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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/25/2009 2:24:04 PM   
MidnightKat5000


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ORIGINAL: WestBaySlave
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Anywho... I personally find it a bit of a turn off when subs, those who do not know me, address me as "miss" or any variation.  The reason being is when I was in middle and high school the "bad asses", or students who knew nothing of respect, would always address the teacher as "Hey, miss..." and never took the time to actually learn the teacher's name.  In short, I find it disrespectful and it comes accross as insincere.  I'd rather have someone just call me by my name - I don't need a title to be or feel dominant.


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 11:49:09 AM   
subharlequin


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in reply to Andalusite...why ..yeshhh i doo think switches are a figment of my imagination..or yours..who knows...soo if you will excuse me ..i need to get a new one to replace the old....
but then again..to lump switches up like that...ofcourse i will..i'll gladly lump up the switches tie them with string and throw them in the pile with the rest of the branches to await burn day.....
after all the topic is BDSM conventions that turns you off and to me switches are a turn off unless like i already stated they come from a wheeping willow tree.
if being a switch or santa or tooth fairy or a one eyed one horned giant purple people eater is your thing..congrats ..enjoy..good luck with that....i have no probs with what ever group people fall into really i dont....
just because i dont beleive in switches doesnt mean a thing to anyone..well except you apparently...
and i think that if you are happy with yourself..you will go on and laugh at how silly..or stupid you think i am..your choice i dont mind..it is after all your world and i dont have to live in it...as a matter of fact ..i dont.
in my world ..people no matter what title they choose to hail under... are happy and serene until the lil' aleins leave....then its really such a sad sad day...cause dont you know ..the aliens took the switches away to never never land..where dreams really do come true!!!!  lol

and yes i know i dont have to play with a switch...hmm but i do think you all need a new name title somethign that says ..you are fearce and proud and ..well somethign not switch..cause well thats already taken by the wheeping willow tree and they have a lawyer named whooping willow and they are prepared to sue on  account of copy right infringement...sooo i'll see about startign a thread maybe on new names for switches.....heres my start...
sOM/MEs
Dub/bes
Dubbies
sOMMIES
duellies...nah thats a type of truck...
..but any way heres my idea...then i wont ever have to worry about offending switches again..just change the role name and all will go smoothly hence forth...cause well eons of seconds from now when nobody looks back on this it will be agreed that i'm a switch nazi and the poor poor defenseless trees were right to swat me endlessly....not that i dotn mind that thought..have you ever ran the switches over your skin??? ohh and we cant forget that swat or two or twenty as you stood hidden under teh branches.....mmmmm switches mmmm...

there ..feel better now?? all vendicated??? cause silly me lumping all switches together like that...now if you will excuse me i will run along and leave all my typos as they are cause a.d.d. is kicking in and


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 12:16:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Nairod
And lo, the pilgrim came to a valley wherein there were many hills and there stood upon one hill many people dressed in leather, their bodies marked with tattoos and pierced with iron rings. And they said “Let this high ground be called the moral high ground, for we worship the god Lifestyle and ours is the true way”. And they looked down upon the ignorant multitude below.


Nice read.

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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 1:05:47 PM   
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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 1:12:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: heartcream

Yeah those mountain top types are a hoot.

I love the phrase "it's a hoot."  I  often shout that I am "having a hoot" from the top O' me mountain.  Fun to hear "hoot" reverberate through the canyons.  I am Mountin'youDom.  Very opinionated.  Do think you are hot.  Just another of my unfounded thoughts.

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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 3:05:33 PM   
heartcream


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I am Mountin'youDom. Very opinionated. Do think you are hot. Just another of my unfounded thoughts.


You'd change your mind in a few hours domdom. We would have lots of fun with the making plans to meet perhaps to go fishing in a beautiful river, for dinner, for greasy drinks and keep each other company part. At some point you would give want to give me a long lingering kiss like you really mean it, and then there would be the push toward some anticipated this and that followed by pizza if and when it would ensue. After the clothes come off the whole thing would quickly go to pieces. I would talk about things meaningful to me and wouldnt follow your orders, "Make your own dam sandwich and get me one too, please."

Rejected, not Nubian or young/perfect enough for you, maybe you spy a piece of animal hair on my sweater, perhaps after some sort of candid scathing critique about my body/mind. Where did all the fun go now? I would wonder as I get up from your cast away pile re-gaining balance, brushing myself off heading toward my next meaningful lingering kiss.

