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FInding Partners? - 3/8/2004 9:27:07 AM   
DomCT2002


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Status: offline 		I don't know about anyone here, or how everyone is going about finding a partner for BDSM or D/s relationships here.

BUt I wonder why all come here, and join this chat program, but never meet each other or do anything in real life together. It seems to me, that such a chat program and personal ad area for this web site woul dhave more people who are available and ready to find a partner then what really happens here.

Is it possible that everyone here whether a submissive or a Dom or Domme is being too careful about who they meet and get along with?
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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/8/2004 10:02:12 AM   
londonswitch


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Status: offline 		We're not trying to meet partners. Personally, this space is a delight for me. I haven't been hit on once. There's only so much 'Bend, bitch' even the most cheery slut like myself can take while trying to find intelligent conversation (alt.com as the blindingly obvious example).

Here I get to indulge my interest in BDSM and share my epxerience with others. I and my man would otherwise be marooned in a RL vanilla world.

I quote from forum guidelines: 'The primary intention of this board is to provide a forum for discussion and the exchange of ideas.'

Quoting further: 'Collarme.com already provides ample resources for the creation of "personals" listings.'

As I'm not looking for a partner, I don't know what resources those are exactly, not being motivated to look at them. Could A.N.Other BDSMer help please?

Yours cordially, Nadine.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/8/2004 12:19:06 PM   
Myste


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Status: offline 		I'm not here to find a partner but rather to learn and teach. I do meet people from here and other sites like this when they are willing. I'm very active in the local community and I invite many people to come to our munches or point them to one in their area. In most cases they aren't aware there are groups out there or they just need someone to encourage them to get out.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/8/2004 12:51:47 PM   
sub4hire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

I don't know about anyone here, or how everyone is going about finding a partner for BDSM or D/s relationships here.

BUt I wonder why all come here, and join this chat program, but never meet each other or do anything in real life together. It seems to me, that such a chat program and personal ad area for this web site woul dhave more people who are available and ready to find a partner then what really happens here.

Is it possible that everyone here whether a submissive or a Dom or Domme is being too careful about who they meet and get along with?


I'm not here to find a partner. Actually back in December one of my best friends from DC(black rose) asked me if I knew of this site. Of course at the time I said no. Naturally I came to check it out. Here I am.
I was real disappointed in the meat market. Chat rooms. Then I found the message boards.
I've been on a great many lists over the years. There is nothing I have found thus far to compare with these message boards. Such honesty. People are just more open.
I'd recommend it to most anyone. I feel sorry for the thousands who probably have ads who have never clicked on the message board link yet.

As far as finding a partner goes. I found my Dom 5 years ago in a plain old vanilla chat room. We started talking..realized we had much more in common than first anticipated. Now here we are.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/8/2004 2:39:16 PM   
sweetieboop


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Status: offline 		I don't know if you mean all of collarme or just the boards. Personally, I use the personals section of this site (and some others) and I do meet people. I won't meet just anyone though. I think you HAVE to be careful about who you meet. If I don't feel comfortable talking with the person or don't know much about the person, I won't meet them.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/8/2004 2:45:10 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		Did DomCT's medication kick in just as he began writing his message? I am confused about what exactly he is asking.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 1:17:15 AM   
londonswitch


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Status: offline 		It is a bit hard to understand. I think he was assuming this is a pick up joint. He is implying we're all too cautious to ever meet anyone chatting as we do on the boards.

But maybe rather than medication he was actually distracted by multi-tasking on 3 IMs, 2 chat rooms and Yahoo on sites where they know how to party orgiastically, unlike us poor pallid things.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 6:12:46 AM   
belongtoyou


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Status: offline 		DomCT2002,

Just curious as to why You would start this thread, and then a brand new one on the same topic (Actually here is what I meant)?

In any event, this section of collarme.com is specifically for discussion. If You click on the collarme icon at the top of this section, You will be directed to the area where You can create a profile (I see that You don't already have one), and then go from there.

i'm not sure why the message boards have a different look than the section to post Your profiles; etc...but that's the deal.

Let me know how that works out for You.

