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LadyPact -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 8:36:51 PM)
Feel free to complain about those of us who aren't into the Mommy Domme thing, which I feel is completely different than those who are in May/December dynamics that have nothing to do with age play. I do have My kinks and My preferences. Like everyone else, I'm entitled to them. In fact, I don't have to be willing to participate in yours if it doesn't turn My crank.

subsubtle -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 8:45:19 PM)
quote: So, at the end of the day, these women who deny you based on age simply aren't into the age difference kink. It isn't necessary because you aren't into the same music, are into a family life when they aren't, afraid you'll leave them....it is just that they aren't into the age kink. ORIGINAL: ostrow30 Umm.. did you actually read any of the other posts on this? Pretty much all of those things were mentioned by one woman or another. Do you think they're lying? My desire to be with an older woman has NOTHING to do with a "mommy" kink. I really hope I didn't come across as that. Ugh.

Lockit -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 8:46:31 PM)
You didn't subsubtle...[;)]

ostrow30 -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:07:36 PM)
>>My desire to be with an older woman has NOTHING to do with a "mommy" kink. I really hope I didn't come across as that. Ugh. Ugh?? Why do you say Ugh? Is there something you find weird or disgusting about people into age play? I know LOTS of women who would say, "What, you're a submissive guy? Ugh! I want a man who is in control!" lol...nice place to post an ugh, on a forum loaded with people who are kinky. Of course I read the post. I don't think anyone's lying, what are you talking about? I think everyone who has posted here is being completely honest, and they give some great reasons why they wouldn't want to choose a younger submissive. I guess maybe I was trying to encourage you. Sorry I wasted my time, you sound like a dink, now. I was just trying to put across the point that if you want an older woman, there are a lot of older women out there who are asking in their ads for men at least 20 years younger than they are, so don't ask women who aren't into younger men why they aren't into younger men, go respond to the ads from women who are looking for guys like you!

subsubtle -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:16:01 PM)
I said "ugh" because I do not want people to think that I'm into age play. I would hate to think I've spent all this time posting and reading if, the whole time, people thought I made the post because I was into age play. I do not find it disgusting or weird. I say whatever floats your boat, it's just not for me. You said the reason the women deny me is because they aren't into the age kink. Why would you say that if you've read all the posts and thought everyone was being honest? Hardly anyone even mentioned age play.

ostrow30 -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:26:04 PM)
When you say "ugh", it's kinda derogatory, don't you think? So are you all out to set me up as everyone's enemy or what? Calling everyone a liar? Nice. You're a real political player, aren't you? Thanks for trying to stir up the pot. Does that do something for you, or whats the deal here, guy? If I misunderstood you're post, you could just correct me and move on, without trying to be offensive. I would try to explain it more, but I guess you're just not getting my point. Why don't you just look for an older woman posting for a younger man? I just don't get that.

Lockit -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:33:12 PM)
ostrow, you did seem to be trying to be nice to subsubtle, but in being nice to him, you called upon your head a few dominant women. subsubtle didn't do that for you. You claimed that what we dominants said excusing our not wanting to be in a relationship with a much younger person was really because we didn't have a momme domme kink. You were way off on that. And yes, by saying that it did seem as though you were considering we lied and gave excuses rather than told the truth. You didn't answer any of the dominants that responded to you... but went after subsubtle. Then you call him a dink.... dude... get real.

SweetDommes -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:40:47 PM)
Amen, Lockit ... you just saved me a bunch of typing.

subsubtle -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:41:12 PM)
Ostrow, I feel I've sufficiently responded to you. I refuse to start a back-and-forth argument on this forum and force the people who are actually interested in talking about the topic to be bothered with that. If you want to continue questioning me, please message me privately and I will reply. -Mike

SweetDommes -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:42:02 PM)
pats Mike on the head good answer, boy [;)]

Lockit -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:46:29 PM)
I agree with SweetDomme's! Mike... you impress me more and more all the time! lol

SweetDommes -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:53:13 PM)
Oh yeah, and for the record, I totally understood your "ugh" to be one of frustration that you were being misunderstood.

subsubtle -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:54:07 PM)
Glad someone did. :)

LadyArakney -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 9:54:30 PM)
I agree Mike ... good answer. Personally, as with any other interests, choosing to be involved with someone whether younger, the same age or older is purely up to the individual. There's no right or wrong but rather what is comfortable for you at the time. I've personally dealt w/ older subs who act immaturely and younger who act like they have one foot in the grave. For Me, it's about having some common ground.

