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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/25/2009 2:46:00 PM

LadyHibiscus

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I must be swimming in the wrong pool.Are you wonderful,beautiful woman actually having a problem getting sub/slave men to show up when presented with the opportunity to meet you.Woman who I would gladly crawl across glass to get next to,are being stood-up.This is hard for me to accept....

Sucks to be us, Mike!

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/25/2009 3:06:20 PM

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Well dear Lady Hibiscus,if you could get a look at it from my side of the fence....you might just change your opinion.

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/25/2009 3:29:54 PM

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I asked another slave to do a very insignificant task for me and he came up with all sorts of excueses.. ."Oh I am so emotionally distraught now...Oh I am confused... Oh I don't want to do a chore for you because you ask me to do it... I want to do it because I want to do it" When a minute ago he was feeling quite fine smiling and stroking his body up on webcam" LOL Needless to say...He bit the dust too. If you can not do any SMALL chore your Domme asks you are also outta there!

So not only are many on here cyber SLUTS but they are also not really submissive.... at all. A 900 # would be a better choice in those situations. LOL

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/25/2009 3:32:03 PM

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I asked another slave to do a very insignificant task for me and he came up with all sorts of excueses.. ."Oh I am so emotionally distraught now...Oh I am confused... Oh I don't want to do a chore for you because you ask me to do it... I want to do it because I want to do it" When a minute ago he was feeling quite fine smiling and stroking his body up on webcam" LOL Needless to say...He bit the dust too. If you can not do any SMALL chore your Domme asks you are also outta there!

So not only are many on here cyber SLUTS but they are also not really submissive.... at all. A 900 # would be a better choice instead of this. LOL

I thought all "good" Dominant women are on here to cater to submissive's.
Don't tell me you are running into "do me's"?

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/27/2009 10:17:07 AM

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I have NEVER gotten someone to show up for just play.
NEVER.

Wow. Unfathomable, from my perspective. I'd be there in a NY minute for playtime with you.

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/28/2009 7:45:14 PM

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Men do not show up? Are you serious? All the messaging and begging and they finally have meeting with sexy dominatrix and they do not show up?
This surprises me. The men sending messages seem so interested I was afraid they would show up 2 days early and stand outside my dorm waiting for me.

I have not scheduled meeting with collarme man yet. I just arrived. One day I will and if man does not show up I will make op and rant. Then someone will have to pay price.

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/28/2009 9:19:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

I must be swimming in the wrong pool.Are you wonderful,beautiful woman actually having a problem getting sub/slave men to show up when presented with the opportunity to meet you.Woman who I would gladly crawl across glass to get next to,are being stood-up.This is hard for me to accept....

It is very true sadly. Of the subs that I actually schedule a meeting with, about 20 in all from CM and 3 from another site, I have met 5. Of those 5, 3 were from another site. What I have found is that going to munches, workshops, and discussions in the local bdsm community is a better way to meet the people who will actually play. From the community, I have actually found cool people that also happen to have profiles on CM.

Coupleofwhats, I feel your rant and commiserate with you. May you have better luck finding what you are seeking.

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/29/2009 2:46:23 AM

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On a positive note, at least he did not stand you up, with you waiting at the agreed meeting destination.

I have converted 3 of my professional clients, to lifestyle (none-tribute/collared to me).

Some subs are just that good you want to keep them all to yourself, so I recommend it

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/29/2009 1:46:13 PM

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Random comments:

My no shows are running 80% show and 20% don't, (a "no play" order in place) not counting those who drop out when a meet is suggested. (very high number)
But the experience on the "show ups" is...mixed as well.
Those who made it into consideration (ack ack ack.. bad scores there)

I was talking to a potential sub today on the topic. I mention that one thing most males don't recognize is that step one for the CM femdom.. requires huge amount of shift and sort of mail. The adminstrative job of mail sorting and keeping track of possibles..can be daunting.

