scarlethiney -> RE: black/racial domination (2/1/2009 12:07:36 AM)
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ORIGINAL: UPSG I'll request though, dear, that you be careful. Not to suggest Black men are more dangerous or suspect then White men, not at all. But many Black men live in urban areas of the U.S., and many come from lower income areas of the U.S., which can carry some social mores and associates some young ladies might not be prepared for. I can my concern comes from being knowledgeable of young ladies from the suburbs who came to the inner city, prostituted, and got caught up in some very dangerous and abusive lifestyles with both men and women from the inner cities who operate often, on different set of ethics (if you can call it that). Perhaps I'm just *remembering* to much and because of that projecting to much into your comments and questions. If so, I apologize. Find a Black guy (or gal) that will dominate you totally the way you wish but that will *try* and protect you too. Actually, this goes for any race, but I *remember* to much from the inner city. Oh for god's sake. What a bunch of crap. Many *people* live in urban areas of the United States. Race has nothing to do with it. The economic status of any area or neighborhood does not define all the inhabitants of that area and certainly not in the negative way your depicting. Your correct about one thing..........you are *projecting* quite a lot of speculative bullshit and unsubstantiated assumptions that reek of racism. I agree with the part I've highlighted in red. I don't know if it necessarily "reeks of racism," but it certainly is projection and seems to be based in fear of the unknown or classism. I have been with a wonderful black Dom, who is my Master, for nearly 6 years. He was raised in the inner city, by a single mother, who managed to bring up four great kids. (One is a nurse, one is a business woman, one is a Ph.D. professor at a university, and DaddyBoo has a Master's Degree in His profession.) My ex-husband was from overseas where the caste system is a hugely important thing with who you are, who you associate, what people think of you, and what is expected of you. I lived there for a while and saw first hand how this type of whacked out thinking worked. Sometimes people who are told or who are assumed to be "so bad" simply don't rise above that expectation. Some people who are thought to be so much more "advanced" or "classy" are actually huge piles of dog shit. They can be awful people, truly. My ex was from the highest caste and a very wealthy family, a lovely family. But I saw how they looked down their noses at other people. It sucked. I wasn't allowed to be around "those people" while I lived there because they were afraid that it would tarnish the image their family had. *gag* I used to live in a big, spiffy neighborhood before my divorce. It was super nice, and I was one of the only moms who worked outside of home. When I got divorced, I had to move to a rental place, in not the best neighborhood. (We don't have gangs or anything, but there are some troublemakers around, like in just about any place.) Some of the people here, just like me, have to choose places that are less than what we want because it's all we can afford right now. There's also a sense of "communal understanding" among those of us who are single moms, and the struggles we have at times. So, before you go scaring people away from the "inner city" or whatever crowds, think about what makes you fear them, and why things from years ago are still worrying you now. Don't make your fears those of someone else because that robs them of a choice. Annie, I say that whatever turns your crank, go for it. And like with anything, be careful in what it is that you do. [:)] ~ Red Red, I agree with you. Fear creates prejudice.
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