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manxcat -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 6:34:01 PM)

       I agree with lockit about most of  igors post except for the part about questioning someones dominance because they refuse to list their kinks.  And although he does not have anything but kink, the comments about not believing he will find what he is looking for here and courtesy in response to all inquiries, in his,  he is demanding that we create a well rounded profile.
  
     To begin with, who is anyone to decide what defines my dominance, except me.   I have my  reasons for not listing my kinks.  I won't hijack to the  point of listing them all.  But foremost i want someone to fit me in all ways.   What if i have as a "loves" something that is a hard limit for someone who is otherwise a perfect fit for me.  Likely he will not contact me, or will blow me off if i contact him.  I am smart enough that i can either live without that particular kink if all else works, or perhaps in time change his mind about it.  But even if it does not change, i will have all else.  In a very vanilla relationship, i gave up something i never thought i would.  Oral sex.  I loved him that much. And truly  did NOT miss it.   Before it ended, he was getting closer to it.  Obviously that ended as i am here, but it was for a totally different reason, and if it were possible to be with him even today, i would be.  Because sex and kink, while very important, are not all there is in life, and as i get older, becomes even less important. 
     
      Another important reason is that i get altogether to many wankers contacting me already, to open myself for more by posting such a list.
     
      My kinks, and my refusal to list them, do not define my dominance any more than spelling or penmanship defines someones intelligence. 


manxcat


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I would rather be vilified for doing the right thing than be praised for doing the wrong thing.




Lockit -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 6:50:39 PM)

My list or lack thereof has nothing to do with what kind of dominant I am.  Even if I didn't have a kinky bone in my body, I would still be dominant.

I am a person who is dominant and my life isn't all about kink, sex or any one thing.  It is a whole picture that I am and live and want.  I prefere to talk as a person before as a domiant and then get into my more personal things.  I may annouce to the world that I am dominant and may give information about myself and my sex life to some degree, but I don't have to give a lot of trolls personal details I would rather share with someone close to me.



manxcat -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 8:00:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

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ORIGINAL: manxcat

Do you know how i did that last response mikey?[;)]

manxy

Nope,completely bewildered here.


I am soooooo totally curious! lol





Hehehe  Lockit you have cmail.
mikey you will have to somehow figure out how to get me to tell you.

manxy or should i say tricksie [:D]



Lockit -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 8:09:45 PM)

I am going to have to say... Tricksie on that one! lol That is a great one.. valuable... something I want, need, must have! lol



OneMoreWaste -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 8:21:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit
LOL... boy do I know what you mean about the male dominant's!  I get a lot of response from them for the typical reasons, but some just like my funny sarcasm in some of my journal postings. 

I hesitate to say too much at this point, as I would like to see any responses that might come of this before I say more.  At first I wondered if people were just there to read my stories... they are not there now.  Then my journal has a number of different things in it, so thought that might be part of it... but there were always those times where I wondered.  Not just about my own profile either.


I imagine that's one reason you get re-perved- it seems as though a lot of people who are active on the message boards rarely update their profile, so if you update yours often and tend to add interesting journal entries, you're in the minority. I often re-check profiles for the same reason as Igor- they posted something interesting, and I can't remember what their profile says.

As a rule I don't write to any females unless they write to me first- why bother? Speaking of which, the biggest "turn off" other than money is complaining- don't write to me unless blah blah blah, I'm tired of this that and the other thing, why are there so many fakes and losers, and so on.



slvemike4u -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 8:50:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: manxcat

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

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ORIGINAL: manxcat

Do you know how i did that last response mikey?[;)]

manxy

Nope,completely bewildered here.


I am soooooo totally curious! lol





Hehehe  Lockit you have cmail.
mikey you will have to somehow figure out how to get me to tell you.

manxy or should i say tricksie [:D]
Ttricksie , I'm so confused I don't even understand what I'm supposed to try to figure out....I'm just a lost puppy here.
Sure tell the fellow Domme tonight...leave the poor sub type groping in the dark(when I think of it that's a beautiful mental picture)



slvemike4u -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 8:52:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I am going to have to say... Tricksie on that one! lol That is a great one.. valuable... something I want, need, must have! lol
Come on Lockit we've been friends for like forever....what the hell am i missing here?



igor2003 -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 9:08:53 PM)


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ORIGINAL: manxcat

       I agree with lockit about most of  igors post except for the part about questioning someones dominance because they refuse to list their kinks.  And although he does not have anything but kink, the comments about not believing he will find what he is looking for here and courtesy in response to all inquiries, in his,  he is demanding that we create a well rounded profile.




Exactly how do you figure that I am "demanding" anything? Lockit asked what I (we subs) looked for in a profile and I responded with my own opinion. Where is this "demand" at? Why do you feel the need to say that I have done something that I have not? It is certainly okay with me for you to put anything in your profile that you want and I won't demand that you change a thing.

Also, if you looked at the last update on my profile you would see that it was not long ago and I ran out of time. The simple fact is that I still need to go back and complete it. It is not too often that anyone does view my profile, and I have not felt any pressure to "get 'er done", but just for you maybe I will finish the job in the next day or two. Or maybe not.