Cheers,

~rain~

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 9:37:10 AM   
EStrict


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Status: offline 		Perhaps because it is a) a slightly different question and b) something he IS trying to get a discussion going about? And honestly has had some valid responses.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 10:22:23 AM   
feline


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

BUt I wonder why all come here, and join this chat program, but never meet each other or do anything in real life together.

Is it possible that everyone here whether a submissive or a Dom or Domme is being too careful about who they meet and get along with?


First of all, whose to say "they never meet"? i'm not in the "market" to find a Master, simply because my life is a little hectic at this time. And that's not something i want to bring into a new "relationship".

Second, i don't feel you can be too carefull when meeting someone from online. Too many wannabes, fakes, phoneys, freaks & geeks out there in cyber land. And yes i have met a few.

i hope this has helped, if even just a little bit. *smiles*




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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 2:17:11 PM   
ShadowHwk


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From: New York
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

I don't know about anyone here, or how everyone is going about finding a partner for BDSM or D/s relationships here.

BUt I wonder why all come here, and join this chat program, but never meet each other or do anything in real life together. It seems to me, that such a chat program and personal ad area for this web site woul dhave more people who are available and ready to find a partner then what really happens here.

Is it possible that everyone here whether a submissive or a Dom or Domme is being too careful about who they meet and get along with?


Your making some pretty large assumptions, based, as far as I can tell, on your own experience in getting someone to meet you. Just because someone is not willing to meet YOU, doesn't mean they are not sincere about finding someone. As for being "too" careful - no such thing. People move at a pace they find comfortable. The best advice I can give anyone is to NOT be in a hurry. So why are you in a hurry?

Terry
AKA ShadowHwk

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 6:09:51 PM   
SherriA


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

BUt I wonder why all come here, and join this chat program, but never meet each other or do anything in real life together. It seems to me, that such a chat program and personal ad area for this web site woul dhave more people who are available and ready to find a partner then what really happens here.


In one of your earlier posts I responded with a bunch of links to groups etc in CT where people *do* meet in real life, regularly. I also invited you to email me if you wanted additional information. Afaik, you didn't take advantage of any of them.

So, you've been given the opportunity to meet people in real time, and you haven't done it. Is this perhaps a case of someone protesting too much?

Pot. Kettle. Black.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 6:27:49 PM   
Voltare


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Status: offline 		Perhaps his own lack of responses is telling enough of his intentions? To start a flame war perhaps? (Grins)

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/9/2004 9:14:22 PM   
ShadowHwk


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Status: offline 		Viking Kitties RULE!

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/10/2004 3:02:55 AM   
londonswitch


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Status: offline 		Good job I'm not a vet. I thought it was a hamster:-)

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RE: SPAMMO TROLLING - FInding Partners? - 3/10/2004 4:17:41 AM   
inyouagain


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Status: offline 		You can never say this individual is not tactical or strategic!

This Thread - #3 Go Baby!

His 'other' explanatory thread #4 (in this same forum, to which I previously vented, sorry!)

#1 His first bombshell intro (with unfriendly but 'nice' welcome)

#2 - We let this one slip by folks (we're getting sloppy!) (no replys to this one yet!)

Seems his arrival at collarme has been an up and down affair of trolling, then apologizing, then posting a topic (5th thread), back to trolling (this one slipped by us all!), and a NEW approach to trolling, followed by 'This is what I meant' troll thread... so you can see he's an 'up and down' kind of guy!

And to think we accepted an apology from him and he reverted so quickly!
Does this in fact tell us a little bit about ourselves? hmm?

Fool me once, shame on you... fool me twice shame on me!
I don't know where the shame lies if you fool me 4 out of 5 times?

This guy has 7 total posts, 5 of which are threads linked within this reply...

Perhaps we should give him his apology back... we didn't deserve it, not worthy!

Inyouagain

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/10/2004 5:24:11 AM   
plyfulinny


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From: Dutchess County NY
Status: offline 		i also use this list as a way to find partners.....i live in a smal community
and there are a larger number of submissives then there are dom's here.

to find a top to play with is not such a difficult task...but to find a Master to serve is another story all togehter.

So many new dom's on the scene who know les then i do about the lifestyle are available and i end up educating them... but this does little to satisfy my personal nees for TPE....

