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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/26/2009 5:10:42 PM

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men are like buses one comes every couple of minutes

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/26/2009 5:18:45 PM

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He has two houses and three women (and damned good looking ones). And he's not satisfied. Sad, really, to be that fortunate and not appreciate it.

Yes, quite stupid as these slaves will leave out of their moral integrity and self esteem preservation and then the young tootsie fiance will eventually leave him and then he will be alone. Although I think that is a good thing.

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/26/2009 5:26:47 PM

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My apologies Lockit, but I am not blaming them for his behaviour, merely reminding them of their places.

They choose to be his slaves... therefore they need to accept what that ultimately means.

Or they can walk which is what they are talking of doing.

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/26/2009 5:47:39 PM

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Three pages of ripping a guy apart after having heard only one side of the story and while he is not here to tell his side (whatever it may be).

God, I love these forums.

You are right, he isn't here. Cause he's otherwise occupied. He is on collarme, although he hasn't signed on since February.

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/26/2009 5:49:32 PM

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UGH spare me the drama you got dumped the reason never matters. men are like buses one comes along every couple of minutes

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Not quite right, BadOne. He wants it all. The honorable thing would be to dump us if he wants to marry this girl.

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/26/2009 6:44:46 PM

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UGH spare me the drama you got dumped the reason never matters. men are like buses one comes along every couple of minutes

BadOne

Not quite right, BadOne. He wants it all. The honorable thing would be to dump us if he wants to marry this girl.

Every adult must eventually come to the realization that what you want and what you get are two entirely different things in this world.
If you want to wait around for him to become "honorable", stock up on the hankies because it will not be pretty.
How about doing the honorable thing for yourself and make a decision with your best interest at heart. It's obvious he's not looking out for your best interest, so the duty now reverts back to you.
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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/26/2009 8:23:16 PM

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UGH spare me the drama you got dumped the reason never matters. men are like buses one comes along every couple of minutes

BadOne

Not quite right, BadOne. He wants it all. The honorable thing would be to dump us if he wants to marry this girl.

Well see it's like this some men are gluttons for punishment!!! They think want more than one bitch lounging around copping their knob. The reality is 2 bitches = double trouble and so on....

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/27/2009 8:20:17 AM

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As I've always understood it this lifestyle, especially poly households are all about honesty. People siding with him can do all the mental and linguistic gymnastics they like but he should have been more open. After isn't kink about being open. In my experience the kinkiest are just the most honest and open people...

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/27/2009 12:56:23 PM

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Well see it's like this some men are gluttons for punishment!!! They think want more than one bitch lounging around copping their knob. The reality is 2 bitches = double trouble and so on....
BadOne

WTF! I guess it's good to know you're a more evolved dog.

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/27/2009 1:59:25 PM

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No, it's not required for him to dump her, but he does need to be honest with her about his desires and about the two of you. It sounds like he's *not* going to do that, so the two of you need to dump him. He's clearly perfectly happy with the current situation.

FreakyBiscuit, I don't think there is a direct correlation. I try to be very honest and up-front about who I am, what my needs/wants are, etc., but there are plenty of people here who are closeted deceitful jerks who have been lying to their wife for decades.

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RE: Kinky men that prefer vanilla women - 5/27/2009 4:42:56 PM

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I am curious to put this before others. I mean we all know about the married men that figure out that they are kinky and want a sub on the side. But what about those Doms that choose a vanilla woman. How many have known this to happen? Is it an oddity, or does it happen fairly regularly.

This is personal, so just a little back story. My ex-Master seemed happy to have a poly household. Two slaves that adored him and love each other. Seems pretty awesome, don't you think? So he has that in his back pocket, but then meets a 19 year old vanilla girl and in only 2 months is proposing to her. We found this out by accident because my sister was taking care of his dogs and stumbled on the receipt for the ring. The girl of course knows nothing of us, which has been our complaint to him. Obviously, we are not going to stick around. But we are still devastated. So my question is:

What is the attraction? And it's not like he's just a little kinky. He's into some pretty freaky stuff. And he complains about what he doesn't like about her to us. I know we can't help who we fall in love with, but it is just so hard for me to grasp.

In response to your story: holy fuck. I'm glad you're getting out of there. If he hasn't even told her about the two of you, and is actually marrying her, that's not just a red flag...that's when it's time to kick him to the curb. I say this because that's what I would expect from my girls were I to do the same thing.

In response to your original question... I've dated mostly vanilla women...well, they were vanilla when I found them.... ;)

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