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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Public BDSM - should we tolerate it? (7/13/2009 5:44:44 AM)
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In other words, you want little people, who have not matured, to have common consideration for you. Yet, as an adult, you are not willing to respond in kind to someone who might find your actions, just as irritating.
And this, for me, is the issue more than anything else. I am pretty hung up on 'freedom of expression', but I think that adults have a responsibility to themselves to gauge a situation and behave with a bit of dignity where the situation requires.
I -don't- think that there should be laws governing things like nudity, PDAs, etc., and I understand that this would mean that, at times, I might find myself having to explain to someone I was with who was not as familiar as I am with certain things -why- someone would be doing such a thing... at the same time, I think that we've gone -way- too far in the direction of completely dismissing common courtesy and good manners, and have nearly completely lost our capacity to interact with one another without being just plain -rude-.
As an individual with mammaries who nursed my offspring in normal mammalian fashion, I had no issue whatsoever with nursing in public. It is, after all, what mammaries were designed to do. I also think it completely -rocks- that I read last week that Canada allows that if a male can go topless, so can a female. At the same time, I think that there is a measure of dignity and respect that one has for _oneself_ that allows one to determine the -least- offensive way to express oneself honestly in a given group of people. I'm not talking about hiding and lying -- I'm talking about choosing means of expressing HONESTLY what one's dynamic entails in a way that is nourishing to the dynamic while still not causing a disturbance in the pleasant and constructive tone of one's immediate environment.
I don't think we need to curtail freedoms or create unnecessary and restricting laws to contain people's behaviors to acceptable standards... I think that we need to find ways to gauge situations and compromise sufficiently to respect that there are a broad range of practices and relational dynamics in the world, and that we can use a little self-restraint in both our -presentation- of our personal dynamic, and in the way that we respond to the presentations of other peoples' dynamics. Good manners go a LONG, LONG way towards smoothing the issues of refining and re-defining appropriate behavior without inciting violence. I've noted with a great deal of sorrow that it is much harder to get anything done in the States, since good manners went by the wayside and everyone is all up in everyone else's face demanding their 'rights' so loudly and proudly that they're walking all over everyone around them to do it.
Dame Calla
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