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chiaThePet -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/5/2009 8:26:05 PM)
Body bags that won't open like those fruit and veggie ones at the market chia* (the pet)

ZenDragoness -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/5/2009 8:44:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Racquelle The posturing and the "protocols" which hold no personal meaning. After reading all replies i still have to go with Racquelle. The dominant colour black at gatherings.

ladyofthecastle -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/5/2009 9:28:50 PM)
I have to agree, that black seems to be the official color for most in our expertise. I personally prefer Black, Red, and Silver. Though it seems everything comes in black or you have to pay an arm and a leg for it. I do not seem to find much in life that is boring. Even if you use the same routine of tie them up [sm=ballchain.gif], beat, them [sm=crop.gif] and then free them [sm=biggrin.gif]. There is an endless amount of things to use :) I do not think I could handle a constant routine to much. I and my pet enjoy a great amount of diversity. The most boring thing in my life right now is trying to find a sincere and real person on here. It takes for ever to go through emails from other countries and plus all the web cam fakers.

olena -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/5/2009 9:31:56 PM)
The false pretensions and hubris way people use this life and give themselves qualities to feel superior to other human beings regardless of the role or gender.

DarkSteven -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/5/2009 9:47:45 PM)
I guess I don't see BDSM as a bunch of activities. I see it as a facet of a relationship. If the relationship gets boring. that's trouble. If the activities themselves get boring... there's always the relationship.

HandSolo -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/5/2009 11:35:42 PM)
Twenty fruitless years of looking for a top is pretty dull, now that you ask.

agirl -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 12:49:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I guess I don't see BDSM as a bunch of activities. I see it as a facet of a relationship. If the relationship gets boring. that's trouble. If the activities themselves get boring... there's always the relationship. I think in a similar way. Nothing we do has ever been EXACTLY the same, no matter how many times we've done it because it's HIM and it's ME. Just being WITH him is exciting....anything else that takes place just adds to tha,t and I'm not exactly starry-eyed, having been with him for a fair few years. Bdsm itself doesn't fire me up...HE fires me up. I've never been terribly interested in bdsm activities themselves........but I'm with someone that can make watching paint dry appealing. That's right back to DarkSteven's quote......The relationship is exciting. agirl

Prinsexx -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 1:02:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I guess I don't see BDSM as a bunch of activities. I see it as a facet of a relationship. If the relationship gets boring. that's trouble. If the activities themselves get boring... there's always the relationship. Touche....

LdyWintershade -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 1:14:28 AM)
The notions that many people seem to have....that 24/7 TPE is going to be some kind of on-going pro session, or a constant version of whatever erotic, BDSM porn they have in their heads. While those moments can certainly occur; the daily grind of live-in service is just life, albeit with a somewhat unconventional twist. :) More of a pet peeve than a boredom, though it does get old and tedious, thus; bored now. lol - I disagree with what you say, but will defend to the death, your right to say it.

Prinsexx -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 1:23:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I guess I don't see BDSM as a bunch of activities. I see it as a facet of a relationship. If the relationship gets boring. that's trouble. If the activities themselves get boring... there's always the relationship. I think in a similar way. Nothing we do has ever been EXACTLY the same, no matter how many times we've done it because it's HIM and it's ME. Just being WITH him is exciting....anything else that takes place just adds to tha,t and I'm not exactly starry-eyed, having been with him for a fair few years. Bdsm itself doesn't fire me up...HE fires me up. I've never been terribly interested in bdsm activities themselves........but I'm with someone that can make watching paint dry appealing. That's right back to DarkSteven's quote......The relationship is exciting. agirl dear agirl I think I was bored when I started the thread to be honest.. on collarme here that is. Maybe it's 4th July or Wimbledon that's pre-occupying everyone. I dunno. I'm not bored exactly but somewhere approaching it... I'm on a de-tox and brown rice, oats, spinach and water can be pretty monotonous after a month. De-cluttering and ridding myself of toxic relationships is more interesting though. I do agree it's the relationship not the activity which is the key. So on that score my garden is the most interesting thing in my life right now....