Sadly too there are males where the door is shut because they're not computer proficient, and/or cannot communicate effectively in the written form.
The best sub I ever met here was a referal from another CM mistess-he can't write to save his life. In person, he's a top-notch communicator, articulate, well-spoken. He just cannot write. I don't think he's in a huge minority either. I think we are eliminating some good males because they cannot handle the written word properly. Obviously they aren't reading this as they don't do the forums either. If they're not out in the community, we'll miss them there also.

As a writer, I like to hear people use the language creatively. I won't match with someone who is superficial and cannot express himself, but I can enjoy many males who aren't adept with the written word. The clever ones are tricky. That's where you trip up, on the ones who really can write well, who are too smart to come across as "do-me". Those are the time-wasters. And some of the "do-me's" at first glance turn out to be ok, they were not sure how to present themselves.

I am working very hard to stop rating myself with pass/fail. To stop keeping count, to react as tho I am getting grades on a report card or giving those grades to another. I need to quit thinking of success-fail. Just defining with the words I see myself use.. like "defeated" or "another failure"...is the wrong attitude.

Decided to think of subsearching as grocery shopping. ie: got a few things I need or mm.. that fish does not look fresh...or.. whoa.. tons of bargains, really nice produce today.
Stop investing in the outcome as tho my life depends on it. I don't think for a week on a trip to the store, I just get a quart of milk. Know what I mean?

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/29/2009 3:34:01 PM

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Thanks everyone who responded: I really needed to get that off of my chest.

I think that from now on, I'll just make favored clients into personal playmates. I'll be in a much better mood!

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/30/2009 11:19:34 PM

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You know, for dominate women/men etc, I thought you'd of had alot more willing men to fill the spot when these pussies don't show up? Surely guys are worshiping you silly and you could just ring one and say "come over NOW!" and he'd show up in a flash?

Maybe the guy had better things to do? Maybe he decided getting his ass paddled by his wife was probably the more honorable thing to do, and expressing his fantasies and fetishes to her would maybe be worth more than breaking up that kind of a relationship than meeting some girl with a whip over the internet?

Personally, I wouldn't ever go as far as to organise anything because I know my relationship status and I know that no matter how horny for a spanking I get I'd rather persevere through that and keep what I have than just retire to the thought of a night or day of sexual gratification.

Maybe its not the sub whose weak, maybe some Mistresses just aren't worth the consequences of what they offer?

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/31/2009 12:02:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa
Probably not best to answer here. This forum have less free speech than Chinese people.

You're very funny Nikitaa. Unfortunately, I've no idea what happened. People get very intense in discussions here, and I'm guessing, just like the rest of us, the mods haven't the patience or sense of humor to indulge. M

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/31/2009 5:46:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: Coupleofwhats

Thanks everyone who responded: I really needed to get that off of my chest.

I think that from now on, I'll just make favored clients into personal playmates. I'll be in a much better mood!

I TOTALLY see your point and agree. I am thinking of sticking to Pro Domme activities too.... Less bull shit and less time wasted. At least those subs show up with money in hand and gladly serve. They know in advance that no sex is involved in Pro Domme activities. They would be flattered in fact to get extra attention from Mistress and extra degree of closeness above and beyond Pro Domme.....Not act like scared creeps like the guys you're talking about. Ironically it seems like the less a man has to provide, the more they feel it's not worth it. When women make themselves readily available to them and ask NOTHING in exchange, they begin to treat them like trash....who is the Dom/me then? LOL

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/31/2009 5:50:57 AM

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I TOTALLY see your point and agree. I am thinking of sticking to Pro Domme activities too...

I don't believe that's what she said... I think she said she would take some of her favorite clients and make them personal.

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Less bull shit and less time wasted. At least those subs show up with money in hand and gladly serve. They know that no in advance that no sex is involved in Pro Domme activities

I thought you said you had 3 slaves already, and you're also doing pro work, and finding time to seek out more? M

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RE: Another One Bites the Dust (Rant) - 1/31/2009 5:55:56 AM

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Sweetie most of those "slaves" fell by the way side whenever I gave them a chore or asked them for a gift. The only regular subs I have now are clients, and they are very few too.

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