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ORIGINAL: apiercedkitty

And, in all actuality, i used to be a proponent of the safe call. That all changed a year or so ago when i became the safe call for a gf. she never called. she was meeting someone a couple of hours from my house. i found myself wondering wtf i was going to be able to do. In the end, there was nothing i could do. i couldn't call the cops as there's the whole time frame before they even consider someone "missing." Luckily, she just forgot to call me (oh yeah, i tried to call her but she had her phone on silent). That's when i decided safe calls were really pretty ineffective unless the person worrying about you went with you.
You're very right - bad shit happens all the time. i hope it never happens to me or someone i know, love or care about.

BTW - i can understand the weird mood - saw that movie Sunday... strange... lol

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ORIGINAL: subangi

I was driving home from a play party in Detroit Michigan and thought I knew my way back.  I ended up in the ghetto downtown area having to pee very badly.  I saw a dumpster in this alley ( this is around 3am), and begin to relieve myself, and right in midstream comes the garbage truck lifting up the dumpster.  I believe he was surprised to see me squatting there.  When I finished, with the truck headlights lighting up the alley,  I saw a bum about 10 from me sitting and enjoying the view.  Rule #1-always pee before traveling in an unknown area. 

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Sure it all can be scary... and bad people are everywhere and so are bad situations.  If we don't learn to tell what is dangerous and how to handle that... well we are in trouble. 

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

That's what I was saying earlier in a thread about Doms monitoring and blocking emails, and if you need someone to do it for you cause you can't tell what's dangerous and what's not are you really ready to be an adult, and most just shook their head and disagreed.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Sure it all can be scary... and bad people are everywhere and so are bad situations.  If we don't learn to tell what is dangerous and how to handle that... well we are in trouble. 

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Safecalls are only useless when people don't use them correctly. No shit, you do  not tell your teenie petete girlfriend where you are going. She is not a good safecall, sorry. Like piercedkitties friend... gave a 'safecall'... didn't tell her what to do if something happened, it's borderline useless.

I refuse to get hurt if I can prevent it, so I don't act like a dumbass. When I meet people, C, or another male friend of mine, knows exactly where I am, who I'm with, and what to do if I don't answer my calls... and I *always* answer my calls. It'd be rude to set up a safe call and then ignore it.

Many people I've seen act too good to use the safecall system... but it's not my fault if they've been using it wrong. So yes... I've made my mistakes, paid for them, and I've since then set up my own system to keep it from happening again.

If it gets your rocks off to run off to seedy motels, get shitfaced, and let a stranger tie you up, go for it! Just don't cry to me when it goes wrong.

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88


YHMA that is because no one in that thread said one thing about needing someone to tell us what is dangerous. I beleive if you read it again you will see it is a matter of what certain Master's decide.  It is exactly that kind of comment about being ready to be an adult that made that other thread so irritating.

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

That's what I was saying earlier in a thread about Doms monitoring and blocking emails, and if you need someone to do it for you cause you can't tell what's dangerous and what's not are you really ready to be an adult, and most just shook their head and disagreed.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Sure it all can be scary... and bad people are everywhere and so are bad situations.  If we don't learn to tell what is dangerous and how to handle that... well we are in trouble. 

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Peeing before gettingo n the road is always a good idea, but not always possible, nor always means you won't need to go again. There's these things that are sold online and in some drug stores called travel  johns, and it's a disposable urinal that has a collar you put up to your crotch to pee into and then the gel in it holds the pee and converts it from liquid to solid. They're always a good idea to have in your car, even for local trips and specially for long distance onces since you can pee right there in the seat, discreetly.


There's also something called she wee, which allows you to pee standing up and in a more discreet way.  I do believe you can also pee sitting down, You can pee into a bottle or a cup or something, in privacy and then throw it out later.

I always wear very long flowing skirts, so I never have to worry about exposing myself if Ihave to pee in public somewhere, That's not why I wear them, but it's a handy thing to be wearing one, if you're just happening to need to pee and don't want to expose yourself.

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ORIGINAL: subangi

I was driving home from a play party in Detroit Michigan and thought I knew my way back.  I ended up in the ghetto downtown area having to pee very badly.  I saw a dumpster in this alley ( this is around 3am), and begin to relieve myself, and right in midstream comes the garbage truck lifting up the dumpster.  I believe he was surprised to see me squatting there.  When I finished, with the truck headlights lighting up the alley,  I saw a bum about 10 from me sitting and enjoying the view.  Rule #1-always pee before traveling in an unknown area. 

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ORIGINAL: subangi

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

And what if you give your safe call say yes it's all clear and then they rape and murder you. The only good a call would do then, would be ot give someone an idea where to find your body, if the rapist has not moved it yet.

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I don't think you're ready to be an adult and act like one.

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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I don't think you're ready to be an adult and act like one.

well dayyy-umm!
Hate to tell ya, but ready or not, adulthood bites every bloomin one of us in the ass on our 18th birthday.

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My problem, and when I say are they really ready to be an adult and act like one, is when people need to do it because their partner can't tell what's dangerous or not, So someone else has to decide. And if someone else has to decide cause you're not capable and you can't tell danger from not dangerI don't think you're ready to be an adult and act like one.