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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:45:24 PM

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see I get this the most. I know that it's for his benefit and that it makes his life easier, and I do it, don't get me wrong, I don't say no to such petty requests, I just found myself annoyed today by it, so I thought of posting this. ^_^

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:46:09 PM

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I'm jumping in with the incompatibility vote as well. Dom or sub, whichever side of the kneel, we are still people and not everyone who is sub or slave is compatible with everyone who is dom or master. It is still about getting to know someone as a person, finding out if you are compatible or not before really getting into a relationship or submitting to or dominating someone. For myself, and many others I know, we need to know someone very well before submitting to or dominating them.

It really sounds like you want different things and sitting down and openly communicating with him about what you want and need and expect in a relationship and listening to him tell you in turn what he needs, wants and expects in a relationship will help in determining compatibility or incompatibility. If you are not compatible then move on and find someone who is compatible with you. No blame, no drama and bs, no harm no foul, just simply incompatible in a relationship and moving on to both find what fits you.

One more thing, D/s and M/s relationships do not generally equal 24/7 scene. What I've seen, as well as heard many say, is that they are not "on" or "in scene" 24/7 but rather that the dynamic is base to the relationship and is simply there whether they are each at work at different places, out for dinner, at home watching tv, doing laundry, or grocery shopping or whatever. It simply is and guides the actions, etc. of those in the relationship.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 4:55:22 PM

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Every night in my pad
I see him, I hear him
And it bugs me that he does go on
And within the bedroom
And bedclothes between us
I have a dom who shows he just goes on
Near, far, wherever I am
I believe that my whining also goes on
Once more, not wishing to bore
And I'm here on CM, and my whine will go on and on

My Master can talk for a long time
My whining, a lifetime
And I will never know 'bout who is bored
I'm a straightforward submissive
Just need freedom, and a true dom
But my dom goes on and on
Near, far, wherever I am
I believe that my whining also goes on
Once more, not wishing to bore
And I'm here on CM, and my whine will go on and on

You're here
And to make it more clear
And I know that my whine will go on
I may
Forever stay this way
I just like to whine
And my whine will go on and on

original Celine Dion 'My heart will go on' (Theme from the Titanic)

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 5:03:07 PM

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wow, that's pretty special...

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 5:09:10 PM

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It's ok to be annoyed by something, sometimes the sun rising can be annoying :) You just have to figure out WHY it's annoying and whether it's really an issue to deal with in the relationship.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 5:24:23 PM

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I personally am happy to do anything to make my Masters life a lil bit easier. It makes me feel really good knowing I am helping him out. I think that everyone likes to feel needed/wanted no matter on what side of the whip you reside.

If it annoys you, he probably isn't the right one for you. There are plenty of doms out there ready to wham, whip, and get down to business. Perhaps that is the type you might prefer.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 5:54:17 PM

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He annoys me when He tries to stick chocolate covered peanuts up my nose at the movie theater, but it's all in good fun, so I'm not annoyed for long.

Actually I adore doing anything and everything I can to make His life easier. I have researched and taken care of all sorts of things for Him.

He doesn't do speeches. We just talk........ and sometimes we just enjoy the silence.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 6:12:52 PM

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lol, peanuts...sounds like fun movie times. Well I think Lucky is pretty well at knowing that anything can annoy a person. I'm not saying it's something that's a deal breaker, or that OMG I can't stand it, but just those little things in life that annoy a person. I haven't known Him long enough to like doing things for Him as much, but who knows, my opinion could drastically change over time.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 6:26:26 PM

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I remember once seeing an article about how much a wife would be getting paid if she was paid for all she did during the day. this thread got me wondering what a sub or a slave would get paid (in US dollars) for their services, if someone were to hire someone.

Any ideas?

Yeah, about as much as we Doms would charge for our service to our subs.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 6:30:58 PM

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I tend to be long winded myself, but I can understand struggling with it. My kids would interupt me, saying "And...", while tapping their toes and looking at their watches. I would laugh and then get to the point.

As for compatibility, only you can really say what does and does not fit for you.

As for being new to this, maybe this means you need to define yourself a little more, and figure out what parts of this lifestyle work for you and how they work for you. I've been in this for just over a year and am still trying to define what fits for me.

As for the crabby people who responded in a rude, bitchy manner, and their nasty comments - just ignore them and don't let them get to you! I've discovered that some people on this site are very ignorant, uncaring, rude, demeaning and honestly in need of a good kick in the ass.

