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i accept advice & prayers...and i am grateful for either. i don't see how the statement you just made regarding this being a poly relationship can be interpreted as advice, but i thank you anyways.

sweetkajira

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

The end is not near...just change, uncertainty, and fear. Let us separate the problems. 1st, your child is out of control and 2nd, your Dom may leave you.

Time to be pro-active. Get the child to a world-class therapy situation for diagnosis. Cincinnnati, OH, has one; ask a trusted MD or go online. You need a firm diagnosis...is there a physical problem? What part is emotional, and WHAT disorder is it??

i do not know of either of the adults here considered the impact of a disabled child on the relationship before it began. Any hope to remain together surely means Y/you must BOTH face it now. The child may be severely emotionally disturbed; decisions will have to be made.

i wonder if your Dom felt sufficient loyalty and trust and submission whenever the child disrupted things....or did you play the "Mommy Card" and overrule Him?

There are so many varaiables, and i'd suggest you get some short term therapy as well. i doubt your child needs 'effective parenting"; i think you may be looking at institutionalisation. But i may be reading you wrong. In any event, there are important decisions to make in a state of sorrow...therapy may keep you straight.

My prayers are with you & yours.

candystripper

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barelynangel: You are getting defensive when someone comments on something you say and don't agree with (i.e. your slavery to him) and that tells me you are asking not for advice but for people to tell you what you want to hear, which on some level tells me you have made up your mind and just want confirmation, which is fine. But i would be very wary of taking advice from people who have no clue of you, your life, the whole situation, and each person involved. Without that knowledge, a person can only give you what you in fact do want to hear which is confirmation of what you already know, and not unbias advice.

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

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Let's be real... How many Masters hit the couch when they are upset with their slave?? Really, think about it! That line got a giggle out of me so I responded.

Sorry, I have to disagree with you MstrssPassion. Any Master/Mistress who is feeling that an emotional issue is keeping them from having a meaningful relationship SHOULD be thinking about therapy. That is, any Master/Mistress who recognizes that power and control does not solve many problems (that should include most) and they are serious about working out a relationship instead of just tossing it aside and finding a new submissive.

While finding new submissives may be an easy thing for most Dommes, it isn't so for most Doms. So, maybe you can just pick and choose until you find one perfect for you. Even then, when you are emotionally attached to your submissive, do you just toss him/her aside if, for some reason, there is something that keeps you (or them) from being able to keep the relationship going?

That's why there are kink friendly therapists out there. For people who want a permanent relationship and realize that life DOES get in the way.

(in reply to MstrssPassion)