Hopefully writing in theses lists and message boards will catch the eyes of a Master who's relationship has taken on a change for some reason and is looking for a submissive to replace another. One who is mature and experienced. One who can help me to grow and mature as i learn to please and satisfy His every ish and desire.

So don't feel too badly DomCT200 i'm looking to make a connection in this list also. Good luck to the both of us.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/10/2004 11:01:00 AM   
DomCT2002


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Status: offline 		Why must this be trolling or insulting to some. As Many know the lifestyle itself bears witness to the fact it is really an underground lifestyle not highly admired by the general public and not accepted by the general society in the United States. Yet in other countries around the world people are allowed to look for partners for what ever lifestyle they prefer without any predujice or discrimination.

Second point to make is this it is not in every state as in connecticut where the lifestyle is kept and held in check by few members of it by way of the internet and chat programs. If it were so public in Connecticut or other states in the United States then it would be much easier to find partners in general.

Third Point to be made, these forums are for open discussions for all in the lifestyle, and for contacting other in these lifestyles for discussion and to ask questions are they not?

Fourth point while munches are nice and so are clubs, some of us prefer not to attend them for different reasons, whether thay be you are looking for a poly relationship, you are cheating on a spouse or your just too damn shy to go to one. So, even though they be available in NY and some Munches are available in Connecticut, the clubs that were in Connecticut were shut down due to arrest for prostitution and other fines, at least one i know of anyway, and the others in the Hartford area to me do nothing for me.

To come here and say ok, I am a 47 year old, white male/ 165lbs. brown eyes, brown hair looking for a submissive woman in Connecticut who maybe into the same things I am is not wrong in my opinion or trolling. To find a submissive woman who is into bondage, breast play, spankings and using toys such as vibrators, dildos, french ticklers, floggers, paddles and crops and needs a dominant controlling male to make her complete and fullfill her wishes should not be wrong or trolling. It is basically stating what I am into, what I am looking for and what I wish to be in a relationship with and who. Also, how is a submissive woman to know who or what is available out there unless it is put to the public and explained to them, as to who is looking and for what reasons? To find an intelligent, mature, individual into the same lifestyle and who has a sense of humor, one must state what one is looking for in many aspects. Such as Limitations also, like for me, no children, no urination, no scat, no permanently marking of the body, no knife play or cutting of any kind. I am not sadistic, but sensual and willing to explore the possibilities of such a relationship in the D/s or Bdsm lifestyle with a woman looking for a experienced and sensable man, who like controlling his woman in and othe rof the bedrrom to certain extents.

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/10/2004 11:17:33 AM   
MizSuz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

To come here and say ok, I am a 47 year old, white male/ 165lbs. brown eyes, brown hair looking for a submissive woman in Connecticut who maybe into the same things I am is not wrong in my opinion or trolling. To find a submissive woman who is into bondage, breast play, spankings and using toys such as vibrators, dildos, french ticklers, floggers, paddles and crops and needs a dominant controlling male to make her complete and fullfill her wishes should not be wrong or trolling. It is basically stating what I am into, what I am looking for and what I wish to be in a relationship with and who. Also, how is a submissive woman to know who or what is available out there unless it is put to the public and explained to them, as to who is looking and for what reasons? To find an intelligent, mature, individual into the same lifestyle and who has a sense of humor, one must state what one is looking for in many aspects. Such as Limitations also, like for me, no children, no urination, no scat, no permanently marking of the body, no knife play or cutting of any kind. I am not sadistic, but sensual and willing to explore the possibilities of such a relationship in the D/s or Bdsm lifestyle with a woman looking for a experienced and sensable man, who like controlling his woman in and othe rof the bedrrom to certain extents.



BAAAAAHAHAHAHAHA too funny...

But I gave ya bump for the real reason of the post anyway. HAHAHAHAHAHA

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RE: FInding Partners? - 3/10/2004 1:18:39 PM   
belongtoyou


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Status: offline 		DomCT2002: Please let me repeat my previous advice:

quote:

In any event, this section of collarme.com is specifically for discussion. If You click on the collarme icon at the top of this section, You will be directed to the area where You can create a profile (I see that You don't already have one), and then go from there.


can ya at least follow directions?

~rain~

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