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Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:19:42 PM   
Lee4U2tie


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Status: offline 		When a Dom makes long long speeches or gives you tasks to do that have nothing to do with a Dom/sub type setting?

I'm a type that likes things to be pretty cut and dry, you know, get your points across, no flowery long ass speeches that take all day.  Unless you have a voice that's a joy to listen to, it's not really interesting to me.  I'll loose focus pretty easy, and it might be ADD, who knows, I am and Art student after all lol.  But long winded speeches really don't interest me, especially when it's added in with others own beliefs, say if they think they can read stones, or your energy or have psychic ability.  really just makes them sound like a nutjob to me.
The other thing is, does a Dom ever give you subs a random text message to look up somethign for him that has nothing to do with you and him/her and your relationship?  Does it annoy you?  It annoys me.  I'm not a personal secretary...personal secretaries get PAID...

Any other annoying little things you've exsperienced that are thigns you'd preffer if a Dom didn't do?  Oh and Doms feel free to say any little annoying thing that you see subs do that you wish wouldn't be.  ^_~
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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:23:59 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		No, it never annoyed me to do any task my former owner wanted me to do - from sexual service, to helping him with work, to running errands, to self improvement assignments, to shopping for new products for him...you get the idea.  Serving him was a pleasure. 

If he chose to give long winded lectures (a rarity), I listened.

Maybe you're with the wrong dominant for you?


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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:29:49 PM   
Lee4U2tie


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Status: offline 		could be could be. It's also a new kind may/december type relationship, so maybe he gets along better with women his own age, I don't know myself.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:39:55 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		No I"m never annoyed. I'm his slave. I listen to him with intent with everything he says to me and he often gives me tasks to look up things or to do something for him that has nothing to do with sex. I do those tasks because I am his slave to make his life easier and more enjoyable.

If it's not your thing then that's fine. You just need to find someone that is compatible with you in those aspects. I'd say you're probably not suitable for a d/s or M/s relatoinship then though.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:41:57 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		I agree with NV that I think he's not the right type for you.  Having said that, I have run across doms, in the getting-to-know-you stage, that like to deliver long-winded speeches about BDSM.  I remember at one point, after one in particular paused to take a breath, I said, "you keep saying when a submissive does this or when a submissive does that... but what does this have to do with me?" 

Okay, that's probably clear as mud.  The emphasis was on "A" submissive, any submissive, a generic submissive, and had nothing whatsoever to do with me. 


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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:44:21 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lee4U2tie

When a Dom makes long long speeches or gives you tasks to do that have nothing to do with a Dom/sub type setting?

I'm a type that likes things to be pretty cut and dry, you know, get your points across, no flowery long ass speeches that take all day.  Unless you have a voice that's a joy to listen to, it's not really interesting to me.  I'll loose focus pretty easy, and it might be ADD, who knows, I am and Art student after all lol.  But long winded speeches really don't interest me, especially when it's added in with others own beliefs, say if they think they can read stones, or your energy or have psychic ability.  really just makes them sound like a nutjob to me.
The other thing is, does a Dom ever give you subs a random text message to look up somethign for him that has nothing to do with you and him/her and your relationship?  Does it annoy you?  It annoys me.  I'm not a personal secretary...personal secretaries get PAID...

Any other annoying little things you've exsperienced that are thigns you'd preffer if a Dom didn't do?  Oh and Doms feel free to say any little annoying thing that you see subs do that you wish wouldn't be.  ^_~



It annoys me when people make poor relationship choices and then try to pawn it off as being a problem with the other person in the relationship they've made the choice to be a part of. If the behavior bothers you, then just choose to associate with a dominant individual who doesn't behave that way -- if it isn't the dominant individual who is managing your relationship, then it's none of your business... and if it is, it sounds like you may be in an incompatible relationship for you. *shrugs*

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:49:39 PM   
Rayne58


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

No, it never annoyed me to do any task my former owner wanted me to do - from sexual service, to helping him with work, to running errands, to self improvement assignments, to shopping for new products for him...you get the idea.  Serving him was a pleasure. 

If he chose to give long winded lectures (a rarity), I listened.

Maybe you're with the wrong dominant for you?



I also do lots of things for Sir which have nothing to do with BDSM or kink.  It's part of my service  

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:54:31 PM   
bound4more


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lee4U2tie

When a Dom makes long long speeches or gives you tasks to do that have nothing to do with a Dom/sub type setting?

I'm a type that likes things to be pretty cut and dry, you know, get your points across, no flowery long ass speeches that take all day.  Unless you have a voice that's a joy to listen to, it's not really interesting to me.  I'll loose focus pretty easy, and it might be ADD, who knows, I am and Art student after all lol.  But long winded speeches really don't interest me, especially when it's added in with others own beliefs, say if they think they can read stones, or your energy or have psychic ability.  really just makes them sound like a nutjob to me.
The other thing is, does a Dom ever give you subs a random text message to look up somethign for him that has nothing to do with you and him/her and your relationship?  Does it annoy you?  It annoys me.  I'm not a personal secretary...personal secretaries get PAID...

