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pyroaquatic -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 3:37:52 PM)

Hmm...

Staple kinks....

1.) Power Exchange
2.)Servitude
3.)Bondage
4.)Protocol
5.)Petplay
6.)Challenges
7.)Pain

These are not in any real order. I like all of these equally. Petplay is something I may be able to go without. Protocol sets structure and mindset so that is something I cannot do without. Bondage is another thing I do not think I can ever go without. Power Exchange and Pain.... got to have that in there too.

Well, I might as well put sex on there too since I get so very little might as well place it as a kink.

"You're a bad cat-man, yes you Are!"

:3



PeonForHer -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 3:38:09 PM)

Careful with those sorts of statements, La T.  Remember those irksome terms and conditions [;)]



sweetsub1957 -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 3:45:44 PM)

~Fast Reply~
If I were to have to pick, the main one would be power exchange.....knowing He is in control all the time.  Then learning about protocol (still don't know alot) next.



LaTigresse -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 4:17:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Careful with those sorts of statements, La T.  Remember those irksome terms and conditions [;)]


Yeah, that's me, riding the edge.



Politesub53 -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 4:45:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I know it makes no sense whatsoever, V, but for some weird reason I just find it embarrassing to say it!


I promise I'll never tell anyone that you love to have chocolate éclairs inserted into your ears.


Sheesh V, as anagrams go, ears wasnt exactly the hardest I have had to decipher. [8D]



Venatrix -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 4:52:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Sheesh V, as anagrams go, ears wasnt exactly the hardest I have had to decipher. [8D]



<Snigger> I didn't mention that the éclairs weren't chocolate before they went in, did I? 

Edited to add:  Thank goodness I hate chocolate éclairs.  I don't think I'd be able to eat one after this.



Politesub53 -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 4:53:29 PM)

For me its talk and touch, whatever else is going on a light touch or whispered word in my ear works wonders, as do verbal commands and directions.



AAkasha -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 5:20:26 PM)



Bondage, especially gags.

Emotionally, anything that causes a man to feel and show honest, uncomfortable vulnerability, while I am being cruelly malicious and sadistic toward him,and he finds that place exhilarating and freeing. I could do without all forms of power exchange, rituals, protocol, pampering, etc. for that.  The rest is just gravy.

Akasha



littlesarbonn -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 6:06:44 PM)

I honestly don't have any specific kink needs or staples that are required for my submission. There are things I really like, like bondage, strict control, snow cones and stuffed animals (oh wait, those last ones aren't kinks...) but not really needs. I think this has a lot to do with the fact that I've been lucky enough over the years to be involved with women who were really into the same things I was, and I kind of got those needs met to an almost extreme at some points. I used to love cages. I slept in a cage every night for several years. I can't say I don't still like it, but honestly, I got a lot of it at one point. No safeword, out of control, domination? Got that several times. It was really cool. Kind of scary. But really cool.

So, these days, I am more vanilla in my bdsm desires, in that I'm generally looking for a woman who is interested in a service submissive who really LOVES to be someone's slave, that has done quite a bit, but is still quite willing to learn and be trained to be what SHE desires. And she's gotta like snowcones and stuffed animals.



(edited because I've somehow stopped being able to write coherent English sentences)



MsStarlett -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 7:26:31 PM)

Flogging. 

Caning and strapping are good also.

I'm really starting to learn that I just can't be happy if I'm not hitting.  I have to have my boy all 'pink' to red all the way up the back and butt at least.  I used to think that any kind of pain would do, but not really.

Just got in from my long awaited visit from Wall-e.  It was fun, don't get me wrong.... but the man can't take a beating for love nor money.  He endures it but does not enjoy it.  That left me feeling a bit flat.  I enjoy that 'power exchange' and exhilaration that comes from the physical exertion of flogging... and some how knowing that I had to 'pull my punches' left me a touch unsatisfied.  Otherwise, it was a great session.  I wish he could visit more than once a year.

