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What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 11:44:05 AM   
IronBear


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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 11:45:21 AM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 11:45:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Not wanting to hijack another thread, something Leadership said prompted me to ask the is question::  What is it that us Dominants do? 

Ummm...

Dominate?




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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 11:49:26 AM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 12:06:27 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 12:33:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WarKirby

Satisfy our own needs in a way that also satisfies those of the sub.



I second this. that's exactly the way I fell about it.




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ORIGINAL: DavanKael

Hopefully and relationally relate with another who acknowledges said dominance and each is able to utilize his and/or her strengths in synergy to the other to optimize functionality, intimacy, and satisfaction in the relationship.
Davan


points for using synergy in a sentence not related to business.

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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 12:35:17 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 12:51:49 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 1:06:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Not wanting to hijack another thread, something Leadership said prompted me to ask the is question::  What is it that us Dominants do? 


Hopefully, they do what it says on the tin. I've never seen two tins with the same label and small print.

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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 1:21:57 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 1:27:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Not wanting to hijack another thread, something Leadership said prompted me to ask the is question::  What is it that us Dominants do? 


Greetings to my favorite Master Bear!

I can only speak to what my own dominant does: compels, inspires, coerces, manipulates, dictates, authenticates, recognizes, appreciates, evaluates, elevates, pokes, prods, pushes, instigates, investigates, commands, demands and expects me to submit to his will.

Plus, he's funny as hell and makes me laugh or none of the above would matter a whit.

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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 1:47:49 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 2:48:17 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 3:30:45 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 5:17:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Not wanting to hijack another thread, something Leadership said prompted me to ask the is question::  What is it that us Dominants do? 


I read, listen to music, watch movies, write for work, tend to my fruit trees and vineyards, cut grass, go running with the dog...

...stuff like that.





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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 6:10:48 PM   
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And when I say that I mean in the purest form.
Any one with questions about what this means on this I would refer to writings on the social contract. Take a look at Machiavelli, Hobbes, Clausewitz, Rawls et. al...

She is mine, to do with as I may, but one can only reign with the consent of the governed.


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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 6:50:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

A Dominant is responsible for those around him/her.  He or she must be big enough to be concerned with what is best for him/herself and any subs responsible for.


And that takes a seriously competent man.  It's not all fun and games being the boss.  Of that, I am sure.
j

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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 8:10:43 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		Iron Bear, You have no idea how interested I am in this thread.

I wish the answers given up till now were more detailed but I guess you can't always get what you want.

I have spent a lot of time on this question. I often wondered what a submissive actually gets out of the relationship and how it is that they get that. The following is about a decade of wondering.

I believe that dominants fill a function in that we complete a circut for many submissives. I believe that we take away part of a pattern that puzzles many submissives and replace it with a system of order.

There are people in this world that simply choices and dread them, The choice of what to wear and when to make dinner and what to make for that dinner. The choice of what room to start cleaning in a house, how to start and when, then there are those who simply wish to exist and need direction to keep from drifting out to sea.

I believe that a domiant fills that void of direction and order. We take on the responsibility of making those choices that don't really matter but take up a great amount of time in doing so.

I believe that a submissive is at times afraid to make these choices for fear that something better might show up and living an existance of mediocrity always feeling the might of made the wrong choice and not trusting the choices they make.

As a Dominant I am willing to make those choices and take responsibility for any mistake that might come from my choices. I take away the mystery of what would have been a better choice because I take responsibily for that choice. I decide what we have, how she cleans, when she goes and where she goes for those times when she finds it difficult for her to do so herself.

There is a Simplicity in it at times in which one could easily say that they don't do anything, they simply do as they please and the submissive follows and in those things MANY decisions are made without an active decision being made.

I think Dominants DO the parts that a submissive finds it difficult to do, they suppy direction when the cordinates get lost and they supply support when the submissive find a destination to go.

Steel

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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 8:44:05 PM   
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RE: What is it that us Dominants do? - 6/13/2009 8:59:48 PM   
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