Any other annoying little things you've exsperienced that are thigns you'd preffer if a Dom didn't do?  Oh and Doms feel free to say any little annoying thing that you see subs do that you wish wouldn't be.  ^_~



Uh, excuse me - would you please supply your definition of a submissive. Perhaps you're actually on the wrong side of the kneel.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:57:08 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		Sir is an expert at the long speeches, and that is a part of who he is and how he expressed his dominance. Why would that annoy me?  He has a point and needs to express it, so i listen. Sir also knows i am a research freak, and if he needed me to do that it would be done. However, Sir is also a research freak so seldom asks me.

In my relationship what I try to do is make his life easier and have something to offer him as a human being. One thing i will not offer to Sir is whining. It is a good thing since we both have low tolernce to whining. One other factor if i cared deeply about him, I would not post things that displease me about him. That is the respect I willing offer him. 

There are times I might get frustrated with things Sir does, but I also know life ebbs and flows. Some moments things just aren't ideal, because we live in reality. I also am sure that Sir can get frustrated with me as well. Neither of us though would take it to the public and complain.


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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 3:59:56 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		If you don't want someone that rambles, that's fine.
How we handled things that he might say while just talking on the phone, was for him to send me an email later focusing on the one thing he needed me to do. Because otherwise I wouldn't pay attention to it.

I have oftened described our relationship as CEO/exec. ass't. It works for me.

It sounds as though you only want a bedroom D/s relationship to start with. And there's nothing wrong with that as long as you are clear about it when talking to people. But if I wasn't collared, and someone I was just talking to demanded I do things for him I probably would have refused. Because I do this not because I'm submissive, but because I'm submissive just to The Man.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:01:56 PM   
SadieJ6


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Status: offline 		I was a service submissive long before I started practicing BDSM so I don't find doing the "menial things" annoying.
When I'm asked to do something I do it, if I can't then I explain why.

I enjoy doing things for him and he appreciates it, that's what is important.
I only wish my Dom would give me a long winded speech or something to do, as he tends to talk very little.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:02:22 PM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lee4U2tie

When a Dom makes long long speeches or gives you tasks to do that have nothing to do with a Dom/sub type setting?

I'm a type that likes things to be pretty cut and dry, you know, get your points across, no flowery long ass speeches that take all day.  Unless you have a voice that's a joy to listen to, it's not really interesting to me.  I'll loose focus pretty easy, and it might be ADD, who knows, I am and Art student after all lol.  But long winded speeches really don't interest me, especially when it's added in with others own beliefs, say if they think they can read stones, or your energy or have psychic ability.  really just makes them sound like a nutjob to me.
The other thing is, does a Dom ever give you subs a random text message to look up somethign for him that has nothing to do with you and him/her and your relationship?  Does it annoy you?  It annoys me.  I'm not a personal secretary...personal secretaries get PAID...

Any other annoying little things you've exsperienced that are thigns you'd preffer if a Dom didn't do?  Oh and Doms feel free to say any little annoying thing that you see subs do that you wish wouldn't be.  ^_~



What annoys me........whiny people that like to blame others for their own poor choices.

And a stuffed up head.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:02:25 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		I remember once seeing an article about how much a wife would be getting paid if she was paid for all she did during the day. this thread got me wondering what a sub or a slave would get paid (in US dollars) for their services, if someone were to hire someone.

Any ideas?


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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:04:05 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

I remember once seeing an article about how much a wife would be getting paid if she was paid for all she did during the day. this thread got me wondering what a sub or a slave would get paid (in US dollars) for their services, if someone were to hire someone.

Any ideas?



That would depends entirely on exactly WHAT that sub/slave is expected to do and how well they do it. Given all the whining I read on here, if they were my employee.......they would quickly cease to be.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:07:10 PM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Not even slightly.  If I did, I wouldn't be in the relationship.  Maybe you are just incompatable.  Try not shifting the reason onto add, or the fact that you are an art student and accept the responsiblity for possibly making a bad relationship choice?
Submitting for us means follow through of things I enjoy as well as the things I am expected to accomplish, whether I am into them or not.  I love researching for Darcy if instructed!
And If you really want to get paid for submitting, go pro.
 
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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:18:22 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		There are a lot of long-winded D-types in BDSM world.  And there are just as many who prefer succinctinicity. (I made that word up.) 

Another vote here for incompatibility, sorry.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:21:53 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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Status: offline 		Hey... I bet our house would be good for the indecisive.... We have both. I'm long-winded, and my Darling is terse.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:37:06 PM   
playfulotter


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Status: offline 		I actually have thoroughly enjoyed doing things, in past D/s relationships I have been in, where I can really help them with things that might not be their forte such as looking something up online for them or solving a problem they are having trouble with. It can be a challenge and that can be rewarding in and of itself and on top of that it pleases them. To me it really doesn't sound like you are in an exclusive relationship yet but i could be wrong or like others said he isn't the right one for you.


< Message edited by playfulotter -- 1/18/2009 4:39:21 PM >

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:39:28 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		the most annoying task given by my former - look for another girl (to replace me after leaving without his permission)

like you, i loathe long-winded, meaningless speeches that take the scenic route from point A to point B. i instantly get bored if  you don't get to the point in 2 seconds.

oh the random text message to lookup something - would never happen.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:43:03 PM   
Lee4U2tie


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Status: offline 		I understand all of this.  I am sort of new to the game and learning my way into it, it could be an issue of compatibility or just an issue of me being so new.  ^_~  thanks though.

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