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RE: Tell me who you are... - 5/8/2009 2:07:07 PM

LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I am finding the comments by the male submissive's very interesting. Here we have some very articulate men, who do communication with the written word very well and who talk about themselves very clearly. Yet if asked to talk about themselves they have a harder time of things. I do wonder if this is the case with dominant women or just in general with anyone or situation.

As I was saying, as soon as any power dynamic's were brought into things, these men clammed up tight. That could be because of how they view their place as a submissive or slave or maybe something is there in how they might feel in their submission to this woman. I can't quite put my mind around it yet, but it seems that for some, there may be something that gets to them on an emotional level.

I do think that fewer could be lost in the process of it all if we found ways to understand whatever is happening here and ways to better communicate between dominant and submissive's who might have some issue in all of this.

My first post was talking specifically about a certain type of answer which seemed based on sex and submission and nothing really about the person. In all fairness some might think that is what we are asking because of where we are. But I tend to want to lean towards... they still don't have much of a clue and can think of only their satisfaction. It may take a while for me to change on that one! lol

So from what has been said on this thread... what do you all see?

I think it's confirming a couple of theories that I've maintained for some time. One of them is almost a given. That being the fact of how well these boards (this board in particular) work in a positive way for those submissive males who are able to demonstrate this ability. It does allow them to stand out, even when the numbers are, supposedly, against them. I believe this is directly related to why those who communicate on these boards often quickly become the 'hot properties' with several Dominant women interested in them.

The other may be more of a personal view of Mine. I tend to lean toward the belief that I can learn quite a bit more about someone through the things that they post, rather than what the person has written up in a profile. In fact, that's why I don't tend to read them very often. They are based entirely too much on a form of one way communication. The conversations that are held within threads are such a better path to beginning to learn who someone really feels that they are. It's more the getting to know each other process that many of us say we would like to see evolve in our personal interactions. The very thing, Lockit, which I believe inspired the thread.

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(in reply to Lockit)