Vanityfull
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my arguement with gained knolage with hardships is you only gain it for hardships. i am from shitty poor areas, the hardships i faced there let me deal with gangstas, cokeheads and other creatures of the night better than alot of people, but it does nothing in how i can speak to suburban people, a kid growing up in a rich envornment would have the opisite problem, hardships do not give an extra bit of worldly cleverness, only in relation to what you have dealt with. my shitty childhood gives me no more wisdom to the world than that of a sheltered kid. i can probly take care of myself more, they can probly relax and enjoy life easier, i see neither as better or worse, both are skills that are highly disirable. people often have some misconseption that if they have had a "shittier life" they know more than the adverage person, thats crap, shitty times just suck period. you learn how to not get into the same shitty situations from them thats it. people handle emotion based on experiance, say you live a very sheltered life and you get heart broken at 13, it hurts as much to you as someone with a horrible upbringing, becuase you have zero tolerance to it, you dont know how to handle that pain, its foolish to compare your pains to someone elses, becuase you handle emotions and experiance differently. to kinda give an example, i have been gay bashed several times, it never bugged me that much some people find it tramatic, as some of the stuff i find tramatic others with a simular experiance find trivial, its all in how much weight we put into things as indaviduals. i think trying to take the good out of our bad experiances is good to an extent but basicly bad shit just happens and you deal with it and continue. "Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us" -Voltaire
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