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RE: Sharing all with Master, regardless... - 7/17/2009 2:10:06 AM

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Hmm...I hope the people My Lord and I encounter assume that we generally are going to discuss whatever pops into our heads to discuss, and quite often that is the events and conversations which occurred while we were not with one another during the day. The level of detail depends on the matter itself, and often the entertainment value involved. If a friend confides in me something intensely personal, however, I generally keep it to myself, just because it feels like the right thing to do.

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RE: Sharing all with Master, regardless... - 7/17/2009 3:06:08 AM

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Michael and i share most of what other people tell us.

We both live by the rule: Secrets are binding energy.

Therefore i do not accept information that has to be confidential, i tell the person beforehand that the information will not be treated that way. In the past i had some very ugly secrets of friends to carry, i do not do that any longer.

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RE: Sharing all with Master, regardless... - 7/17/2009 5:08:09 AM

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This I cannot really find here, and have made an assumption, not based on facts, it is not permitted. I cannot see for instance, several slaves here as well as submissives just connecting to hold a circle of thoughts and feelings.

oceanwinds, i am very fortunate to have a group of friends with whom i can do the very thing you seek. i met them all here, and it's great to be able to express myself with them without censure. i love those sluts!

i'm also a part of a submissives safe space group at The Woodshed in Orlando. If you and your Sir ever make the trip over for a night at the dungeon, the 2nd Saturday of the month starting at 5pm is when we meet. i'd love to see you there. A friend of mine in Daytona is part of a similar group there. You may be surprised to find a group near you. Check with any s/type friends in your local community. Good luck finding a group....or maybe, starting one on your own!*nods*

Thank you Ironitulsthap
It is such a blessed thing to have that connection, what I call sisterhood. As I assumed and by reading the posts it is pretty much unheard of in BDSM. I would never consider putting any slave or submissive in a position that would cause a problem with their D/M. Yes, even i share some things with Sir, but am grateful he understands my need of sisterhood. It's an extension of who I am. The victorian tea gatherings, where we can just speak of poetry, daily events, or dreams, goals etc. I felt I was and still do feel the outsider on that and accept it without trying to cause friction.

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RE: Sharing all with Master, regardless... - 7/17/2009 8:17:06 AM

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Frankly anything that I would share with someone could be public knowledge and it would not bother me. There are very few people I tell things to in "confidence" my male sub is one, the other is my daughter. Other than that I assume people have loose lips and will repeat most things that they hear.

~Lashra

This is pretty much my philosophy as well. I am pretty closed mouth when it comes to my own personal stuff and stuff other people tell me. Regardless of whether someone asks me to keep it quiet or not. It's just my nature to not gossip. Unless of course, the greater good is to tell an appropriate person.

Example: If someone tells me they are intending to, or have, commit/ed a serious crime......yeah, I am blabbing. Even then there are exceptions. "Omg, I cannot believe I just ran a red light on the way over here!!" All that would get would be a "Start being more careful! I kinda like you and don't want to visit you in the hospital, morgue, or jail!" Not worth telling anyone in my opinion. As opposed to "Stan and I are planning on whacking Jane and feeding her to the catfish." In that case, I'd probably be telling someone.

But, gossipy crap. No.

Someone that belongs to me (if that should ever happen again) I don't need to know all the details. Just the important stuff. They will know my moral compass and learn what I consider important.

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RE: Sharing all with Master, regardless... - 7/17/2009 10:41:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Someone that belongs to me (if that should ever happen again) I don't need to know all the details. Just the important stuff. They will know my moral compass and learn what I consider important.

This is really what it boils down to for me. I hate gossip and I hate drama and I am accountable for my words.

However, a good example for me, of when I tell Mr. Man something, is when someone else's issue has affected me or disrupted my thinking. I was recently pulled into someone else's drama (well, the beginnings of, but I deflected), but I found myself losing some sleep over what had occurred and what had been shared with me. So I told him all about it. I needed that outlet. So yeah, I'll tell him what is appropriate for me to tell him, and in the scope of our relationship, that's for us to decide, not anyone else.

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