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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 11:15:22 AM   
justatoy2


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Status: offline 		my Dom is totally about sex and pleasure. So he would rather have me horny and begging for sex than not. Its not unusual that he has me masturbate 10 times a day. So while he is at work, i get to masturbate...lol. We both have huge sex drives so it works well for us. If i am horny i simply ask, and he decides yes or no, but so far it has never been no.

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 11:16:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		As John and Alba say, ask away.

I dated a very submissive Japanese girl who would put a crop or a paddle (for BDSM) or a rose (for sex) on the bed. She never asked outright. It was thoughtful and sweet, but I don't mind being asked unless I'm buried in a project. Even then it can be life-saving!

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 11:19:49 AM   
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The really hilarious part of it all, to me, is his "no"s are a turn on. So while i'm being denied, i'm also being turned on..



Beautiful how that works, isnt it?


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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 12:59:30 PM   
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As long as he begs...smiles


Oh my Goddess! You mean i get to beg too, Ma'am? <melt> As in ... "Please Mistress ... May i beg to be obsequious?" "Pleeeeeeeeeeease?"

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 2:29:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I ask. When we go to bed... if he lets me touch him there is a good chance that we will have sex... if not... time for sleep. It is all up to him. It is my place to follow his lead.

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 2:31:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross



Frankly, if it's me I just say "I'm really horny, can we please go fuck?"

Sometimes I will even say "I'd love a good quick hard fuck right now" or "I'd really enjoy a slow soft love session"

But I've had lots of experience in asking for what I want sexually and have learned it's really the only way to know that I might get what I want. Most women are not comfortable asking for what they want, ESPECIALLY if it's sex.

So I'd say- ASK for it. We always talk about communication, well this is one of those parts we mean.


BINGO... that's me.. I'm going to be blunt.. can't get if don't ask. As Mr Warren said... it's either "no" or "now"

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 2:58:21 PM   
orfunboi


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Status: offline 		i usually just ask, seems to work well

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 3:00:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mcross

it would be a very dumb and stupid act if a dom said no . and it would show you that the sub is not loved in any way shape or form .
i am all for it .
love on darling


To me it shows she is not in the mood, and if that's the case, then i am ok with that. After all, she is the one i am trying to please.

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 3:35:11 PM   
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But what if sub/slave wants to play?


Mmmmm...well...you ask...and wait for his/her answer...I mean let's face it...it's really not about what you want...but what he/she wants

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 9:39:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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But what if sub/slave wants to play?


Mmmmm...well...you ask...and wait for his/her answer...I mean let's face it...it's really not about what you want...but what he/she wants


Irish, normally I have agreed with this statement.... but I have to go out on a limb here...

For a sub/slave to make Him/Her happy all the time..... a sub/slave should be allowed happy times as well.

everyones responses have been interresting.... but the bottom line goes...

a happy sub/slave... is an even happier Dom/Master

Ok, going further out on this limb.....

being a submissive myself.. I always set out to make Master happy. But I must be missing something... because for me to make Master happy.. i got to be happy too.

It really isn't all 100 % about making someone else happy. It just simply can't be done all the time.. every step of the way. (ok unless Dom is an extreme sadist and thrives on making sub/slave totally miserable 100% of the time.. LOL)

But like I said... this is purely sexual. It's not about making sure Master is happy ... it's about being able to let Dom/Master know.. you want to play, love, fuck.. whatever is floating your boat at the time... LOL

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 9:55:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

But what if sub/slave wants to play?


Mmmmm...well...you ask...and wait for his/her answer...I mean let's face it...it's really not about what you want...but what he/she wants



While this is true to an extent, IrishMist, the Dom/me that doesn't take the subs needs into consideration will not be with that sub or any other for long.

It's an exchange of power and with power comes responsibility. To take that power and completely ignore the needs of the sub is irresponsible.


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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 9:57:58 PM   
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But what if sub/slave wants to play?


I am usually not overt in my asking MsN, although it is permissible.
I find that if I am horney and want to make love or have a good phuck,
MsN re-acts more to my actions, i.e. behaving erotically, romancing her,
taking care that I look desirable, these things can lead up to a very wild
session of love-making/sex without mentioning a word.

