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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

I enjoy those kinds of conversations a lot, but when I'm bottoming or submitting, I'm usually barely coherent, and when I am topping or dominating someone, I try to affect him in ways that aren't exactly intellectual. It's fun to talk about stuff like that before or afterward, though!

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW

*nod* I know that one thing that I really want, if we should ever find someone to add to our communion again, is someone who would understand the concept of "Happy Tangent Land"... the idea of a conversation that starts out here (X), and travels this circuitous, scenic journey through realms that one wouldn't even think of as being remotely related... and yet, the track of the conversation makes perfect sense as it goes along... only to end up -back- at (X) at some point (often -hours- later). We used to wake up in the middle of the night to these amazingly complex conversations... they'd just wander around, like professors in their nightgowns, tossing out relevant, but random, concepts for the nearest butterfly net.

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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

Did it start with the similarities between Mobius strips and rope work? Or was it the fractal nature of labia? Both of those have happened to me.

One of the best mind fucks i have ever had, perhaps the best, was sitting outside a cafe talking about the passing traffic and people and where they were going. I was so wet i left damp butterfly wings on the chair through panties and jeans.

And all these years later, he can still make my mind and body jump through hoops.  

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'm working on with a partner. What is really important to me is the ability to hold well reasoned conversation on a wide variety of topics and if called for debate them. The last thing I would want is to be with someone and run out of meaningful things to say that relate to current events. However, don't get me wrong, it is nice to be able to talk on some level about the work you do - even if you have to lay the foundation for those conversations. This is, however, what is important to me. Everyone has their own conditions that are important to them in a partner and how a partner displays their intelligence is just one factor that I would hope that is considered when choosing a partner.

As for whether or not a submissive (regardless of gender) could respect someone who they felt was less intelligent then themselves. I have to disagree. I think respect has nothing to do with intelligence. I know some very intelligent people who I do not respect. Yet I can think of an adult non-traditional student who is not the brightest in the class but really tries and gives everything to their classes and even when they don't do well they keep going. I have nothing but the highest respect for them. Respect to me is built over time between two people. Intelligence is a a state of being.

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ORIGINAL: nafakcha

I suppose it depends on what really is important to you in a partner. For me I need to be able to hold an intelligent conversation. Now that doesn't mean talking about higher mathematics or the latest x-ray diffraction pattern or chemical reaction I'm working on with a partner. What is really important to me is the ability to hold well reasoned conversation on a wide variety of topics and if called for debate them. The last thing I would want is to be with someone and run out of meaningful things to say that relate to current events. However, don't get me wrong, it is nice to be able to talk on some level about the work you do - even if you have to lay the foundation for those conversations. This is, however, what is important to me. Everyone has their own conditions that are important to them in a partner and how a partner displays their intelligence is just one factor that I would hope that is considered when choosing a partner.

As for whether or not a submissive (regardless of gender) could respect someone who they felt was less intelligent then themselves. I have to disagree. I think respect has nothing to do with intelligence. I know some very intelligent people who I do not respect. Yet I can think of an adult non-traditional student who is not the brightest in the class but really tries and gives everything to their classes and even when they don't do well they keep going. I have nothing but the highest respect for them. Respect to me is built over time between two people. Intelligence is a a state of being.

Keiko

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ORIGINAL: agirl

No, it wouldn't happen at a time like that. Usually all MY energy, along with any rational thoughts have buggered off by then. I'm usually trying not to cry , trying not to shout/scream/yelp too loudly and so on.

We did have this one conversation, though.......It was really deep and meaningful. I said I didn't want to hurt and he said, *You can't bleed unless you're hurt, you silly girl*. That's about as intelligent as we get at these times..lol

agirl

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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

I don't know if it counts as public humiliation or not, and i don't really care. I love that he can make my world suddenly a sensual playground and the noise in my head stop with just the tone of his voice and the warmth of his hand in mine.

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ORIGINAL: agirl

No, it wouldn't happen at a time like that. Usually all MY energy, along with any rational thoughts have buggered off by then. I'm usually trying not to cry , trying not to shout/scream/yelp too loudly and so on.

We did have this one conversation, though.......It was really deep and meaningful. I said I didn't want to hurt and he said, *You can't bleed unless you're hurt, you silly girl*. That's about as intelligent as we get at these times..lol

agirl

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ORIGINAL: catize

agirl

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

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ORIGINAL: catize

agirl

Nods...the best part of S+M is that my brain shuts down!!!

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

OMG....I'm supposed to talk to him?!?!?!

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ORIGINAL: hejira92

I was once dating an intellectually brilliant, yet emotionally stunted genius. I hadn't studied quantum physics in years and asked him to re-acquaint me with the theories, etc. He proceeded to lecture me throughout our entire dinner. I was so turned on it was crazy! It was total foreplay.
 
Master has more wisdom, streetsmarts and emotional maturity than any other man I have ever met, but not a lot of formal education. He puts up with my meandering mind- I have actually described the anatomy of the penis and the physiology of the erection while I supposed to be sucking it- with amazing equanimity.
 
Higher mathematics may be fun, but I find the emotional connection, support and understanding is a more secure foundation for a relationship than just compatable intellects.

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 What I've found to be a complete turn-off is when a dominant disregards a submissive's intellect, and behaves in a condescending manner.  Then again, while it is a sexual turn-off, it can be quite amusing to be underestimated.  Especially when your wit flies under the radar, so to speak. 

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ORIGINAL: catize

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 What I've found to be a complete turn-off is when a dominant disregards a submissive's intellect, and behaves in a condescending manner.  Then again, while it is a sexual turn-off, it can be quite amusing to be underestimated.  Especially when your wit flies under the radar, so to speak. 

Met one of those for dinner once; he talked to me s-l-o-w-l-y and repeated himself carefully as if I wouldn't understand the first time.  I was so (literally) dumbfounded, that I'm sure when I didn't come back to the table he figured I got lost on my way to the restroom!