littlesarbonn
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(reply to no one in particular, but to the thread in general)
I just read through this thread and a number of times I was antsy to post a reply, but then decided I would just read the whole thing through before deciding to write anything. The reason I've been so antsy about making a response is that I fit into several categories of the discussion, and hopefully an explanation might help to understand some of the people who are being discussed as a population within this thread.
You see, some time ago, I was one of the shyest people you could ever know. When it came to women, I was a basket case and rarely capable of holding up my end of a conversation. At the time, I was an Army officer and pretty dominant and forthright in my career with few problems unless it involved having to hold a conversation outside of the context of my work related duties. In the job, I was a powerhouse, and I even had a nickname of Major Destruction at one point because I used to walk into a situation and pretty much leave everyone in ruins or damn proud that they were doing one hell of a great job. But again, when it came to those personal situations outside of this work environment, I just avoided it, knowing I just didn't have the ability to make things happen. And looking back on it, it makes zero sense, but you don't know that at the time, and you end up living a life that makes very little sense at that time.
Before I became a dedicated submissive, which miraculously led to an almost immediate live-in situation, I was still suffering from this problem. But at that time, I started to recognize it was a problem I didn't like, so I started doing things that actually scared the crap out of me. I joined a debate team, and I went out every weekend and forced myself to speak in front of groups and to lots and lots of individuals. It was scary, but in a very short time, I began to excel at it, and to be honest, my life has never really been the same.
Today, people will laugh out loud if I tell them I used to be shy. They just don't believe it. When I tell them I used to have trouble speaking to people, they can't see it because nowadays you really can't shut me up.
With all that being said, this has led to a situation where I am pretty much who I am in whatever medium I exist. I always have a lot to say, but it tends to be relevant information as I avoid small talk and irrelevant conversation like the plague. Sometimes, that leads to those awkward moments where I don't have anything to say because there's really nothing to say. This is why I was such a good investigator; I don't fill up awkward moments with conversation; I wait and listen to what the other person has to say. The reason I mention this is that sometimes when I am with someone, she might believe this is a sign of shyness when it's a symptom of something completely different.
But with all of that, which is the antithesis of the problem itself, it doesn't really open up any more opportunities for finding someone over the noise that is everyone else. There are still tons of "look at me" submissives out there who are capable of drawing the attention of those to whom I also would like to attract, and quite often they are very successful. That gets tiring after awhile, and people tend to just avoid trying, or worse (become part of the problem). But for years I used to write long articles of advice to other submissives, only to discover that they aren't interested in how to better themselves, but in how to get rid of the competition. That, too, gets awfully tiring.
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RE: Tell me who you are... - 
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...I mean seriously there's only so much you've done at the age of 22 so my typical answer is somewhere along the lines of: ...I'm a student, I had a parrot, and it died. 
..I mean..if I'll be alive by then
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