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RE: I own you/ I love you/ I care for you--semantic games? - 4/27/2009 7:23:52 AM

LadyPact

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I'm lagging this morning, so this might not make a lot of sense.

While I'm a firm believer that ownership can exist without love, romantic or otherwise, these two things usually end up going hand in hand for Me. I grow very attached to the people who are involved closely in My life. I may not end up being *in* love with that person, but I most certainly will love them.

I want to make two side notes here. We've had a run of threads lately about the emotional side of the interactions that we have with the person on the other side of the kneel. One thing that I feel we're not touching on is the fact that these things are a process. Friendship, love, ownership..... These things aren't instantaneous. They are the types of emotions that we feel towards others over time, not overnight. Just like building a house, D/s needs a solid foundation.

The other side note is something of personal history of Mine. It may have very little to do with the topic at hand, but I'm going to type it up anyway.

One of the hurdles that Mister P had in our transition of our becoming poly and My getting back into the lifestyle was a huge issue he had accepting hearing the words "I love you" from Me in regard to another male. Call it a hard limit of his in the beginning, if you will. At first, it was very difficult for him to understand.

It wasn't until he was exposed to watching the foundation being laid, the process of building trust and intimacy, did he understand why love was a component. As an observer, he had the opportunity to watch the evolution of the dynamic. Being witness to that, he gained a greater knowledge. It opened his eyes to a lot of things.

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RE: I own you/ I love you/ I care for you--semantic games? - 4/27/2009 12:04:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

The other side note is something of personal history of Mine. It may have very little to do with the topic at hand, but I'm going to type it up anyway.

One of the hurdles that Mister P had in our transition of our becoming poly and My getting back into the lifestyle was a huge issue he had accepting hearing the words "I love you" from Me in regard to another male. Call it a hard limit of his in the beginning, if you will. At first, it was very difficult for him to understand.

It wasn't until he was exposed to watching the foundation being laid, the process of building trust and intimacy, did he understand why love was a component. As an observer, he had the opportunity to watch the evolution of the dynamic. Being witness to that, he gained a greater knowledge. It opened his eyes to a lot of things.

LadyPact, I wanna take a moment to thank you for the above . . .. . I find the personal sharings of people to be fascinating regardless of whether they're immediately useful, & this in particular I can understand (despite our personal histories being somewhat different, I suspect . . . . . . )

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RE: I own you/ I love you/ I care for you--semantic games? - 4/27/2009 2:03:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DemonKia
LadyPact, I wanna take a moment to thank you for the above . . .. . I find the personal sharings of people to be fascinating regardless of whether they're immediately useful, & this in particular I can understand (despite our personal histories being somewhat different, I suspect . . . . . . )

You are quite welcome, DemonKia. Our histories may be different (many people's are) but this might be something that we have in common. Like you, I tend to be drawn to posts that focus on people's real lives and experiences, even if they don't apply to My personal situation.

Thank you for the very nice comment.

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RE: I own you/ I love you/ I care for you--semantic games? - 4/27/2009 6:43:13 PM

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I can feel ownership toward someone with affection and caring mixed into the relationship. "Love" is more elusive, more private, more intense.

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