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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 1:05:49 AM

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If his wife has proof of this relationship, she can use it in court. I did and won.
Never, ever, fool with a married sub.

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSHUNTER

I have been dealing with Married subs for years. I have never had a bad experince. I recently took on a new Sub as a personal pet . He is married , well since he is new at this he left a conversation box open and his wife read it. She of course accussed him of cheating . My sub became quite the ballsy one and told her he was a submissive male and I was a Domme Female and that was something he needed. I told him I think he has lost his dam mind., Do I go with my gut feeling and release him before he ends up in divorce court or do I let him continue to serve me as he has begged to do and let him take responsibility if it ends badly?

i am from old school when it concerns online realtionships and narried men or woman married cheating online
i notice you are from the uk and this sub as been with you for years did you ever think of a back ground check ?

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 1:49:47 AM

Bstardsbitch

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Is it just when a person has sexual intercourse that it's seen as cheating?.
For me anything that takes away from our relationship, without the full knowledge of the other partner, whether it be physical, emotional or sexual is cheating to me.
Or am I just wierd? lol
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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 7:08:44 AM

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no but your right i never looked at it that way but your right if you have made a committment to honor those types of things then yeah oh hell yeah I think we numb those things when it comes to lifestyle chocies maybe thats why people have trouble we take way what is of value and replace it for a fantasy or garbage

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 10:00:18 AM

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I think I mentioned other forms of cheating somewhere in here. I used to tell guys that I wouldn't be jealous of another person but I sure would be jealous of their time. If their focus isn't on the relationship and they find more thrill elsewhere... they need to go there and stay. lol

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 11:07:57 AM

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Thanks for the clarification, Ladypact. Male doms could learn a lot from female doms. Maybe it's an age thing, but for me sex (vaginal intercourse) is not always essential. I have dominated women(married or hooked up with boyfriends) without even kissinh them.

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 3:24:45 PM

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If you willingly participate in a cheating situation then you are responcible for your part in it even if you are not the one doing the cheating.

If you are dealing with someone who lies to their primary partner, then they will lie to you without a second thought.

If you willingly get involved in dishonest situations, willingly take on cheats and liars then it says a LOT about your own lack of ethics

your attitude also shows you want to abdicate all responcibility, taking responcibility for your own actions and the effects of those actions is part and parcel of being a Dominant ... you ain't one! I won't say what I actualy consider you to be, it would only get modkin'ed!

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 3:35:23 PM

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I could never understand why, just because some wanker comes online and declares that "this" is something he "needs", some people feel morally obligated to be the very one who must fulfill that need for them.

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/17/2009 3:41:07 PM

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I could never understand why, just because some wanker comes online and declares that "this" is something he "needs", some people feel morally obligated to be the very one who must fulfill that need for them.

The only thing she felt obligated to do was take his money, regardless of if it ment she was entering a cheating situation... sex or no sex doesn't matter. It is still cheating

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/18/2009 6:20:09 AM

LATEXBABY64

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so at what point do open relationships become cheating when they go i do not want you anymore i want the other person hummm tangled web we weave for sure

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/18/2009 7:58:25 AM

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i am married as well...but i don't want to be.it is complicated yet simple..i mean all i have to do is leave and stay left for 6months and file the divorce papers.but..because of a ton of junk that has now presented itself in my way...it is more complicated than just leaving.it is one of the main reasons why Mistress Cat has let me go at my request.i will not stop living and stop my pursuit of what i know i want and desire in life.life takes strange twists and turns..and thats all i can say.

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/18/2009 8:20:40 AM

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so at what point do open relationships become cheating when they go i do not want you anymore i want the other person hummm tangled web we weave for sure

Easy one that.... if you feel the need to hide it from your primary partner, then it is cheating!

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/18/2009 8:41:10 AM

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so at what point do open relationships become cheating when they go i do not want you anymore i want the other person hummm tangled web we weave for sure

I won't speak about open relationships, as I don't feel I have one. I consider Myself poly, as I have two. There is no leaving one for the other, since I have both.

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/18/2009 8:46:37 AM

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I won't speak about open relationships, as I don't feel I have one.

Same here. To Me 'open' implys everyone is free to do as they please... that isn't the case in My relationship. I Own her, she abides by My rules.... Those rules don't exclude her having a playpartner. I am only bound by My Own rules, My Own ethics but I wouldn't get involved with someone who disrespected My girl (Disrespecting My property is disrespecting ME!) nor anyone I knew to be in a cheating situation.

I am not in an 'open relationship' but I am Poly.

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RE: Dealing with a married Sub. - 4/19/2009 7:00:31 AM

LATEXBABY64

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why poly dynamic is like multitasking i have to say i am just better at the one thing kinda like you may like many foods but only truely enjoy the taste of one

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