Otherwise, best of luck to you. Hope you find happiness in your choices.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 7:26:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lee4U2tie

see I get this the most. I know that it's for his benefit and that it makes his life easier, and I do it, don't get me wrong, I don't say no to such petty requests, I just found myself annoyed today by it, so I thought of posting this. ^_^

I been thinking about your post and came back. I don't know how new you are to Ds/ Ms but I am still relatively new; 2 and half years. I lived in a vanilla marriage for 29 years, and it took me a bit of time to figure things out too with Sir. I remember the first lecture, and here I was thinking I could respond and critique everything he said or plead the 5th. I learned quickly that was a no, no. If you are new and just frustrated, I do understand. For me going from vanilla to Ds has been frustrating many times. It has gotten better for me, because I am understanding more. I guess even this old lady can make major changes in working inside a relationship.

Sorry if i came off rude etc.
Best of luck hun
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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 7:33:55 PM

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thanks hun, it's nice to get a kinder response instead of people jumping down my throat lol

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 7:54:49 PM

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Would love to see your lyrics to the song Sgt. Peppers Lonely Heart Club Band, by the Beatles.:)

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 7:57:07 PM

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Sure I got annoyed. Lot of good it did though lol. I still did what was required of me...annoyance and all.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 7:58:06 PM

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When a Dom makes long long speeches or gives you tasks to do that have nothing to do with a Dom/sub type setting?

I'm a type that likes things to be pretty cut and dry, you know, get your points across, no flowery long ass speeches that take all day. Unless you have a voice that's a joy to listen to, it's not really interesting to me. I'll loose focus pretty easy, and it might be ADD, who knows, I am and Art student after all lol. But long winded speeches really don't interest me, especially when it's added in with others own beliefs, say if they think they can read stones, or your energy or have psychic ability. really just makes them sound like a nutjob to me.
The other thing is, does a Dom ever give you subs a random text message to look up somethign for him that has nothing to do with you and him/her and your relationship? Does it annoy you? It annoys me. I'm not a personal secretary...personal secretaries get PAID...

Any other annoying little things you've exsperienced that are thigns you'd preffer if a Dom didn't do? Oh and Doms feel free to say any little annoying thing that you see subs do that you wish wouldn't be. ^_~

Just sounds like an incompatibility issue to me.

I tend to avoid certain personality traits in some people because I know it tends to bring my irritation out, and quickly.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 8:16:48 PM

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 9:38:08 PM

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Would love to see your lyrics to the song Sgt. Peppers Lonely Heart Club Band, by the Beatles.:)

That's a point... only I'm not too sure if the OP caught the dig-in-the-ribs humour (or humor).., but then again I have a wacky sense of humour.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/18/2009 10:59:37 PM

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I do lots of things for My Lord that are just part of being in relationship. The fact that I have a gift for research and he has a gift for cooking are things we both bring to the relationship, and offer up freely. Occasionally he goes on a long winded rant, but I just remember that I'm prone to losing my mind once every 28 days or so, and realize it all equals out. My patience for his understanding, and everything is fine once we are naked with each other.

So, the question for you to ask is this: does it equal out for me? If it doesn't, you'd just be best not wasting each other's time.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/19/2009 12:59:57 AM

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>Do you find it annoying...

What annoys me are topic headings in which a slave can't be bothered to fill in the topic so we know to skip it… or perhaps read it.

That said, I don't like to issue use make-work tasks. It's wasteful and immature. There's plenty of real work to be done.

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RE: Do you find it annoying... - 1/19/2009 6:57:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lee4U2tie

see I get this the most. I know that it's for his benefit and that it makes his life easier, and I do it, don't get me wrong, I don't say no to such petty requests, I just found myself annoyed today by it, so I thought of posting this. ^_^

And you're not alone.....I find quite a few things exasperating about M and he finds me exasperating too. I'm not here to *make his life easier* as *way of life*, I don't get a deep joyous heart from doing his bidding, if I don't want to do it at the time. I do it, like you do because he asked. I don't associate belonging to someone with *doing stuff for them*. Sometimes I'm hugely happy to do things and sometimes I'm not.........and I know that it's the same for him.

He doesn't expect me to be thrilled at every request.I don't expect him to be thrilled with every aspect of his responsibility to me , either.

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