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Can't wait to get a hold of my new boy again.  He enjoys flogging almost as much as I do.



LadyAngel1 -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 8:13:46 PM)

A lot of it depends on the connection I have with a specific person.  I have found that things I had wanted from some males I had no interest in doing with others.  For me the only real "staples" I must have are a strong, mutual power exchange dynamic that goes beyond kinky scenes or bedroom play.   

The list of things I don't want that is likley longer than my must have list.  A sincere desire to serve physically and emotionally is at the top of my must-haves...  with that, most everything else is quite possible.



TexasMaam -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 8:48:39 PM)

First on My list would be 'compliance', including the protocol that goes with it. Nothing gets My goat faster than a man who argues with Me.

I thought a long time about the second, and it struck Me as a great surprise that I cannot get along without biting.  I just can't resist a nip or a an edgy mean chomp when I'm in the mood.

Third is the paddle or the whip.

Funny, hunh?

TM



aidan -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 9:16:19 PM)

Hmmm...interesting question.

I'd say at the top of the list is humiliation. I love word play, and I love being teased/made fun of/being treated meanly and I need a partner who can combine those two to some degree. Mistress is an extremely gifted wordslinger and very kinky, so She delights in calling me inventive names and engaging in very humiliating word play. ^__^

Second is physical pain, of pretty much any stripe. Even just biting and scratching and light hitting, up to flogging and caning and paddling. I need that endorphin rush.

I don't know that I need it per se, but I really like anal play and am definitely happier with it than without.



hardbodysub -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 10:16:04 PM)

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I have to always be the one in control...


That's my "must have" - her in control, undeniably. My helplessness. Usually includes some form of bondage, but achievable through other means as well.



slavekal -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/5/2009 10:40:12 PM)

Foot worship and queening/smothering.  Oh yeah...nipple teasing.



seababy -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/6/2009 2:06:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I know it makes no sense whatsoever, V, but for some weird reason I just find it embarrassing to say it!


I promise I'll never tell anyone that you love to have chocolate éclairs inserted into your ears.


Sheesh V, as anagrams go, ears wasnt exactly the hardest I have had to decipher. [8D]


hahahaha! Good one!



Politesub53 -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/6/2009 2:12:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Emotionally, anything that causes a man to feel and show honest, uncomfortable vulnerability, while I am being cruelly malicious and sadistic toward him,and he finds that place exhilarating and freeing.

Akasha



This is an odd feeling for me, part of me wants it to stop, part of me hopes it never ends. I guess thats the whole point of the exercise though Ma`am. It is even more delicious when I am not expecting it to happen.



ignoreme -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/6/2009 3:15:17 AM)

Humiliation



PeonForHer -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/6/2009 3:46:26 AM)

 And she's gotta like snowcones and stuffed animals.

I'm presuming by 'stuffed animals' you mean the sort that come ready-stuffed from the toy shop, LS?  I'm concerned once again about CM's terms and conditions here.  [;)]

. . . I've been lucky enough over the years to be involved with women who were really into the same things I was, and I kind of got those needs met to an almost extreme at some points.
 
*Sigh*.  You are a lucky man. 



PeonForHer -> RE: What are your staple kinks - the must haves? (8/6/2009 3:58:04 AM)

That's my "must have" - her in control, undeniably.
 
Likewise.  I'm assuming that everything else will flow from that.  I just wonder, though, whether I'll develop new 'must haves' as time goes on.  Or fewer of them.  Nah.  I've practised so assiduously on my own that I'm sure I'll get by.  If 'she' won't provide it, I can always slip off to visit Mrs Palmer.

Something I've noticed over time has been that some of the things that I once assumed would be easy for a dominant to do can, in fact, be quite hard.  The 'cool, uncaring ice-queen' thing, for instance.  Humiliating (beyond a certain degree) seems to be another thing.  Those sorts of things seem to conflict too much with other feelings, it seems.  If they don't conflict, it may well be because she doesn't fundamentally feel fond of me, which means I couldn't be with her in the first place.



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