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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 3:17:00 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		Well thats true.Cant argue with that. i just cant for the life of me figure out people who wish to ruin others financially and other people who obviously want to be ruined. Have to say i was being ruined by a Domme but then i drew back. i stopped paying Her. i figured she loved my money more than me
kevin

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 3:18:11 PM   
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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 3:21:09 PM   
LadySunn


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ORIGINAL: DeepSouth

I am trying to get it right in my head but cannot seem to do it. I recently asked for advice from people on here about how I should write my profile, so I have taken the time to read profiles of both Dommes and subs. Now I understand about pro Dommes and I do respect what they do but would it be crazy if a sub stated in his profile that he wanted a "financially successful" Domme? I bet every male would love to be dominated and owned by a rich woman. I am all about spoiling my owner, i.e. servitude, buying gifts, dinner, flowers, etc. etc. but I am not exactly "financially successful" If a sub asked in his profile for a generous Domme who would spoil and pamper him I bet he would get some real strange e-mails. I realize to enter into a D/s relationship a Domme would want a sub that was in a stable position but is not being wealthy a liability to a sub? I would like someone who knows to shed a little light for me.



When I reference "financially successful" I expect a sub to have as much as I do as a minimum, a starting point.

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 3:27:57 PM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

How do you check someone's income level, Barbie?  In my office, we have clients that are millionaires that buy their clothes at Walmart...  which could give some clue as to why they are millionaires!


I wanna come work at your office.

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 3:32:17 PM   
LadyofGrace


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Status: offline 		A sub who has achieved wealth is not a negative for him because it just means he is not looking for a sub/slave position to be taken care of by the mistress financially, which some seek. It means he comes to the lifestyle of his own choice not out of financial need.

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 3:42:36 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		If you're "otherwise unstable" that puts you  under the catagory of someone I will never consider dating.
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ORIGINAL: Steponme73

What if you are financially stable but unstable otherwise?  Where does that put you?  I have never seen someone post " I want a deadbeat, who can't support himself and wants to lie around the house all day long."

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 3:58:26 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I don't think it's heartless, I have zero interest in being even remotely involved with someone who's mentally ill, because I have been 3 times. And each time it was pretty much a disaster, and I ended up unhappy and sometimes mistreated because of their problems not being under control.

And even if they did keep their problems under control, I still wouldn't date someone who was mentally Ill. I don't want the hassle.

Welfare is diffrent than social security, and other government aid programs from what I understand, And I wouldn't shun someone who was on it, depending the reason for it. IF it was mental illness, yes I already covered that someone with mental illnesses wouldn't even get close to coming into my life as a partner.

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

To shun someone just because they have mental illness or and are on welfare. Pretty heartless.=
kevin


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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 4:02:14 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Most mental illnesses are not caused by society they're caused by chemical imbalances and shit in the brain. Your statement shows you have no true understanding of what mental illness is, and what is behind it.

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

Most people have mental illness because of the way they are mistreated by society from an early age, told they are this and that. .
kevin


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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 4:14:47 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Not in my opinion it's not.

You don't have to be rich to be a good Dominant in my personal opinion. You have to care about the welfare of the one you're Dominating, and not harm them, and not break them and mistreat them, to be a good Dominant in my books.

If you're creative you don't really even need store bought toys, and you don't need photoshoots and web pages and stuff, either to be a Dominant.

Being a Dominant, is what you are , who you are, regardless of having money, or toys, or fancy gadgets.
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ORIGINAL: LunaVenus]

..Being as though, being a good Domme is SO EXPENSIVE...it stands to reason, that you can be a BETTER Domme if you have more financial resources. 


< Message edited by YourhandMyAss -- 1/31/2009 4:16:33 PM >

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 4:20:13 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		So, put your foot down and say I make the rules, NOT you, if you don't like what I provide, that is just tough cookies go on home and cry to someone else.

Stop pandering to what "guys" expect, and start acting like the Domme, and make the rules for what "guys" will get when they come to you.
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ORIGINAL: LunaVenus

Guys EXPECT you to have ALL of that Pro or Amateur.
They EXPECT you to send them good quality pictures.
They EXPECT you to look like you just stepped out of a porn movie in the photos.
They EXPECT your body to be flawless
They EXPECT you to not look a day over 21
They EXPECT you to have pretty outfits
They EXPECT you to have a fully equipped Dungeon!

