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CarrieO -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:19:27 AM)
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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave
Recently , A new Mistress on Cm has been writing to me sharring her first observations on what she has found out here since joining . Taking some of what she has sharred with me here involving this forum
When she has met for a first meeting at a coffee shop, she had a few that would have already ordered their drink before getting there and when she would arrive would sit there talking to her with out even the consderation to offer to buy her a coffee until she mentions she would like one.
She had people contact her who would like to spend the evening with her and she would mention dinner first and one insisted she could make it there. Another suggested ordering a pizza . These are men in their 40's to 60's here, not some poor college kid.
Another , who she had not met yet but spoke to on the phone for several weeks earlier had made plans due see her because his company was moving him into the area. Seemed good start here. He sadly was fired due to the economy at the alast moment. His response was he could come and live on her sofa as her slave. Remember they never met yet .
Guys will come to her with all these kinks and show her stuff she can buy on the internet to make these fetishes and fantasys a reality for them, yet they are not willing to invest in these items other than to say" you should get this. "
Does any of this sound familar? Is it really wrong to go out to dinner with someone before you get involved. Do we wounder really why more people have to express their desire to say somethings you might want are going to cost. he hotel rroms dont come free. The idea of toys just appearing out of thin air or being born wearing thigh high boots is just not the norm. There are some out here that clearly want ot be paid for their services and they should be up front about it. But many just want to be shown a little kindness if you both connect. Thats all..
Have we spoken?!
Except for the offer of a "couch slave", I've dealt with all of these examples...as I'm sure many others have. I've even had one man I met for coffee cut right to the point and tell me what he expected now that we had gotten the "damn first meeting" taken care of...after all he did buy me coffee (not what I asked for but in his words "at least I bought it for you"). When I told him he needed to work on his manners, what was his response.... "If you wanted manners you should have said that in your profile."
I think so many people forget that until any parameters are laid out, your just two people meeting and getting to know one another. Manners, courtesy and yes, generosity can go a long way in making the right impression. When I say I like generous people, it doesn't mean I expect expensive gifts or anything like that. It means I like a person to be generous with the time they spend on me...not just money and pretty things.
A good thing to remember....."If a gentleman has ability, he is magnanimous, generous, tolerant, and straightforward, through which he opens the way to instruct others. "
OP.....you mention a "wish list" you saw on a profile, would it be safe to say you also have a "wish list" of your own on your profile. If what you want is kinky sex, given that you really have no interest in service outside the bedroom, how are you any different then the women you complain about?
BTW.....I buy my own coffee and give myself flowers now!
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