lally2 -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 2:13:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx quote: ORIGINAL: LadyDarkWolf yes but some don't, if you played out a scene the same way every time would it not get boring for you?? I've never wanted the same scene more than once. When it happened and kept happening and became a nightly ritual I just thought 'stupid wanker' and the spell was broken. It was down hill all the way. re: youre comment on msn,.... is why i dont tend to chat on msn or anywhere else until ive got a feeling for someone and know theyre not likely to (though right now its more to do with the fact that im enjoying some me time). all that nonsense tends to make me groan inwardly and then get really arsey. usually leads to them accusing me of not being submissive at which point i usually tell them to fuck off. i wouldnt call that boring though, its usually highly amusing.

ranja -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 2:25:17 AM)
nothing much...some people are boring though

LadyPact -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 2:32:15 AM)
In My actual practice* of BDSM, I can't say I've ever done anything boring. Play doesn't bore Me in the least. I've never finished a scene and thought to Myself, "Shoot, there go two hours of My life I'll never get back." That has a lot to do with the fact that I know what I enjoy and that's a pretty broad area. Now, there are things that have been associated with BDSM that have bored Me. I won't even go into the list of things related to things on this site or what lands in My email that could be included. I've been to some presentations that would fit the bill as boring. Being proficient at wiitwd doesn't necessarily make someone a good presenter or discussion leader. One was so poorly done at an event that I attended last fall, that I would most likely be disinterested in attending another from the Domme/sub couple who gave that particular class. * Practice of BDSM meaning things I've done related to wiitwd.

DemonKia -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 3:04:07 AM)
FR, after read thru First, a personal note about boredom: I don't get bored, much. I'm easily amused. Capable of entertaining myself with or without external stimuli. I find myself endlessly fascinating . . . .. When the offspring were younger & complained of being bored, I generally pointed out that it was because they were boring & that the solution was for them to stop being boring & they'd stop being bored. Given that, there are some situations which do have the potential to bore me: Rote sex & / or BDSM play with little or no emotional connection . . . . . Being hit on like I'm an interchangeable BDSM fuck-bot . ... . &, not specific to BDSM, but complaining as a lifestyle, or as a primary communication skill, is pretty dull . . . . To quote John Lennon: 'there are no problems, only solutions' . . . . . There's an appropriate time & place for whining, but I reach saturation pretty quick . . ...

MissAnimus -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 3:13:21 AM)
Cleaning up = boring

Goddess2002 -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 3:15:24 AM)
I suppose I get bored when the focus is so heavily based on activities....I'm much more into the psychological/dynamic/relationship element of it and need that balance in order not to become restless.

Prinsexx -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 4:40:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DemonKia Rote sex & / or BDSM play with little or no emotional connection . . . . . Being hit on like I'm an interchangeable BDSM fuck-bot . ... . That comment has really unbored me ....

Prinsexx -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 4:41:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissAnimus Cleaning up = boring nah you see cleaning-up to me is erotic... but it does depend on whom i'm cleaning up for

Prinsexx -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 4:45:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact In My actual practice* of BDSM, I can't say I've ever done anything boring. Play doesn't bore Me in the least. I've never finished a scene and thought to Myself, "Shoot, there go two hours of My life I'll never get back." That has a lot to do with the fact that I know what I enjoy and that's a pretty broad area. * Practice of BDSM meaning things I've done related to wiitwd. Dear LadyPact Now this is where I am tempted to start on 'well you see it must be different from the submissive position'.... I KNOW i am repsonsible for my own experience but I swear to god I've been so bored by what has been being done to me that the only way I hid it was because i was bent over with my arse up in the air and he couldn't see my yawning... not to go into details but he was obviously really getting off on it and I was like ok derrrr and thinking about England.

TreasureKY -> RE: Boring bdsm (7/6/2009 4:52:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl *Bdsm itself doesn't fire me up...HE fires me up. I've never been terribly interested in bdsm activities themselves........but I'm with someone that can make watching paint dry* appealing.** This pretty much says it for me. Though I'm not so sure about the "watching paint dry" thing. [;)]

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