Lockit -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 9:34:18 PM)

Thank you OneMoreWaste!  You made some good points!

Although... you might be amazed if you did send out some emails!  You never know...  It might be worth it!



Lockit -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 9:36:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I am going to have to say... Tricksie on that one! lol That is a great one.. valuable... something I want, need, must have! lol
Come on Lockit we've been friends for like forever....what the hell am i missing here?


I think Mike... that I am almost starting to like that tone of voice! hehe  I might go for a lil begging... I know I have taken the stand that I hate begging... but I am starting to see some merit in it all.  I guess I am evolving.  So... hehe...



slvemike4u -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 9:47:41 PM)

Shall I adopt that real whinny tone when I do my begging Dear Lady....



Lockit -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/6/2009 9:57:16 PM)

Don't you dare Mike! lol  I want the beg without the whine!  That is what turned me off to begging in the first place... well, the starting place anyway.  But thinking of you begging... now there is a thought I found... quite interesting!  I guess I need to feed... soon... that evil is comin out ready or not! lol



iwearpanties -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/11/2009 4:53:43 AM)

as for my self i look for  Misstress / Dominant  that i may have simular likes or dislikes now that said im sure it  dosen't mean She will gladly excpet my messages or email i fully understand that .  What dose make me want too send them a note / email is i may have read there profle and it just got me realy wanting too meet or chatt more with them .




DarkSteven -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/11/2009 7:16:28 AM)

I browse photos.  If I find a pic I like, I look at the profile.  There's a lot of info that the profile contains that the photo doesn't:

Relocatability
Likes/dislikes
Paragraphs  (sometimes a woman makes a 400 line personal statement which is much easier to read with carriage returns).






Eamane -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/11/2009 7:46:31 AM)

For me (of course I'm a female sub but I think the reasoning may be cross gendered) I view and then don't message because I don't want to appear to forward and unsubbly-silly, I know. I view the full profile and leave the contacting up to the Dom in question if he (in my case) is interested in my profile.

As for repeated views...maybe you're just pretty ^-^



Dastan -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/11/2009 9:50:54 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I've been at CM for almost two years and have a number of submissive men who consistantly look at my profile, but have never made contact.  I have wondered from time to time, what they were there for and what might be going on.  This isn't a complaint because I am not getting enough email! lol  I just wondered if there are reasons that a submissive male might be afriad or too shy to make contact with a dominant and sometimes if they are continuing to visit a profile in hopes that the dominant will contact them.

What are red flags to you besides the financial demands you might find on a profile?  What do you like to see in a profile?  What do you look for and what attract's you?  What makes you decide to contact a dominant?  What are you looking for in life and with a dominant?  Are you just viewing profiles just to look at pictures or for other reasons? 

Please speak your mind and give a view into the way you see things.

I am not looking for evaluation on my profile or for anything other than to understand what some of you might be thinking and feeling.


I'd be willing to say that the reason is yourself. Not ina bad way, on the contrary, you are a great person and have a lot of qualities, anyone who has read your posts knows it and truth is, it might be scary because one feels like a beggar come to sit at the table of a princess...it's like you almost feel her kicking you away from her before you even approach her so that makes guys nervous.



Pinkpottiepants -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/13/2009 12:37:15 PM)

I have read your profile and I must say it is not just a bit over whelming, it goes way past that. The demands and list of qualities that you’re looking are understandable, we all have such lists, but are way to much to deal with before you have even said hello. You might well be a wonderful Woman and your son might well be worth investing ones time and efforts in getting to know, but relationships are built one step at a time, not in an all out sprint. Give us a chance to know a little about you and as we learn about what you are and what you stand for, if they are similar to what we are seeking, then other aspects of your life and what you have to deal with will seem less daunting.



xenboi -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/13/2009 5:17:01 PM)

Not sure i can compare it to people watching but when i come across Someone on the forum that has written something that interests me i often have a look at their profile. Mainly to see where they are from and what their interests are beyond what i have gleaned from the forum post.

i'd be lying if i said it wasn't just brazen perving on occasion! i try to keep that to a minimum though!



Lockit -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/13/2009 7:49:22 PM)

Wow, I forgot about this thread.

pinkpottiepants, there is a very good reason for what I put in my profile.  Overwhelming or not, it is honest.  I will not sucker someone in and then bash them over the head with the facts I selfishly kept to myself as if I had a naughty secret.  How do you think you would feel if someone presented all the nice stuff... had you really worked up and then slam dunked you with the truth the moment you were just about to sign up for life?

My way may overwhelm but it is honest.

As for my rules of contact... you try being a woman around this place for two years and handle 20-100 email a day and answer even half of them... and deal with the sexual... cock pic's and fantasy of more than half the people who make contact.

I state what I want and my situation and have been thanked repeatedly for doing so.  With me... you know just what you are getting.  If they can't handle a bit of overwhelming just reading it, they sure as hell won't make a week in my life.  And that is just the way it is. 

Besides that... if they were that friggin overwhelmed... they wouldn't show back up! lol



Lockit -> RE: Questions for male submissive's (4/13/2009 7:54:50 PM)

Dastan, you have mail.



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