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ORIGINAL: SirLost

Well, if it was that easy to find a convenient partner in our environment without using internet, then CollarMe would be a site only for BDSM couples who had met in real time to discuss about BDSM and other things, not a place where people are seeking for their BDSM partners. I am not wrong, am I? Personally, I've got some disorders that makes it much harder for me to communicate people verbally, that's the main reason I choose online communication.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: ranja

But Sir ResidentSadist the on-line master could surely suggest that his subject empties out a kitchen cupboard (dressed appropriately of course) and when said cupboard is empty and scrubbed clean she might fold herself inside it for a set period of time using an egg timer... would she not learn the same things as being locked in a cage by you?
If I had a sub, I would rather have my own kitchen cupboards cleaned out. She can clean her own kitchen on her off time.

Would you still not have the power for having her do as you suggest/order... would you not be entertained by reading her detailed report after she completed her task? 
If I wanted to read reports, I would take up teaching. I want to see the look on her face when she crawls in there with no idea when I might let her back out.

Is the idea of submitting or Dominating not always only in the mind?
Not sure what the question is here.


If you lock a real person in a real cage and she starts saying her 'safeword' would you not have to let her out?
Of course I would and thankfully I would be there in the room with her, so I could hear that safeword and not sitting at my keyboard waiting for her to email her report back to me.
 
who is the boss then?
I am

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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

I  really want ot understand the draw of Online training ?

I see so many , not all , are seeking  before meeting  they want to start  online. Is this  just a scam ? Do people really get to know someone that well online  and really meet eventually?  What is your reward for being involved in this  without meeting the other person first? I would really liek to hear others feelings and experiences on this !!!

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I really want ot understand the draw of Online training ?

I see so many , not all , are seeking before meeting they want to start online. Is this just a scam ? Do people really get to know someone that well online and really meet eventually? What is your reward for being involved in this without meeting the other person first? I would really liek to hear others feelings and experiences on this !!!

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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

I  really want ot understand the draw of Online training ?

I see so many , not all , are seeking  before meeting  they want to start  online. Is this  just a scam ? Do people really get to know someone that well online  and really meet eventually?  What is your reward for being involved in this  without meeting the other person first? I would really liek to hear others feelings and experiences on this !!!

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As for the OP, the online "relationship" is a scam. There's a reason that your body physically creates different chemicals when you physically interact with an individual as opposed to the lack of that chemical production when you're just typing away at a screen. And lets look at the stereotypes. "RT" relationships often end up with people living together or having some sort of no-n kink based intertwining. This cannot happen in "online only" relationships. Thus the actual repercussions of being an asshole aren't real. Turn off your computer and it's done. Period. Kick your partner out, crash their car, not buy groceries, end or damage the relationship in one way or another and shit happens.

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

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ORIGINAL: SirLost

Well, if it was that easy to find a convenient partner in our environment without using internet, then CollarMe would be a site only for BDSM couples who had met in real time to discuss about BDSM and other things, not a place where people are seeking for their BDSM partners. I am not wrong, am I? Personally, I've got some disorders that makes it much harder for me to communicate people verbally, that's the main reason I choose online communication.

People seek online relationships because it's easier than actually getting out and getting to know someone. It's that fast food nation, instant gratification mentality. It has nothing to do with the actual ability of individuals to meet outside of the online medium. which is another discussion that comes in the field of psychology and sociology.

boi

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

I disagree with the bolded part. you can have physical reactions, no different than that phone call you may get from someone you have come to know and care about. yes, women can get wet, men can get hard, the physical draw it was starts the desire to meet. without those, and other, reactions, whats the point of meeting at all? for me, no point what so ever. that doesnt mean i wont meet someone i have luke warm feelings for. not every man who made me hot on line managed to produce that came feeling off line. a rare few were able to produce those on line feelings into off line hungers, and beyond.

just because you dont "get it" "understand it" "feel it" ect, doesnt mean it wont work. it just doesnt work for you

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen
I hate that because some people feel differently about something that they want to argue with proven scientific facts. There is no study contradicting the appearance the types of endorphins that occur based on the type of interaction that occurs. None. You won't find fact based, peer reviewed scientifically accepted information on it...no matter how strongly your feel that it may be wrong.

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

I disagree with the bolded part. you can have physical reactions, no different than that phone call you may get from someone you have come to know and care about. yes, women can get wet, men can get hard, the physical draw it was starts the desire to meet. without those, and other, reactions, whats the point of meeting at all? for me, no point what so ever. that doesnt mean i wont meet someone i have luke warm feelings for. not every man who made me hot on line managed to produce that came feeling off line. a rare few were able to produce those on line feelings into off line hungers, and beyond.

just because you dont "get it" "understand it" "feel it" ect, doesnt mean it wont work. it just doesnt work for you

You can disagree with the bolded part all you want, it's physiological fact. Your brain does NOT create the same chemicals as it does for you when on the phone or online as it does when you physically interact with someone. Your brain does not create the same chemicals in your body from on the phone as it does online. It's why online is "addictive", the chemicals produced from that interaction are lacking in sustainability as opposed to the other chemicals that are produced from physical contact or actually hearing someone's voice. This is covered in two of the studies I mentioned.

I hate that because some people feel differently about something that they want to argue with proven scientific facts. There is no study contradicting the appearance the types of endorphins that occur based on the type of interaction that occurs. None. You won't find fact based, peer reviewed scientifically accepted information on it...no matter how strongly your feel that it may be wrong.

What I've stated so far as my opinion comes from understanding the physiological and psychological processes as they have been explained to me and thousands of other psychology students across the country...please feel free to argue with the facts already presented in studies that I've sited. I'd LOVE to see how well your feelings hold up to the APA and other sociological organizations who also site the lack of individuals moving toward healthy "RT relationships as a symptom of the fast food society that we live in.

Facts be damned...I feel differently!

boi