Eleutherios
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From: Houston, Tx
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I'm really enjoying our exchanges, thanks again. :)
In reply to what I would expect... nothing, as far as details go, Ill leave up to her. Everyone dominates a bit differently. However she thinks is best to train me, I'm willing to submit to. What i would expect as far the relationship dynamic? Well, I suppose that depends largely on the person and how we connect. Love is certainly possible, and I hope likely. I think I could learn very easily from someone I loved. But a deep love isn't required, especially in the beginning. Mutual respect, admiration, trust and attraction are all expected. Of course, I do want to care about her, and be cared for in return. I would hope that we would remain friends if we weren't before our adventure.
Certainly not a booty call. I would do the best within my means to conform to her schedule and pace for the relationship.
I imagine beginning this adventure with at least several weeks of getting to know each other and see if we're compatible by learning about each other through regular shared experiences. I think they call this dating... lol After we determined we were both passionately into it, we'd make clear limits and all the standard negotiation jazz. And at that point I would do my best to give my self to her in what ever way she thought best to teach me. Whether that be 24/7 beck and call, or just on the weekends... I chose her to relenquish control to her, so I'll trust what ever she decides. That's the goal, anyway. I can't say that it won't be a struggle for me, at times. But I'm confedant in my ability to choose a capable woman who is patient and wise enough to guide me when I need help obeying. I expect no less from my self as a dominant, my standards for a mistress would be at least as high.
I have no clue how long my training might last. I think the shortest might be a few months, the longest might be years. It doesn't really matter to me how long it takes, I have no expectations in that regard. If she wanted to put a time frame on it, I'd be comfortable with that, it may even help me. Either way, like I said, after my training is complete I'd expect to still accosiate with her, the nature of our relationship would simply evolve in certain aspects. I'm sure we would be closely bonded by that point anyway.
I'll admit it is probably not the ideal relationship dynamic that many woman have come to expect. But I have been a mentor my self, and I find it immensley rewarding and enlightening. The lack of ultimate commitment between us did not tarnish the beauty of our bond. In fact it was an over all better experience than many relationships I've entered with the expectation of "long term". Something about having an initial understanding that the relationship will be fluid makes it a very unassuming and mutually fulfilling experience. And I will always keep with me what I gained from our exchange. So I do believe that I have much to offer as a companion, lover, friend, student, teacher, and submissive.
Why wouldn't I ask woman's opinions when it is a woman I wish to share the experience with? hah That just seems like common sense. If I wanted to attract a guy, I'd ask other guy's opinions.
Also, I approach things a little differently than you when it comes to men and women. I understand women as well as I understand men, which isn't to say a tremendous amount. Though, certainly enough to relate. I was raised by many strong and wise women, so I may be able to relate even better.
Hahah... I can't wait to see my mother's reaction when I tell her I'm considering submitting. Whether she likes it or not, I think she will be surprised. She doesn't understand D/s too well, though she tries. She simply believes a better person is a person in control of them selves. She see's submissive as weakness, I think. Which is sad.... Anyway.. tangent.. sorry.
A pro is an option, but I'm looking for something more intimate.
I'll try tying my self up, see if anything happens, but I'd be surprised.
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ORIGINAL: MistressAinCT
Wonders I, what do kind of contact would you have with this person? Friends? Lovers? A "BDSM booty call" for when you "need" it?
If you want temporary-and I know this is going to probably get your knickers in a bunch-you can always go Pro. Believe it or not, some Pros specialize in this sort of thing. I know, I know-you don't want to have to pay for it, but honestly like most said here, if there is nothing to gain for themselves you are probably Sh** out of luck.
But this also got Me thinking as to why you are asking only the women. Wouldn't a male who has experienced this sort of thing be more helpful to you? you are getting the female Domme point of view. We don't think like men (thank Goddess) and we surely don't know how men think(::sigh::: if only). We think like Dommes-50%selfish, 50% harsh, 50% bitchy, 100% Dominant. Not sure we are the ones to ask.
Seems to Me you got more than you need as far as advice is concerned here. Perhaps a sensual spanking or bondage to start you off?
Side note: Many who find it difficult to give up their power at first find peace, solace and the freeing effect of bondage. Maybe tie yourself up ( I know, that's really bizarre!) just to see how you feel about it.
And I also wonder, if a female came to you with this same request, what would you advise her to do?
Namaste
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