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Andalusite -> RE: A very interesting question I found online :D (6/18/2009 8:47:18 AM)
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ORIGINAL: rednicky
And I'd hate it if I had a great guy and had a great relationship but he called it of after 3 years because I wasn't submissive enough. I keep asking myself "Would I compromise and be more submissive for him because I love him or would I stay defiant simply because of his attitude about my behavior?"
You *want* to be submissive, though, so being defiant is something you probably shouldn't feel toward a potential partner. Some guys do like a lot of resistance play, and some submissives need to have control wrested from them, but personally, I feel that submission is a reaction to/interaction with a specific person. If I didn't feel submissive toward my Master almost all of the time, or if I hadn't felt that way toward my previous Dominant, I wouldn't have pursued a power exchange relationship with either of them.
It sounds like the lady in question specifically has some issues surrounding male/female interactions. I've heard of a few women actively disliking having doors held for them, but haven't run into any myself. It sounds like she had some bad experiences, or was specifically raised to take a hyper-independent/individualistic approach, and feel it's weak to accept any concessions or courtesies based on gender.
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
They don't open doors, give away seats on buses, allow someone to walk in first, ect, at least not as much as they used to when I was much younger. Since moving to the upper part of the state here in Ca I haven't noticed a lot of traditional gentlemen types.
Hmm, here in the Bay Area, most men who are strangers do all of the above! I had a few guys I went on dates with who didn't open doors - it isn't a dealbreaker, but I do prefer it. My Master usually does, but sometimes it's more practical for me to get it myself, or hold it for him.
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