 ft. pole, or else you'd still be with him!

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 2:11:05 PM

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Apparently, he didn't have a 10 ft. pole, or else you'd still be with him!

LMAO

Ahhh... the wit around this place. Thanks for the laugh, I really needed one

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 2:54:51 PM

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I'm not touching this one with a ten foot pole...

brilliant....i've never thought of ending one that way....

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 3:47:06 PM

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We met online through yahoo personals.

It ended with me telling him to find someone else to sit around and beg for his time I am done, I quit.

It ended because he was a mommies boy, who was letting his mother interfere with our relationship and I got sick of it.

I would fully say it's mostly his fault, but I do have some blame in the whole thing, for not running the other way at the beginning when I realized the full extent to the mommy boyness and for being foolish enough to get involved with someone who was so helpless and unwilling to protect themselves or stand up for themselves, even against family members.

Before the breakup I cried and agonized about it and was in a lot of pain. When I reached my breaking point, I was perfectly calm, and I was quite ok with the descion. I allowed myself a week to kind of wah wah and do any residual hurting, and then I moved on. It sounds callous to move on after only a week, but our relationship had been slowly tanking for about a year, and I agnozied for quite a while before ending it.

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ORIGINAL: JackHammer2000

How did your last relationship end? Why did it end? Whose fault, if any? How did both parties take the ending?

You can also post about relationships other than your last one that may have a more interesting ending.

And, of course, please feel free to post about more than one relationship and how they ended.

If you're willing to share, it might be a good idea to mention how your relationship started as well.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 4:23:39 PM

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I'm assuming you're meaning relationship prior to any you have now?

My fault. Something about leaning back against a counter and saying, find someone else, has a way of ending up your fault regardless. How did both parties take it? Well, I took it quite well.

How it started? Fucking her on desk in her office - and that literally was how the relationship started.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 4:41:44 PM

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My last 2 ended quickly because I was lied to.

How did your last relationship end? Why did it end? Whose fault, if any? How did both parties take the ending?
1. I moved a sub into my home from across the country early last year. I knew him and his famly almost a year before. He lied constantly, drank alot and wrecked both my cars in one night. It lasted 7 weeks. This relationship started on Warcraft; a game we both play. He AND his family took it very badly that I threw him out. I actually had to call the police and hire a lawyer.
2. Lasted 2 weeks. Lied to me about where he lived. He lived 50 miles away and tried to tell me it was 3 miles away. I met him here. He denied he had lied even though he admited he lived 50 miles away. Very confused man.

I doubt either was my fault but I will take the blame for making poor choices. However I put up with very little as the first one was over in 7 weeks and the second didn't last but 2 weeks.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 4:41:48 PM

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My last relationship ended in his death after 29 years of marriage. Other relationships and marriage prior to that are best left in the dust.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 5:08:26 PM

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If I tell you all the sordid details of my last breakup (and trust me, it's a fucking juicy story), what will you give me in exchange

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 5:15:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JackHammer2000

How did your last relationship end? Why did it end? Whose fault, if any? How did both parties take the ending?

You can also post about relationships other than your last one that may have a more interesting ending.

And, of course, please feel free to post about more than one relationship and how they ended.

If you're willing to share, it might be a good idea to mention how your relationship started as well.

Plain and simple...I walked away
Sorry but I refuse to get into the who's fault it is blame game. We were not suited for each other and left before we got stuck in blaming each other for our faults.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 5:22:58 PM

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My only relationship wortth mentioning lasted for 15 years and ended with his death. I have not bothered with anyone since then.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 5:42:49 PM

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How: Badly
Why: Doesn't matter, it ended, it's over.
Fault: That's a double ended question, that would depend on whose side of the story you heard.
How the parties take it: I walked away and brushed the slime off me. How he took it? I have no idea and couldn't give a rat's ass.

*bright grin*

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 6:01:21 PM

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I'm poly so to avoid any confusion, my current relationship is still intact but my last relationship that was not with my partner was a 3 month intense D/s relationship with my boy/puppy. It ended because he realized he was still in love with his ex who lived 1000 miles away and didn't want to consider "sharing" so I told him I wasn't going to stand in his way. I guess no blame to be assigned there. As for how parties took it, he seemed crushed by my releasing him but within a week he was all in love with his ex again (though she told me later he cried about me for about a month straight.) I took the breakup alright except that it irked the hell out of me to see him posting on sites about how much he loved his new Mistress (i.e. the ex he was back with.) It didn't last very long with them either though...she let him go after several months. C'est la vie.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 6:39:39 PM

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* I used to love her...but

I had to kill her...

Now shes buried right in my...backyard*

Those were the....days.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 6:41:12 PM

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He left. Fault? Well HE is the one that left, but since he really did me a favour, let's say it was all for the best.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 7:42:47 PM

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How it ended: It was a five-year relationship. It probably should have ended after four years. In November 2007, he emailed me at work with a "Dear Jane" letter that he says wasn't intended to be a "Dear Jane" letter, but definitely was one.

Why it ended: First I moved 3 hours away, for a new job - then a year later, I moved 4 hours away. Then he was sent 1000 miles away on an extended assignment. Neither of us could afford the time or $ to fly to see each other. Since he doesn't use IM and neither of us enjoy yakking on the phone, keeping in close touch was extremely difficult. After six months of not seeing him, I was trying to get him to talk about what we should do about the relationship when I got the email.

Whose fault was it: Both - he didn't make clear that he wanted to marry me until I had moved the first time, and I told him that I wasn't going to pass up the chance to move back to Pittsburgh after 25 years. I think that hurt him but I was very clear about that from the time I met him.

How did both parties take it: I don't know about him. For me, after the initial shock that he would have handled it so carelessly and cluelessly, it was a relief.

How did it begin: We met through match.com and had a vanilla first date...and a kinky second date. We were very compatible, but life took us in different directions.

We are still friends, though we don't keep in close touch. I miss playing with him, but I don't miss him.
P.S. I would have turned down the proposal even if he'd made it in time. I never believed that was what he really wanted anyway.

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RE: How Did It End? - 1/17/2009 7:52:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: JackHammer2000

How did your last relationship end? Why did it end? Whose fault, if any? How did both parties take the ending?

You can also post about relationships other than your last one that may have a more interesting ending.

And, of course, please feel free to post about more than one relationship and how they ended.

If you're willing to share, it might be a good idea to mention how your relationship started as well.

Just out of curiosity, before I spill my reasons...
why do you want to know?

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