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RE: How Did It End? - 2/2/2009 6:02:47 PM

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We just went in different directions and I wanted more of a commitment from him than he was willing to give me. Not long after we broke up, he fell in love with someone else. Talk about the emotions of feeling abandoned with a lot of hurt and pain. I feel this was painful for him but I know now you cannot force someone to love you when they are not in love with you.

I am still on friendly terms with him. I have been on my own for quite some time and this is not so bad because I am getting to know myself better than I ever had when I became involved or attached to any past relationships.

Looking back, I don't think this was my fault or his fault. I will admit I became very insecure with myself after having many failed relationships. However, I am very careful about jumping into another relationship until I get to know the dom as a person first.

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RE: How Did It End? - 2/2/2009 6:04:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

"I can't keep track of each fallen rhyme."

Sincerely,

L. Cohen

Ok, now "someone" needs to slow down a bit and do more "pre-collaring" research

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RE: How Did It End? - 2/2/2009 6:48:47 PM

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I try very hard never to play the victim. My last relationship ended after two years together. I found out that he was seeking someone else and not honest with me about it. He had mulitiple profiles and I discovered them after I had some suspicions. My part in this? I saw the signs way before and I ignored them. I would try to talk to him about it, but he assured me all was ok. What I have learned from this was to always trust my gut feelings. I knew he wasn't happy, and probably he isn't happy with himself, and is always seeking that acceptance from someone else. After two years together, we had our share of ups and downs. Somewhere along the lines we lost our spark. I wish he would have talked to me about it. People make mistakes. I know I can't trust him, yet that has never stopped me from caring about him and loving him. We are no longer together in a D/s sense. I still talk to him from time to time. Other people don't understand why I would want to. All I can say is you don't throw away over two years of caring about someone because they made a mistake. Would I ever go back to him? No I wouldn't. Do I still care about him? Yes, very much.

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RE: How Did It End? - 2/2/2009 10:33:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: JackHammer2000

How did your last relationship end? Why did it end? Whose fault, if any? How did both parties take the ending?

Badly. I found that she'd rekindled a relationship with someone I had forbidden her. Mine, apparently - I was the owner, after all. She went off the deep end, and reinvented reality. I hit a long, ugly slump.

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If you're willing to share, it might be a good idea to mention how your relationship started as well.

I'm always willing to share - everyone has a purpose, and mine is to be the "don't do this" example.

I started dating a remarkably cute lass who was in a poly relationship. She asked the inevitable question that sunk many budding relationships before - "What do you do for a living?:. I bit the bullet and answered "Make leather goods. Some for the Renfest crowd, some for the Wiccans, but mostly for the whips-and-chains crowd". She: "You know anything about the whips-and-chains folks?" Me: "I run the local organization of them." She: "Are you a top or bottom?" Me: "I'm a dominant". <gulp - now's where she's gonna hit that door runnin'.> She: "Are you any good at it?" Me: <sigh - this may work, after all! Wheee!> "That's something you'll have to decide for yourself."

12 years later, she tells me that she'd been co-owned for the previous 6 years by someone I'd promised to kill if he ever showed up in our city again. It can't have been all her - we were both foolin' me. It ended.

Is that the sort of story you were lookin' for?

Why?

Midnight Writer
Doin' the 'full disclosure' bit, for those subs that do "due diligence".

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