Eleutherios
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Joined: 6/6/2006
From: Houston, Tx
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I began exploring BDSM at 14. I rounded down. I've been involved in my local community since I was seventeen. As I said, I've often preferred the company of those older than me. A close friend used to own an underground BDSM club that operated at a strip club after they closed at 2am. Pretty sure the whole operation was illegal, but my friend who owned the place had one of the county cops as submissive, so I think she was fairly protected. By the way, the cop was the one who was eventually forced to suck me, isn't that hilarious!
Anyway, why is it manipulative to seek out someone to mentor me? Why am I a dom asking to be dominated... How about instead, I'm a man who has aligned him self with dominance for now, and is seeking to possibly expand that.
I totally relate to choosing experienced submissives. It has been my prefrence for a few years now. For most of my kinky life I've been a trainer, an instigator...Always a liberator, never the liberated. hah. jk... But it has been rarely the other way around. I'm looking forward to changing that and delving into unexplored territory, even if it makes me feel uncomfortable.
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ORIGINAL: MissEnchanted
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Yet, in my ten years of studying and practicing D/s, I don't think I have ever once asked, as a dominant, what is in it for me when dominating.
You state on your profile that you are 25, yet have 10 yrs of study and practice, which means you started doing live D/s at 15?
Maybe when you have lived through many more years of Dominance as service to others you will see how many of us feel about a manipulative Dom who asks to be Dominated. I'd like to see what you say after 20 more years of living. So, email me then, will ya? 
I think it is cool that you are looking at doing this. You are only 25 and have many fun years of personal exploration and discovery ahead of you.
Red flags do go up for many of us related to what Lockit and Cat have already stated above.
You could find a Domme that 'needs' to take a Dom down and would enjoy getting around some of those control issues you yourself stated above that have been an issue for you.
I could see you really falling for a Domme and her guiding you into sub-space, Although a power struggle or many of them are likely in every-day living with her Dominance and your attempts at submission.
A Poly and married Domme might enjoy engaging with you.
All of this is rattling around in my head. I am trying to have an open mind with what you have stated so far, some of which was confusing.
I am one of those that seeks subs who already know they want to throw themselves near my feet and don't need a whole lot of convincing to be under my whip, my chair, or anything else I feel the urge for in the moment.
If your orientation and your intentions have been clearly stated, then posting here as you have has probably already jump-started your journey.
Me
I wish you luck finding what you are seeking.
I think this sounds mostly like 'an inside job' which is something you do for yourself with introspection, or with a good therapist who can see through manipulation.
You acknowledge that you are manipulative, may be mis-leading, and really have no desire to submit,
and a big part of that has to do with the things you started sharing from the beginning of this thread.
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