*Brightspot


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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 10:53:56 PM   
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It really isn't all 100 % about making someone else happy. It just simply can't be done all the time.. every step of the way. (ok unless Dom is an extreme sadist and thrives on making sub/slave totally miserable 100% of the time.. LOL)


It seems to me that like so many things in this life, this one is subjective and specific to the individual. i imagine there is a level of service (read to include all that makes Dom/me feel pleased) that really does not have anything to do with the Dom/me pleasing or making the sub feel happy or content. In this imagining, the sub (read me ) is challenged to carry on in such service regardless of how he is feeling at the time. To develop a sort of finesse, and to go about that pleasing with dignity and a real attitude of gratitude. As part of the very process of submission. Service that has even more value when this sub may not feel like doing it, for any reason.

i also however, am of the belief that happiness is an inside job (with outside help). That it is not the Domme making sure to do things that cause me to feel pleased that creates my own feeling of happiness, but rather that i already feel that happiness and gratitude myself, and Her care of me and notice of my "needs" in fact serve only to enhance that which is already there.

So the reverse may also of course true, that i as sub am not responsible for the happiness of my Domme. i am to enhance that happiness that already is possessed by Her, and if she is unhappy, i need not think of what i must do to "fix" that, as it really is not my job in the first place. If she thinks that i may be able to assist Her in Her quest for happiness, She already has the absolute freedom to use me in that regard, or as She may otherwise see fit.

my personal ultimate goal is to become owned as a slave by Her (beginning as a submissive man), and this becoming a result more of necessity than decision. (more of a result of being compelled by Her than by Her claiming me as Her slave). In this regard, i am in some way saying and admitting that this is what in fact will make me happy. (This is probably why the choice to do so is so scary to this novice). (Good "scary" )

This one understands that making such a choice is in truth saying that at that point and beyond, what my personal sex life is like is really none of my business. At least the decisions as to when, what, why, and how, of that sex life are not.

Being human, i realize that i may at some point feel within myself a feeling of "wanting more" or "wanting different" or lets just call it "wanting." These times will always be an interesting challenge to me, and an opportunity for me to perfect my surrender, as much as that is possible for me. i do so look forward to that.

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 11:01:34 PM   
MrDiscipline44


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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress
While this is true to an extent, IrishMist, the Dom/me that doesn't take the subs needs into consideration will not be with that sub or any other for long. It's an exchange of power and with power comes responsibility. To take that power and completely ignore the needs of the sub is irresponsible.

But my dear Tress, sex is not a need, it's a want. Food is a need, shelter and clothes are a need. Sex is only a luxury that we, as humans, take for granted.


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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 11:16:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		If I'm horny, I can let my partner know. It is, however, his choice as to whether or not we'll do anything about that.

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/28/2006 11:21:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mcross

it would be a very dumb and stupid act if a dom said no . and it would show you that the sub is not loved in any way shape or form .
i am all for it .
love on darling


This is ridiculous. Saying no to sex doesn't mean you don't love your sub or slave. It simply means "No, I'm not interested" or "No, I don't want to" or some variation of that.

Few people are up for sex at all hours.

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/29/2006 4:39:54 AM   
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In my world the subs are not allowed to ask. However I encourage them to go out of their way to allur or attempt to get my attention for sex any way possible only using body language, flirting or other ways without speaking or asking in any way.

Sometimes its fun to tease, titillate and then withhold just to see how far the envelope can be pushed.

Del Rey

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/29/2006 4:49:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: windy135

In my limited experiance the Doms pleasure always came first.. and mine second .. if it did come at all..


Master sometimes will pleasure me first, and then I get to reward Him for my pleasure. Other times He wants to be pleased first, and I get second serve. I almost always get to cum, but the length of time taken varies considerably.

His philosophy is that a happy sub is much more willing to please than one who is repeatedly denied her pleasure.

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/29/2006 5:03:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress
Dom/me that doesn't take the subs needs into consideration will not be with that sub or any other for long.

It's an exchange of power and with power comes responsibility. To take that power and completely ignore the needs of the sub is irresponsible.[/color][/size][/font]


Needs overall yes, that includes the need to submit (Else they wouldn't be IN a D/s relationship).
Just because the Sub is horny and wants sex NOW doesn't mean the rest of the D/s dynamic goes out of the window.

I've no problems with being asked, even less problems with her begging, but I am still the Dom and not going to let her Top from the bottom. It could be yes or no, I could ask her how much she wanted it and get her to beg before I decide, or even (Especialy if she HAS been trying to Top from the bottom) get her even more worked up and then deny her permission to go further till I decide to let her.

I have a responcibility yes..... to consider the whole relationship and reinforce rather than weaken the dynamic.

After saying that, I have a reasonably high libido, yes is the most likely responce

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RE: Down Right Horny!!! - 1/29/2006 5:09:50 AM   
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As long as he begs...smiles


Oh my Goddess! You mean i get to beg too, Ma'am? <melt> As in ... "Please Mistress ... May i beg to be obsequious?" "Pleeeeeeeeeeease?"



Puts her hands squarely on Her hips, raised the dreaded Mistress eyebrow and sends him to corner time.

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