I do enjoy your opinionation, one of the things that makes you interesting. You are also not so stuck in your opinion that you cant change it either which I admire.

Yes, fine, this was a highjack.

Plenty turns me off about BDSM conventions. One thing that annoys me from personal experience is when a stranger gets all ordery aroundy when I dont know him, barely know him in emails here on CM. For example a sentence that tells me I have to do something now is like perplexing and puts me off.



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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 3:41:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: subharlequin
in reply to Andalusite...why ..yeshhh i doo think switches are a figment of my imagination..or yours..who knows.

*shrugs* Saying you don't believe in switches is as ridiculous as saying that you don't believe in Black people or men. Nobody's saying you have to be turned on by, or play with, or have sex with, or date anyone you don't want to, but it's absurd to claim that we don't exist.

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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 4:30:07 PM   
DemonKia


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Status: offline 		Tops / dominants who claim to enjoy dilation & / or fisting, & then when a girl shows 'em her large dildo (much smaller than a fist, please note), the top / dom exclaims in horror, 'How big is your pussy?' (or words to that effect) . . . . . . *shakes head*

I've had that happen a few times now & am at a complete loss to understand what they're thinking . .. . . lol . . . . It's a huge turn _off_ . . . . . lol

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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 4:34:42 PM   
kidwithknife


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Status: offline 		So all switches are hologramatic projections?  Or are they butterflies dreaming of being switches?


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 4:47:31 PM   
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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 9:31:43 PM   
MasterDarkSadist


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"I'm not a doormat."  Ok........what does that really mean?  (read my journal for a more extensive answer).
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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/28/2009 10:31:21 PM   
WyldHrt


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"I'm not a doormat."  Ok........what does that really mean?

In a profile, it's usually subspeak for "Cmailing anything along the lines of,  'On your knees, bitch'  to me will get you nowhere, and I already have enough cock shots in my collection, TYVM."
In communication it usually means, "You are asking something that you have not yet earned the right to expect from me".
Glad I could help, there.

For me: the segment of lifestylers who come here boldly proclaiming that theirs is the one twue way, right down to having checklist definitions of roles that are inherently fluid in nature, depending on the people involved in a given relationship.


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 1:03:40 AM   
subharlequin


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IN MY OPINION......
now trying to shove racist bullshit down my throat and making it even seem that is what i am saying and trying to even compare the two is truely childish. especially when it is my opinion only that they (switches hence forth now known as dUBBIES) dont exist.
i'm sorry that you think my opininon is in some way as you put it....like saying black people dont exist.....makes me wonder..maybe you deep inside your lil' ole heart think that maybe dUBBIES really dont exist and are upset because i had the balls (surgical steel thank you allergic to other types) to say something about not thinking dUBBIES are real.  
and what makes this so funny is the simple fact that you are getting pissy over my opinion. very silly indeed.
and like the title of this lil' forum says..yet again..... BDSM Conventions that turn you off
sorry did you read that? did it maybe kinda sorta compute???
 
and ofcourse i know i dont have to play with dUBBIES nor do i plan on it...i have a way better imagination so as to not have to resort to that.....
as i said before it is my opinion and...and well to be honest others as well......switches dont exist. but butterflies do. :) now yes i do think that people that title them selves as dUBBIES  are real..if they bleed clarion they are real....no matter the color of their skin..they are real..but after seeing you get a silly puss going about MY OPINION i think that maybe you dont think people exist...no matter the color of their skin.
 
and yet here let me repeat this cause really it seems to get missed so here.. hows this....
 
in my OPINION....
now please relax and live in your world really i dont mind. if there are dUBBIES then so be it. i really dont care, cause in the long run your title matters not to me. sorry. now please do try to refrain from further insult flinging or making up thing and misinterpreting what i say...... especially considering you HAVE NO IDEA WHAT COLOR MY SKIN IS!!!!! YOU  DONT KNOW MY ANCESTRY!!!! 
so please in the future..learn to grow up. but then again your type of thinking is humorous.

as to the desires of said dUBBIES ..ya so you like to spank or what not others..and you like to be spanked or what not by others......so..whats your point? sometimes i wanna wrestle around and "get toppy type" and paddle some booty just cause i think it would be fun and cute to see someone squirm a bit or see what the fuss is about or see what would happen..(so far been told by a potenial Dom..not a good thing will come of it if i try)..no big deal..and i hate to say this ..but that doesnt make me a dUBBIE it just makes me that much more fun to play with....

