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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/13/2009 7:15:32 PM   
PLCPC


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Status: offline 		Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.

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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/13/2009 11:06:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

I met a DOM, through Collarme, about 1 1/2 years ago.  We hit it off, and had some very exciting, initial meetings.  We seemed to have the same likes (D/s) related, and he would become very intense. We also have many mutual interests outside of D/s.  And we sometimes travel in the same social circles.  I tend to be careful in developing a D/s relationship, and we had not actually had sex.  At the same time he was very into it...one day he sent me home because he felt he might lose control.

Soon thereafter, he gave me a neutral goodbye. I respected that.  But yesterday he found me on Facebook and requested that I become his friend.

As a DOM, he totally turned me on.  Yet, I don't want to get into something so hurtful again.

My question is this:  As a DOM, how would you view this, and/or would you personally toy with a sub this way?



Before I can really answer this, how old were both of you at the time and how long had you been playing without doing the deed?

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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 1:25:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.



Ummm...why don't you just fucking ask him why he keeps sending you friend requests? Problem solved.

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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 2:40:21 AM   
GreedyTop


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listen, chica... just because someone has a dick doesnt mean they have any more insight into this kind of thing than those with tits.


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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 3:18:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.


Get with the programme. Everyone is invited to join any thread they like. When the moderators come along and say someone cannot post then they will stop.

As far as I am concerned this is a whole lot of fuss over nothing. What difference does it make adding him as a friend on Facebook. People have friends they have not seen for years on their Facebook. It is no big deal.

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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 5:39:29 AM   
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And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.


Don't expect a goup of strangers to give you automatic submission.


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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 5:45:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.


Don't expect a goup of strangers to give you automatic submission.





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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 5:53:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.

Wow.  All the engineers in the entire world share a single personality type.  This sort of profound character analysis might explain why you, Ms. Engineer, are defeated by the mindboggling complexities of the world of Facebook.

Happy Valentine's Day, kiddo.


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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 6:28:13 AM   
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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 6:42:26 AM   
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defeated by the mindboggling complexities of the world of Facebook.





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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 7:41:21 AM   
PLCPC


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Status: offline 		QuixoticErrant,

To answer your question:  I'm 42, he's late 40's.  We did the "meet for coffee...get to know you" thing twice, played around twice.

Thanks.

PLCPC


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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 7:45:38 AM   
PLCPC


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You got me!  Yes I used an over generalization. Not all engineers are INTJ's.  Guilty as charged.  So spank me already!

And my Valentines will be quite nice actually.  Dinner overlooking La Jolla Cove and the Opera.

Cheers!

PLCPC




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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 8:00:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PLCPC
Guilty as charged.  So spank me already!

We might both really enjoy that.  I'm a nanotechnologist, by the way.

If your Valentine's Day is so nice, I have to tell you: you are stressing over nothing here.  The guy probably didn't think about it at all, and just sent you a friend request because "why not?"  You on the other hand are overthinking yourself into gyrations that are taking you further and further away from the reality that he didn't "mean" anything by it at all.

Enjoy your evening.


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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 9:36:31 AM   
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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/14/2009 7:51:02 PM   
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"meet for coffee...get to know you" thing twice, played around twice.


on n on about someone you met twice?  He likely waited for that long period without contacting you in hopes you were over him and didn't expect or think of him as 'yours'.
Obviously he didn't let enought time to pass before contacting you again.

and besides, a grown man who facebooks? uhhg, you aren't missing out on much.  Deny the request, have some pride.




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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/16/2009 3:11:26 PM   
powerplaying


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I met a DOM, through Collarme, about 1 1/2 years ago.  We hit it off, and had some very exciting, initial meetings.  We seemed to have the same likes (D/s) related, and he would become very intense. We also have many mutual interests outside of D/s.  And we sometimes travel in the same social circles.  I tend to be careful in developing a D/s relationship, and we had not actually had sex. 


So you weren't much more than friends anyway. One and a half years and no orgasm with the other one present? What were you doing? Other people have sex within minutes of knowing each other, or marry and breed within a year.
Do you know, there are female dominants who do tease and denial with their male slaves? Not all of them do such long denial periods.

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Soon thereafter, he gave me a neutral goodbye. I respected that.  But yesterday he found me on Facebook and requested that I become his friend.


Friend on some online list means nothing. Who of these guys throw a party you visit or help you in serious problems in your life?

Best wishes



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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/16/2009 9:15:51 PM   
PLCPC


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ORIGINAL: came4U

quote:

"meet for coffee...get to know you" thing twice, played around twice.


on n on about someone you met twice?  He likely waited for that long period without contacting you in hopes you were over him and didn't expect or think of him as 'yours'.
Obviously he didn't let enought time to pass before contacting you again.

and besides, a grown man who facebooks? uhhg, you aren't missing out on much.  Deny the request, have some pride.






I posted 7 of the 75 comments.  Hardly going on and on.  And this only proves that most of those commenting don't really read through the entire thread.

But thanks again to the DOMs.  Very helpful and insightful


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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/16/2009 10:11:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


quote:

ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.



Ummm...why don't you just fucking ask him why he keeps sending you friend requests? Problem solved.


Or block him to solve the problem once and for all. I think you can do that on facebook. I'm the oddity admist my friends in that I don't really "get" facebook. I just use it for keeping track of phone numbers and doing the group invites for my Halloween get-togethers.

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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/16/2009 10:13:47 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

But thanks again to the DOMs.  Very helpful and insightful



For all that you keep thanking them, you don't actually seem to be listening to them. Which is a much greater sign of respect.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

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RE: Only Male Doms reply please - 2/16/2009 10:52:18 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		and once again, those of us who dont have a dick or are MALE DOMS are totally unacknowledged.  *snort*

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