Again... there are different kinds of Mistresses.... Some just put on a black sweater in the back of their trailer and slap men and call themselves a Domme....Others try to do everything that is EXPECTED of them with the HIGHEST STANDARDS and Quality!!!.... and all that costs a FORTUNE! Someone has got to contribute to all of that or otherwise it is a money losing venture for a Domme and no one can stay involved

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 4:34:10 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		No, once you marry them, they've made an honest person out of you, and you're no longer a whore, or whoring* cheeky and playful grin*
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ORIGINAL: ladylucky32

One of my friends married her sub, is she still a whore

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 4:45:30 PM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Most mental illnesses are not caused by society they're caused by chemical imbalances and shit in the brain. Your statement shows you have no true understanding of what mental illness is, and what is behind it.



You need to read about stress, before telling people they have no understanding of mental illness.

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 4:58:50 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I don't think stress counts as a mental illness, at least not a permanent one you need medical care for.

And I am talking about permanent ones you need cousnoling for and pills and it's a life long issue, when I talk about mental illnesses not being caused by society.

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Most mental illnesses are not caused by society they're caused by chemical imbalances and shit in the brain. Your statement shows you have no true understanding of what mental illness is, and what is behind it.



You need to read about stress, before telling people they have no understanding of mental illness.


< Message edited by YourhandMyAss -- 1/31/2009 5:14:11 PM >

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 5:34:35 PM   
Nikitaa


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ORIGINAL: LunaVenus

I want to be the BEST at anything I do...I am NOT content to be a half ass dominatrix with a black flannel mini skirt and a ping pong paddle.
I want to be the BEST and I EXPECT only the best in return. It is about Quality. The inner Domme we shall not speak of... That's automatic.


I thought domination was about the person and not the equipment?

my equipment list:
Blue jean mini shirt, two ping pong paddles, handcuffs, and kinky ice tray. I am thinking you do not have kinky ice tray.

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 5:39:59 PM   
Nikitaa


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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

Why am I writing post to a hand puppet?


Better question;

Why can't the Domme make ice cubes?

She can't remember the recipe.

chia* (the pet)



Did you make Pollack joke? Be careful or I spank your monkey

Nikitta* (the Domme)

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 5:45:40 PM   
chiaThePet


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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

Be careful or I spank your monkey





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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 5:45:44 PM   
windycitysub78


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Status: offline 		That is a sure way to have him make another one. :)

Nikitaa, google "can of worms" :)

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 6:06:43 PM   
MoGa


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Again... there are different kinds of Mistresses.... Some just put on a black sweater in the back of their trailer and slap men and call themselves a Domme....Others try to do everything that is EXPECTED of them with the HIGHEST STANDARDS and Quality!!!.... and all that costs a FORTUNE! Someone has got to contribute to all of that or otherwise it is a money losing venture for a Domme and no one can stay involved


LunaVenus,
I am one of those who puts on a black (Green, white, blue or whatever color I want to wear) sweater, grabs my sub and takes him to the back of my trailer. Yes, I slap him and call myself dominant (I do not call myself a "domme") why wouldn't I call myself what I am?  Are my standards any less or lower than yours?
 
Your kind of thinking is what makes these young subs who don't know any better, believe that all a dominant woman wears is high heals and a freakin' mini skirt. Some of us actually wear jeans! <Gasp!>
 
Tell me, what latest book have you been reading, that suggest that all dominant women must have all the fancy clothing, toys and private space to be a twue domina?
 
MoGa



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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 6:13:57 PM   
MoGa


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ORIGINAL: LunaVenus

I am sure you are. But I did NOT evaluate you. so don't take my standards personally...I said what my standards are. And my standards are expensive.
Nothing out, nothing in.  It's that simple in my mind.


You may not have evaluated anyone, but the comments below imply that you think that anyone doesn't have your same high standards, are less dominant than you are.
quote:

 
Some just put on a black sweater in the back of their trailer and slap men and call themselves a Domme....

quote:

I am NOT content to be a half ass dominatrix with a black flannel mini skirt and a ping pong paddle.

quote:

RedMagic Wrote:
Am I the only person who found this line to be ridiculously offensive?

RedMagic,
Nope.
 
MoGa

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RE: Why is it that most Dommes want subs that are "... - 1/31/2009 6:18:43 PM   
Anastasia25


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Status: offline 		Doms want their subs to be financially successful, so that they submit by choice, not because they have to...

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