and now just in case you missed it and ran to get some dUBBIE type friends to back you up cause you cant seem to get very far in trying to make me feel and look stupid...(after that black people remark i highly suggest you look in the mirror and rethink your strategy...)



it is my opinion that switches/dUBBIES dont exist unless ofcourse they come from a weeping willow tree

thank you and have a nice day.  : D

edited to add......
ohh i do know men exist. i love men i love the way they feel the way they taste adn how they have man parts that if arent circumsized can be blown up like a balloon....i suggest you try it..it may improve your mood. : D
as to dating...well how else do you get the men convinced that you wanna gobble them up in a good hump feast???

besides not everyone exists in my world. only the important people ..santa... easter bunny....aliens and peachy smelling fanny farts. ohh by the by..how do you get peachy smelling fanny farts..i want some of those!!!


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 2:10:35 AM   
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sorry apparently i didnt type this proper so lets try this again shall we...[snip]
a bunch of badly formatted crap[/snip]

and your point would be... what? Soz, but your post was rather incoherent, despite some really big type. All I got was something about calling switches unicorns or some such, and quite a bit that just seemed like the raving of someone a bit disturbed, with a self induced persecution complex.

Honestly, I'm fairly sure the switches here aren't interested in you anyway, so why so defensive?



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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 2:47:03 AM   
subharlequin


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Status: offline 		lol ohh im sorry ..lol i have been posting in humor this whole time and you took it seriouse lolol...my bad apparenly
i only got a lil defensive when it was said that maybe i didnt think black people existed..that was the only thing i took seriouse lol.
i never thought switches were interested in me..i simply was replying to a comment made in regards to my opinion...
as to the rambling i do do that all because its silly and fun and because i forgot to take my crazypeoplehappy pills today..and yesturday....
and yes i know i could of said all of that without the bold type...but apparently the first time i typed it ..it was missed... : D


editted to add..i like unicorns.

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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 5:38:47 AM   
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lol ohh im sorry ..lol i have been posting in humor this whole time and you took it seriouse lolol...

Not really. I took it in confusion due to the incoherent babbling, weird font sizing, bad grammar, and random capitalization. I was not aware, nor would I have cared, that you were not "seriouse"


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 7:01:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		WyldHrt:  What I was getting at with the whole "i'm not a doormat" line, was that it is a pathetic excuse for using the english language to say that you do not wish to have those things you described happen to you.  For me, it is a way to universally slap Doms in the face, using a catchy tagline, while being lazy, and that is so easily applied to any situation that a submissive does not agree with that it has become pervasive.  It makes a submissive unattractive when they cannot politely state, when the occassion arises, that which they are uncomfortable with.  Instead, they just say "i'm not a doormat" which does not truly mean anything except "don't fuck with me."  Honestly, that's how it is meant, and it's highly impolite, chilish, and IMHO, should be banned from use.  Don't like something?  Then use the english language to communicate that in an articulate fashion.  

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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 10:55:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		i like the spelling "seriouse". and i'm sorry my spell check doesnt work in these blasted posts lol
and as to the incoherent babbling...its how i talk and along with the bad grammar.
as to the random caps...be thankful i didnt color them as well lolol
as to:

"I was not aware, nor would I have cared, that you were not "seriouse" "

i think you did otherwise you would of completely ignored my post. :)..bad grammar and all....
*smiles and waves*hope you have a nice day


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 10:58:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterDarkSadist

WyldHrt:  What I was getting at with the whole "i'm not a doormat" line, was that it is a pathetic excuse for using the english language to say that you do not wish to have those things you described happen to you.  For me, it is a way to universally slap Doms in the face, using a catchy tagline, while being lazy, and that is so easily applied to any situation that a submissive does not agree with that it has become pervasive.  It makes a submissive unattractive when they cannot politely state, when the occassion arises, that which they are uncomfortable with.  Instead, they just say "i'm not a doormat" which does not truly mean anything except "don't fuck with me."  Honestly, that's how it is meant, and it's highly impolite, chilish, and IMHO, should be banned from use.  Don't like something?  Then use the english language to communicate that in an articulate fashion.  


Haha, ok- what were you asking her to do right before she told you she wasn't a doormat?

Someone got their feelings hurt I'm thinking....


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RE: BDSM Conventions that turn you off... - 3/29/2009 12:34:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: subharlequin
lol i have been posting in humor this whole time and you took it seriouse lolol
"IT WAS ALL A JOKE".  Awesome.  Now all I need is "It was a social experiment" and I can fill in my Internet Bingo card.


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