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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/3/2009 6:54:09 PM   
MasterMatty


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Status: offline 		It must differ from place to place cos when I go out I can normal just join in in a play session with a fell Dom (if I know them)And if that is not an opption well then a walk around the club talking to everyone there always brings up a good response

Now granted I have been without a proper sub to play with for the last few months (which killed me everytime I went to clubs/meets) but now I have gotten to know the people there it is way more free and easy

In 7years you must know pertty much everyone in the scene there // That has to make it easier!?!

-M

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/4/2009 4:00:26 AM   
flogger


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Status: offline 		Yes I  know quite a few pervs, I just have a problem with the proper words to say.  I use the old way and lauguage I was learned before my hearing losss, that caused me to say to a subs husband "who's turn is it"  since she they both had found me to play with, then a few weeks later I asked him that question Man to Man and then all hell broke lose when he went back and told her what I said.  I was told by the dungeon Master, my choice of words is what turns people off.  Hell I did not think I said anythng wrong to another man.  I swore I thiought two men could talk about stuff as buddies,  was I wrong on that front. Now I'm more careful of what I say and to who and how.  Lessens my chances again.  Now im lectrued to "ask first, "do you belong to anyone"? if yes, move on, if no start a conversation,  Also don't ask for her cell text number, give her mine.  The Masters spent a half hour drilling me on these two points.  Like I said I'm from the old school where the man made all the moves.  This is very new to me to let the sub make the cell text call first.   I  really understand about asking if the sub is owned and I feel so much better knowing I have not attempted to step on anyone elses toes\ That's just respect. I've played with others slaves ocassionally.  I seek my own so there won't be any drama about "will she play again or where I made my error "who's turn is it" this week mine or yours or his.  That I ask him and he went back and told her that I said it.  This may sound like a rant but its all true and feels good to get out of my system.  Thanks for reading everyone.

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/4/2009 8:08:54 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I think that different settings and different people have different preferences.  Learning some new options is a good thing; thus, various requests aren't going to be as shoocking for you.  As an example, I almost never share my cell number with someone I have agreed to meet for a meal or a beverage off of the 'net.  Other people think that's strange.  Each unto their own and you'll find your groove.  :>
  Davan

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/5/2009 7:18:35 AM   
flogger


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the response, I'm taking it day by day and party by party.  I gave my cell number for text to 3 couples and asked them to help via the advice that was given.  Patience is strength.

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/5/2009 9:59:56 PM   
aBondageTop


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Status: offline 		Simple -- look somewhere else.  I attended a few local events, and met some nice people, but never anyone I would remotely consider as a partner.  But I've had good luck through vanilla dating sites. There are a lot of kinky women out there, but not many willing to come unescorted to public events.  I tend to date professional women.  Few are willing to risk their career by playing in public.

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/6/2009 8:11:49 AM   
flogger


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Status: offline 		Simple for you, you don't have to use a TTY or voice carry over phone system or computer for communication.  Most people who hear the  relay operator introduce  the call as "deaf" or whatver they say,   "They hang up"  I have profiles on nilla sites.  Not luck at all.   I try not to be clingy or needy in others eyes. Another Dom gave me a response "Only women know why they don't answer profiles"  Don't let it bother you or worry about why they don't respond.

My nilla sites are Bootycall ... Blackplanet... Myspace.... IR Dating....Blacfkdeaf....Deafbdsm


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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/6/2009 8:48:22 AM   
Andalusite


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Status: offline 		You need to bring it up *before* you call them, then. Mine isn't bad enough to need the Relay service, but it can make it hard to hear on the phone, so I usually mention it in e-mail first, or during the first phone conversation. I think people assume that the Relay still uses a live operator like it used to, but the current one just lets you talk to each other while seeing the words on the TTY (voice recognition software).

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/6/2009 11:38:43 AM   
roland23


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Status: offline 		This happened to me in the past. Fortunately, I've been able to meet subs outside the club/bar scene but it tooks years, no make that decades! I've noticed a lot of female subs on this site are owned. Hopefully, we can have a discussion on that one day!

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/6/2009 12:28:53 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterMatty

It must differ from place to place cos when I go out I can normal just join in in a play session with a fell Dom (if I know them)

-M


Yes, it must obviously vary from place to place, because if you stepped into one of My scenes without invitation, I don't think you'd like the result.




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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/6/2009 2:27:02 PM   
flogger


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Andalusite

You need to bring it up *before* you call them, then. Mine isn't bad enough to need the Relay service, but it can make it hard to hear on the phone, so I usually mention it in e-mail first, or during the first phone conversation. I think people assume that the Relay still uses a live operator like it used to, but the current one just lets you talk to each other while seeing the words on the TTY (voice recognition software).


2 points.... "e-mail and first phone conversation.....2 steps....I have to get  e-mail/e-mails  from her.to explain my conversational skills...Next invite her to a VCO phone call/calls. All the subs/slave reading my forum are welcome to experience a VCO call,

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/7/2009 5:39:16 PM   
aBondageTop


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quote:


My nilla sites are Bootycall ... Blackplanet... Myspace.... IR Dating....Blacfkdeaf....Deafbdsm


Oh, I have had no success on free dating sites, but have had good luck on match.com. Your mileage may vary.

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RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or to... - 7/8/2009 12:22:09 PM   
flogger


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Status: offline 		Matchcom. never worked for me. My karma is so fucked from my past with women,  To this day I do reject women as well as they reject me.  I want someone who is correct, who don't top from the bottom.

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