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I was having a conversation with a femdom friend just two days ago. She said that one of her pet peeves was women who wanted a sub male who had a ton of things to bring to a relationship, even though the woman had very little to bring to the relationship except the fact that she identified as dominant.
I'm not saying this to point a finger at you, StoneFox. You've never struck me as someone who would try to use or trick someone else. However, don't you already have a primary partner? Limitations like that are going to limit the types of men who approach you. Here's a question, to think about privately if you wish, I'm certainly not asking for a public response: What do you have to offer a man with a professional skill most femdoms would love to have in their life?
Since you and I don't often disagree (I'm not even sure if we're disagreeing now) I thought I'd expand on this point. It might make for an interesting discussion.
One of the running gags around here is that, due to the fact that I am a computer twit, he needs to be computer savvy. As far as electronics go, it is one of My weaknesses. I have other areas that I don't especially consider strengths, such as My bad sense of direction. For someone who has been known to travel like I do, that can be a hang up. Someone who is good at planning trips would absolutely be an asset to Me. One or both of those things might be considered special skills because I don't have them.
I don't see these things as any different than what I bring to the table for a submissive. For example, I have good social skills. Many times, this is related to the fact that I am a femdom. Now, I don't especially see that as a skill because it's something that I have. It opens doors to Me in a variety of places. Yet, to someone who doesn't have that particular asset, it could be seen as a skill and it certainly could be related to Dominance. I would say without a doubt that there are people that I have met and places that I've gone solely because of some topping skills that I possess. I see that as *just* being a Dominant. There are many who wouldn't agree with that, because it isn't a part of their personal experience.
Now, the question is, are we quite sure that is because I'm Dominant, or it just happens to be an area of strength of Mine as a person? Can someone who doesn't have that quality see it as a skill? In some ways, you can say yes because not everybody can do it. Someone who is shy and reserved would absolutely be in awe of the way I pull off a presentation (with My pre-demo jitters added in, of course) or My sense of adventure to run off and play somewhere that I've never been. While I could probably do the same in the vanilla world, it's My Dominance that allows Me to excel in these areas.
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But seriously, it's very common, I think, for an introverted sort of person to get together with a more extroverted one. The one has a bundle of things to offer the other. A woman who has well developed social skills - is happy, basically, being surrounded by others - is going to have something that I'm not great on. It would be a very attractive quality.
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