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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/25/2006 6:55:15 PM

littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

It's Sunday morning and I am thinking about oral sex... *g*

I am interested in other people's opinions on this question. Is oral sex a submissive act?

For myself it is not at all. I do not "feel" submissive at all when I perform oral sex for my Lord. I love doing it and I feel powerful and in control. He is often non-verbal and lost in sensation and all because of me. It is a major turn-on! On the rare occasions that he performs oral sex on me, I in no way see that as a submissive act either. When a sadist has his teeth on my clit, I am quickly reminded of who is in control!

So what are other people's thoughts on this?

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It's a submissive act for me if the dominant desires it as part of the relationship. Otherwise, it's an activity that may or may not be achievable in one or other relationship.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/25/2006 8:45:57 PM

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It has been my opinion for a long time that there are few if any acts that are by definition submissive or dominant in and of themselves. To be Dominant or submissive the motivation behind the act must be evaluated.

If I kneel down in front of my slave is the act dominant or submissive? Depends on why I am doing it.
If I am doing it to apply ankle cuffs then that could make it Dominant
If I am doing it to paint her toenails then again the motivation behind the act of painting her toenails has to be examined.
If I am doing it for one reason it could be submissive but one can almost always find a reason for an act that makes the act itself Dominant or submissive.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/25/2006 9:16:06 PM

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i was trained that it was

~lowers her eyes in respect

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/25/2006 9:38:30 PM

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There are many schools of thought on that topic. Myself, I identify mainly as being submissive, and I absolutely adore giving head. I've loved giving head longer than I've identified as submissive.

I've heard that there is a very dominating way to perform oral sex. On the other hand, I've also heard that no good submissive doesn't love to give.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/25/2006 9:55:04 PM

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Giving Oral Sex: If I use the act of oral sex as the result of a long drawn out session in which I have seduced her soul and have her totally sensitized so that her whole body is a mass of raw nerve endings begging for release. By triggering her orgasm in this intimate way, I have achieved her submission again and again….

Receiving Oral Sex: By allowing her to serve me in this was, we have already become intimate and the bonds are forming. When she swallows my cum I can and probably will use the release to bind her closer to me soul to soul…. Nothing like a little sorcery to lubricate the wheels of life…..

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/26/2006 4:31:16 AM

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What if the 'Precious' Lady sits astride Her One's face (whilst He is laying prone) and thrusts herself to His face. This act to an observer is aggressive and in no way does the sub appear to be acting submissively. Is she acting submissively?

Maybe it's just Himself and the way he thinks, but he would never put me into such a position astride him. I know this, because I asked him after I read this post. I'm rather grateful he feels this way because the idea of it makes me very uncomfortable.

Celeste

I know a Dom who does this to his sub at times, he enjoys that it makes her uncomfortable and she says ultimatly it makes her feel submissive as she gives in to his will tho' it is not a fav position for her.

So it comes back to it being the mindset behind the action and not the action itself.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/26/2006 8:02:05 AM

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So it comes back to it being the mindset behind the action and not the action itself.

Oumae

Exactly. As i have said myself, it is the intent which defines the action.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/26/2006 8:07:21 AM

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If its the standard lay back and let me please you then to me its anything but submissive. I control everything in that case. Speed, tempo, depth, sensing when he is getting ready to climax and slowing down only to bring him to the edge many times before climax.

Then of course there is being tied down and mouth f-cked. Or having your head moved for you with his hands.

But no...standard oral is not submissive to me at all.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/26/2006 9:17:04 AM

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greetings

Well...if I may add my view on this. Oral sex is a wonderful expression. As a Master I do use it to see how willing a slave maybe. I will have her kneeling with her arms tied behind her in front of me and see if she is willing by saying "Master, May I serve You?".

I wish you well

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/26/2006 9:51:06 AM

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In my experience, women (in the vanilla world) tend to see performing oral as a NOT being a submissive act, while men see it being performed on them as a submissive act.

And it seems like the opposite with performing orla on a woman ... men see doing it as submissive, and women see their men doing it as them being submissive.

Says I, whatever your perspecitve, it is a win-win for all ;)

fergus

This girl agrees with You...being "vanilla" myself and just really learning about Dom/sub, M/s...i can see how differently this "world" views things. Many of the vanilla women(married or single) view this act as being dominant always and a way of obtaining things they want..sorta if i suck You then You give me this..that kinda deal..but i personally dont feel that way...i Loooove doing it....even seeing You there in the picture makes me think of ways of doing it....i daydream often of men nicely dressed...smelling of wonderful cologne..me kneeling between thier legs...taking my time....submissive?...aggressive?..oooh...i dont care...and girl enjoys having it done to her also...i dont see it as the man being submissive...but always Dominant...i view men as Dominant even when they tell me they are subbies...just my perception i guess...Just seeing the man START to go down makes me crazy..my heart pounds..thinking about what He's going to do...His pretty face..His eyes looking at me...i lose all thought and control...throw in some strong language...a firm commanding voice.....man, im putty in His hands...

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/27/2006 8:00:35 AM

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You are right, redhead....It seems very similar to what happens when one is suckling on a woman's breast. It is a way of nurturing...feeding if you will. I always feel that I am letting her find her nourishment that way. The fact that she enjoys is simply an enhancement.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/27/2006 11:21:47 AM

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Perhaps one way to know how "submissive" an act it is depends on whether it is compelled behavior. I have never enjoyed performing oral on either a man or a woman, but when compelled to do it, the response they give is quite gratifying.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/28/2006 4:48:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

I am interested in other people's opinions on this question. Is oral sex a submissive act?

Hell no! Sometimes, I am at my most Sadistic when performing oral. There's just...just ...so many sensitive bits down there ...and I want to torment each one.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/29/2006 10:38:44 AM

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...and isn't it great!

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/29/2006 3:38:46 PM

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Hell no! Sometimes, I am at my most Sadistic when performing oral. There's just...just ...so many sensitive bits down there ...and I want to torment each one.

~Thorns

LMAO... reading this post gave me flashbacks to this past weekend. There is nothing like the sharp bite of teeth on sensitive spots to get my attention.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/29/2006 7:12:10 PM

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whatever your perspecitve, it is a win-win for all ;)
i can definitly agree with that

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/29/2006 7:15:26 PM

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I dont know if its submissive or not, all I know is that I enjoy it!

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 3/29/2006 7:20:53 PM

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I dont know if its submissive or not, all I know is that I enjoy it!

I could not agree more. I love to give oral sex to a woman as well as recieve it. My wife who is also Dominant enjoys giving as well as recieving. For us it is not just giving it, but a way to tease and torture a submissive while giving it. We love to drive our submissive's wild with it in this way.

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 4/29/2007 9:36:26 PM

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...depends on state of mind, which is endless ..

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RE: Oral Sex - A Submissive Act? - 4/29/2007 11:08:19 PM

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*fast reply*

It will probably always be a submissive act for me. I don't think I would be capable of giving oral to someone else (as far as men go). I had issues with childhood abuse dealing with giving oral, and he was extremely patient with me trying to overcome the flashbacks and panic attacks. In the end, he knew I wanted to beat it, and he wisely took his time with me. Now I do somewhat enjoy it, but I'll probably never be begging to do it or sad because he didn't ask for it. It sends me into an extremely submissive mindset and that I enjoy.

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