ostrow30 -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 10:01:53 PM)
quote: You claimed that what we dominants said excusing our not wanting to be in a relationship with a much younger person was really because we didn't have a momme domme kink. You were way off on that. And yes, by saying that it did seem as though you were considering we lied and gave excuses rather than told the truth. Lockit, and to everyone here, I apologize if I there is some kind of misunderstanding here that I caused. But, I guess maybe you were reading too much into what I was posting. What I was saying is that, and I did say this in another post, that you all gave great reasons for not wanting to be with a younger man, but if the poster is looking for older women into younger men, then he should just look for postings from older for younger. Do you see what I am trying to say? There are dommes out there into that, and, they're not always into mommy domming either. I thought the OP's response was rather rude. If someone's offering up help, why not kindly correct them and move on? Being a gentleman is a positive trait to most women I've ever met, older women included!

ostrow30 -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 10:02:58 PM)
The "ugh" is at the very least something that can be taken multiple ways, so if someone wants to communicate clearly, they should erase the ambiguity.

Lockit -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 10:07:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ostrow30 I think it is interesting that there are so many people in the kink community who seem so incapable of empathizing with people with other people's "kinks", and recognizing them for what they are. There are people on here who will give a million reasons why they wouldn't choose someone younger, but ultimately, it boils down to the fact that they don't understand the mommy dommy kink. It's funny. I've spoken with others in the kink community who will be into some random kink, like "rope bondage with fox heads and ice cream in panties", or, well, any kink you can imagine, saying "oh my gosh...crossdressing! That is SO weird!" lol! I almost roll on the floor laughing at such comments. Ultimately, any of us into our fetishes are the LAST ones who should be considering any other kink "odd", as we ourselves are odd, aren't we? Is that bad? Of COURSE not! It's what gives us flavor! I must say, that never ceases to totally amaze me. So, at the end of the day, these women who deny you based on age simply aren't into the age difference kink. It isn't necessary because you aren't into the same music, are into a family life when they aren't, afraid you'll leave them....it is just that they aren't into the age kink. I have met some women who are. Older women who LIVE for meeting men young enough to be their sons. Its what gets them hot. So, keep looking for that woman. As diverse as all of our kinks are. ALL of us posting on here...have our odd kinks. You will find them. It's like asking the question "Why don't women like crossdressing men?" You're going to get tons of answers why from women who aren't into crossdressers. But do any of the answers matter? Of course not! Because there are some women who ARE into that, and eventually, they will come along. Re-read what you said. Not necessarily the reasons we gave... just that we don't have the mommy domme kink. What does that imply or mean?

ostrow30 -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 10:18:47 PM)
It just means that you don't have the mommy-domme kink, right? If you did have that kink, wouldn't it mean you would be into younger men?

ShaktiSama -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 10:20:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Feel free to complain about those of us who aren't into the Mommy Domme thing, which I feel is completely different than those who are in May/December dynamics that have nothing to do with age play. quote: ORIGINAL: Ostrow If you did have that kink, wouldn't it mean you would be into younger men? No, not at all. The majority of "age players" I have known were NOT in the age brackets that they were "playing". Most "adult babies" are not at all babies, and the two women I've known who were most into very young "Daddy's girl" submissive age play were 37 and 48 respectively. The men who were playing their "Daddies" were ranging in age from 30's to 60's. Assuming a role is about something other than your real identity in daily life, normally. And some fantasies about age are really very ageless--a man who enjoys being the "naughty schoolboy" will probably get off just as hard at 50 as he does at 18 on his stern teacher and her paddle. Some of this stuff is ingrained into the language of the bdsm culture--many, many dominant women refer to ANY man who wears their collar as their "boy", for example, as a term of affection AND of dominance. I personally draw the line at playing "Mommy", but this is because I have children of my own and I am still young enough to have more if I choose. I don't particularly want that word and that role to pick up sexual or bdsm connotations for me. Other than that, though, I'm not going to condemn anybody's fantasies one way or another. I've certainly done enough age play fantasies to know that they have nothing to do with age! When I was a younger domme most of my partners were older; the submissive who wanted me to dress up with her as a pair of Catholic school girls was 12 years my senior at the time. Kinda hard to explain that in real life terms.

Lockit -> RE: Question for Dommes 35 and older. (4/11/2009 10:26:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ostrow30 It just means that you don't have the mommy-domme kink, right? If you did have that kink, wouldn't it mean you would be into younger men? It says that you determined that we weren't giving the real reason for not wanting to be with a younger man and it really was simply a mommy domme kink. You disreguarded our statements throughout the thread and decided you were more correct. Then... age play and a relationship where people have a great difference in ages are different. You continue to overlook certain things here and then continue to speak for us. Then you point out how I or we misread what you said and point out where subsubtle was wrong and needed to adult up and make a correction and move on... all while calling him a dink and acting rather immature yourself. You don't have to go on like this. You aren't ruined here. But if you keep it up... I can't promise that at least I will not think poorly of you and maybe others will as well.

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